Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in whether our husband is meeting our needs and [is] the sort of man we think he should be that we stop helping him to actually do and be all God has called him to be. We seek to shape our lives–and our husbands–by our expectations rather than by God’s Word. A trustworthy wife is one who is concerned more about doing him good than about how much good he is doing her.
Single women do the same thing when it comes to considering prospective husbands. I’ve heard many a single woman complain, ‘All the good guys are taken!’ But perhaps they haven’t considered the fact that marriage done God’s way is a huge component in shaping a man into one of those ‘good’ guys. If we rule out prospective mates because they don’t earn a six-figure salary, or because they can’t conjugate a Greek verb, we do well to examine why we want a mate in the first place. Are we seeking to meet our needs, or are we seeking someone on whom to pour out love? (A Woman’s Wisdom by Lydia Brownback)