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Feb 22, 2011 by

Now that Desiring Virtue has a Facebook page, I am going to be posting less about the blog on my own personal profile page and more here. This will keep the redundancy down to a minimum for those of you who are my personal friends and fans of Desiring Virtue. And let me say, you guys are awesome.

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All of this to say…

I am so glad you are here and pray that Desiring Virtue will continue to be an encouragement to you in your walk with the Lord! It is my hope that these tools will make it easier for you to stay connected.

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Abide: Week 2

Feb 21, 2011 by

Abide: Week 2

I am happy to say that though our family was struck with the stomach flu last week (Yes, that was a lot of fun), Richard and I were able to memorize verses 1 & 2 and are now starting on week two of 1 John.

The BEST thing about memorizing scripture, in my opinion, is the opportunity it gives you to really meditate on the words given to us by God. You read something and think, “Oh yeah, I get it!” and then after a week of memorizing it, you start to realize how much more is really there.

What I came out of verses 1 and 2 with was the impressive truth of God’s manifestation. When Jesus came to the dusty middle east it wasn’t just an amazingly religious man who walked among the Jewish people, it was their God! It was our God! Our God, our King of Kings showed himself physically to his creation. What was once only teaching and holy scripture to those Jews became living, breathing, walking, caring, touching, miracle working, powerful life. Life that they could see and feel. Life that they could almost grasp. I say almost, because it was so unlike them while being like them. How amazing.

This Week’s Verses:

1 John 1:3. that which we have seen and heard we proclaim also to you, so that you too may have fellowship with us; and indeed our fellowship is with the Father and with his Son Jesus Christ.

1 John 1:4. And we are writing these things so that our joy may be complete.

Thoughts and Musings:

The disciples couldn’t simply keep all these wonderful truths to themselves! Instead they desire for everyone else to know this deep life altering fellowship. John talks about how sharing this news with them will make his joy complete. Why does he say this?

John Piper, in his book Desiring God, talks about how sharing God with other people is actually to our own benefit. Take this recent experience I had as an example: Friday night Richard took me to see the Broadway musical Wicked. It was absolutely amazing. I just can’t even begin to describe how amazing it was, But that won’t stop me from telling every person I know how utterly wonderful it was. I want every person I know to know that Wicked is one of the all time best ever, most glorious musicals of all time. In fact, if I was not able to tell anyone about my experience, it would greatly reduce my joy. It would just be this bottled up greatness inside of me that needed to be expressed. Piper makes the point that our joy in things is increased by the way we have fellowship in them with other people. John’s joy in the fellowship he has with the Lord will only be complete when he has shared it with others and they can enjoy it as well.

This brings me to an important and convicting point. If my joy in God directly correlates to my desire to share him with other people, than my joy in God might not be all that I think it is.

Related Scripture:

“These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.” -John 15:11

Did you get a chance to memorize 1 John 1&2? If so, how did it encourage you?

To download your own set of 1 John Memory Verse Cards in the ESV click here to go back a couple posts!

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Early 2011 Family News Update

Feb 17, 2011 by

What’s New?

The start of 2011 began with Hudson starting to crawl! The little boy just can’t sit still. He desires so much to be with Elliot at all times and, much to Elliot’s shagrin, crawls his way into the action whenever he desires now. Though Elliot is not exactly thrilled to give up some of his “alone” time, he is excited that Hudson is more allert and interactive. It isn’t unusual to find them playing on the floor back to back or watch Elliot driving cars along Hudson’s head, Hudson laughing all the way.

Elliot is talking up a storm, repeating everything we say. His little personality is growing and growing and he is becoming more of his own person every day. Every time he hears a noise he says, “what’s that?”. Yesterday while sitting in his car seat he sneazed and asked, “What’s that?”.

Praising Him For His Goodness:

Richard is about to start a new full time job that will provide for our living expenses and health insurance. We are so thankful for this provision from the Lord!

Also, the Lord has provided the funds needed for Richard to pick up some more classes through Reformed Theological Seminary which is a HUGE blessing and something we have been praying for for a while now. He will begin a new class in a couple weeks!

Prayer Requests:

We would appreciate your prayers as Richard begins his new job, starts school again and we settle into a new (and chaotic routine!). Please pray that Richard would be able to put every ounce of effort he desires into his schooling and that our family would be able to support him in every way possible.

Also, we would appreciate your continued prayer for school support. Having the next few classes paid for is such a blessing, and we are looking forward to how the Lord will provide the rest!

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What Makes a Home Beautiful?

Feb 16, 2011 by

Occasionally I decide to pick up an old, but treasured post from the dusty shelf and share it with you once again. Maybe it is the first time you have ever read it, or maybe you have seen it before. In either case I pray that it will be an encouragement to your heart today as it is to mine. Enjoy!

September 8, 2009

As we get ready for another move I find myself thinking about how I am going to decorate my new home. It seems like with each move there is a temptation to buy more “stuff” to make this home look nicer and more beautiful than the last one. I’m thinking about how the furniture will fit in the new living room and whether or not we need to swap some items on Craigslist for others. I’m thinking about new ways to save space because our new apartment will be much smaller than this one is and about what kind of decor changes I want to make in the future.

It feels like as a young family your “style” is always changing as you slowly get to throw out the “hand-me-downs,” and move up to the “slightly used” furniture you find for a deal, and then again move up the coveted “new” furniture and decor. It is bound to be years… maybe even decades before we start buying new furniture. For now we are content to swap our damaged things for slightly less damaged things at a really great price!

As women it is our God-given duty to care for the home and with that assignment comes the responsibility of making the home a beautiful haven for our family and guests. Sometimes I wonder if we put too much emphasis on the “beautiful” part. As I look around at my living room I have to admit, it is anything but a picture from a magazine. There are many things that I wish I could change about it, but simply can’t. As I visit other people’s homes I am tempted to envy their ability to furnish their homes with lovely and unique pieces or I am amazed by their decorative genius. I begin to think that I am doing a poor job creating a beautiful and heavenly atmosphere for my own family and guests. Soon I am making lists of things we “need” and things I need to do in order to remedy the obvious problem that our home is.

It is then, as I am making my list, that the Lord begins to convict my heart. He begins to reveal the layers of envy and jealousy that are the pillars of my desire to have a “beautiful home.” He then shows me the pride that is the foundation of my lust; the desire to be the woman that other women are jealous of and desire to be like. He reminds me of the millions of people around the world who don’t even have a roof over their heads and how one less flippant purchase a month could feed a poor soul who is dying of hunger. He reminds me of Kris and Chelle Stire who are in Albania serving the small, but vibrant church there. They gave up their right to a “beautiful” home and chose a glorious one among the beautiful souls they are winning for Christ. I am reminded of how much more money I could be giving to them and to my own church for the furtherance of the gospel. How retched my soul must look to my Savior when it is filled with selfishness!

It is hard to judge how much of my desire to have a beautiful home is a result of selfishness. Surely much of it is from pride and envy, but a great majority is simply the desire to please myself and my own tastes. Let’s face it, I love beautiful things! My personal style is a sort of “Country-Clean-Shabby Chic” (or at least this is what I want my personal style to be). As of yet, I have not been able to achieve my “dream home look” so every time I pass by a beautiful piece of decor or see something I like in a magazine (ehem… Pottery Barn!) I feel like I need it. After all, I just want to make my home a beautiful and inviting place!!!!

I realize that making your home aesthetically appealing is not wrong and I truly hope that my home is and will be a warm haven for my family and guests. Unfortunately, I honestly believe that when I focus on these desires they take an unhealthy and ungodly role in my heart. The more beautiful my home gets and the nicer things I have, the more I begin to love this world and the things in it. The more I am comfortable here, the less I desire heaven. Yes, I want my family to be proud of their home, but more importantly I want them to yearn for their heavenly home; I want them to yearn for Christ-I want to yearn for Christ!

I also know that the more I desire to be seen as the woman others envy, the more I am promoting an atmosphere of sinful jealousy between myself and other sisters in Christ.

Yes, I want my home to be an inviting and comfortable place for my guests, but I also want their focus to be directed to the Lord and not my fabulous home decor.

God gives to each in a different manner. Some have more income and are able to spend more money on decorating their homes while still being faithful to give sacrificially to the Lord. To others he entrusts a very little teaching them to rely on his beauty and comfort rather than the possessions they can accumulate. But all of us must fight the temptation to call this world home and invest too much of ourselves in it rather than God’s Kingdom. As I get older and my family’s income increases I know that our home will get bigger and become more aesthetically pleasing, but my earnest prayer is that Richard and I would never put those things before our service to our King, and if necessary we would choose poverty over unfaithfulness.

But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself. -Philippians 3:20 & 21

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Abide: Week 1

Feb 14, 2011 by

Abide: Week 1

This Week’s Verses:

1 John 1:1. That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we looked upon and have touched with our hands, concerning the word of Life-

1 John 1:2. the life was made manifest, and we have seen it, and testify to it and proclaim to you the eternal life, which was with the Father and was made manifest to us-

    Thoughts and Musings:

    People often refer to faith as “blind” and in many ways we do have faith in things that are unseen (“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” ~Hebrews 11:1), but according to these verses our faith is grounded on sure testimony. Christ’s life was physical, it was able to be seen, felt, heard. People witnessed miraculous signs and wonders, lives were changed forever. When he left, the disciples were filled with the Holy Spirit, powerful and life altering. John testifies first hand to the Word of life that was made manifest -the same word of life that was with God from the beginning of creation.

    Related Scripture:

    “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” -John 1:1-5

    What are your thoughts on this passage? How does it encourage you in your faith?

    To download your own set of 1 John Memory Verse Cards in the ESV click here to go back a couple posts!

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    The Love of My Life Was Born Today

    Feb 11, 2011 by

    The Love of My Life Was Born Today

    I can’t believe it has been over 5 years since I met my love.

    When people enter your life unexpectedly and then change it forever you just have to praise God.

    How else could I respond to my life- to my love?

    He is everything a man should be. He is everything so perfectly fitted to me.

    The King of Kings fashioned him from his mother’s womb to be the man he is today.

    Every trial, every circumstance, every blessing in his life was preparing him for me, for our children, for our ministry.

    Now he is mine, my love, my leader, my partner in worshiping the Lord.

    I am so grateful for him. I can’t even express my gratitude.

    All I can say is “I love you.” and hope that he understands.

    Happy Birthday Love.

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    Getting Ready!

    Feb 10, 2011 by

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    Wooden Blocks = Rave Reviews

    Feb 9, 2011 by

    Wooden Blocks = Rave Reviews

    Elliot’s Christmas present from us this year was a box of wooden blocks by Mellissa and Doug. Let me just tell you, they are awesome.

    Do you see this little guy to the left? He created this… creation all by himself and obviously is very pleased with his own brilliance.

    What I love about these blocks:

    They are wood. I know you hear me say it a lot, but I just LOVE wood. I can’t  say enough how much I love the durability and wholesomeness of it.

    They are a great “Open Play” item. What does that mean? Well, it means that they can be whatever Elliot wants them to be. This kind of toy is great for the imagination. One day it is a building pictured above, and another day it is a highway for his Match Box cars to traverse.

    The wood is very soft. Edges are rounded and the surfaces are sanded very well.

    They are great learning tools. These will not only be used for play, but for learning fractions and division (the blocks are standard units which means they subdivide into smaller and smaller units, but always stack up to equal the larger ones)

    It is a parent/child toy. This could be a good or bad thing depending on how you look at it. Elliot likes to play with these on his own, but most of the time he wants Richard or I to play with him. I think this is a good thing and love building with my little engineer.

    They come in a heavy duty wooden box.

    It is a great price for a great product!

    The thing I hate about this toy:

    I need more blocks.

    Seriously, you get going and then you just really need more big blocks. So, eventually we are going to need to get another set so that Elliot can build to his heart’s content. This isn’t so much of a problem now because he doesn’t know what he is missing, but I am guessing that the older he gets he is going to want more to work with.

    But I will be happy to comply!

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    “You’re Super Mom!”

    Feb 8, 2011 by

    “You’re Super Mom!”

    When people (my family) found out I made Elliot’s baby food they thought I was insanely cool. Suddenly my mom points went from a good 6 to a full out 9. The funny thing is that making your own baby food is really pretty simple~ as long as you have a food processor/blender you are set to go. Yes, it takes a little bit of time, but it is actually quite fun AND both my babies seem to prefer fresh baby food to the packaged/processed stuff. Also, it can save a substantial amount of money on the grocery bill. So, there you have it-three positives already!

    Simple. Fun. Money Saving.

    We don’t even have to go into all of the other specifics to making your own baby food to know that ANYONE who wants to, can indeed accomplish this simple task. You don’t have to be Super Mom. You just have to want to. -Make baby food, not be Super Mom… though you could want both.

    There is something so enjoyable about steaming fruits and veggies, pureeing them, adding your own spices, coming up with your own mixtures and then putting them in the cute containers of your choice. Trust  me… it is enjoyable.

    But How?

    1. Wash and peal your choice fruit/veggies.
    2. Most fruits and veggies can simply be steamed in the microwave (this is actually better than steaming on the stove top because you can use all of the vitamin rich juices). Just put them in a bowl with a little bit of water (a few tablespoons at the most), cover with cling wrap, and then zap until tender enough to puncture with a fork.
    3. Next transfer them (watch out, it is hot!) to a food processor/blender and… blend. Add the spices you want and more water if the mixture is too thick.
    4. When you achieve the desired consistency, pour (or spoon, this is where I always make a mess) into freezer containers. You can buy special containers for this, use canning jars (pictured above), or simply freeze the food in ice cube trays and transfer into plastic baggies once frozen.
    5. Viola! Super Mom status.

    Now obviously, there are some important things to think about when making your own baby food. For instance: which foods are good to introduce at what age. For that kind of in depth information, follow this link to a helpful site: www.wholesomebabyfood.com

    Money Saving Tips:

    I feel like you save money on most foods, but sweet potatoes are where it is at in the money saving department. You will find the best deals on veggies will be in the frozen food section, and even some fruits for that matter. Apples are the one item that I find to be unnecessary to make at home. It just isn’t worth it. You can get a big jar of unsweetened apple sauce for a much better price than the amount of apples you will have to peal, core, and chop to match it. It is also very nice to be able to add premade apple sauce to your creations to get a nice mix of flavors!

    What is my creation above? Cinnamon Carrot Apple Deluxe! That is right, I added the “Deluxe” for added sparkle. It is one of Hudson’s favorites, and actually Elliot is obsessed with it as well. I can hardly feed it to Hudson without Elliot attacking me. So, finally I thought, “Hey, if he likes pureed carrots he can have them!” He eats it like regular apple sauce and I feel quite pleased with myself.

    So if you thought homemade baby food was only for the Super Moms out there, you were wrong. Put on your apron and get to making your own!

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    1 John Memory Cards

    Feb 8, 2011 by

    1 John Memory Cards

    Do you want to “ABIDE” with me?

    Starting February 14th (The Day of LOVE) Richard and I are going to start memorizing the “Book of Love”, 1 John. I have created a plan that will take a little over a year (don’t stop reading because you think that is crazy!) to complete.

    Why so long? Well, I know myself and trust that two verses is pretty much all I will realistically be able to memorize a week and I want to have time to review… to let those memorized verses sink into the depths of my soul and change it. Each week we will memorize 1-2 verses, depending on the size of the verse(s). At the end of each chapter will be a week completely devoted to review. Here is the plan all hashed out:

    1 John Memory Schedule

    • Week 1: February 14-20 (1 John 1:1-2)
    • Week 2: February 21-27 (1 John 1:3-4)
    • Week 3: February 28-March 6 (1 John 5-6)
    • Week 4: March 7-13 (1 John 1:7-8)
    • Week 5: March 14-20 (1 John 1:9-10)
    • Week 6: March 21-27 (Review Chapter 1)
    • Week 7: March 28-April 3 (1 John 2:1-2)
    • Week 8: April 4-10 (1 John 2:3-4)
    • Week 9: April 11-17 (1 John 2:5-6)
    • Week 10: April18-24 (1 John 2:7-8)
    • Week 11: April 25-May 1 (1 John 2:9-10)
    • Week 12: May 2-8 (1 John 2:11-12)
    • Week 13: May 9-15 (1 John 13)
    • Week 14: May 16-22 (1 John 14)
    • Week 15: May 23-29 (1 John 2:15-16)
    • Week 16: May 20- June 5 (1 John 2: 17-18)
    • Week 17: June 6-12 (1 John 2:19-20)
    • Week 18: June 13-19 (1 John 2:21-22)
    • Week 19: June 20-26 (1 John 2:23-24)
    • Week 20: June 27-July 3 (1 John 2:25-27)
    • Week 21: July 4-10 (1 John 2:28-29)
    • Week 22: July 11-17 (Review Chapters 1 & 2)
    • Week 23: July 18-24 (1 John 3:1-2)
    • Week 24: July 25-31 (1 John 3:3-5)
    • Week 25: August 1-7 (1 John 3:6-7)
    • Week 26: August 8-14 (1 John 3:8-9)
    • Week 27: August 15-21 (1 John 3:10-11)
    • Week 28: August 22-28 (1 John 3:12-13)
    • Week 29: August 29-September 4 (1 John 3:14-15)
    • Week 30: September 5-11 (1 John 3:16-17)
    • Week 31: September 12-18 (1 John 3:18-19)
    • Week 32: September 19-25 (1 John 3:20-21)
    • Week 33: September 26-October 2 (1 John 3:22-23)
    • Week 34: October 3-9 (1 John 3:24)
    • Week 35: October 10-16 (Review Chapters 1-3)
    • Week 36: October 17-23 (1 John 4:1-2)
    • Week 37: October 24-30 (1 John 4:3-4)
    • Week 38: October 31-November 6 (1 John 4:5-6)
    • Week 39: November 7-13 (1 John 4:7-9)
    • Week 40: November 14-20 (1 John 4:9-10)
    • Week 41: November 21-27 (1 John 4:11-13)
    • Week 42: November 28- December 4 (1 John 4:14-15)
    • Week 43: December 5-11 (1 John 4:16-17)
    • Week 44: December 12-18 (1 John 4:18-19)
    • Week 45: December 19-25 (1 John 4:20-21)
    • Week 46: December 26-January 1 (Review Chapters 1-4)
    • Week 47: January 2-8 (1 John 5:1-2)
    • Week 48: January 9-15 (1 John 5:3-5)
    • Week 49: January 16-22 (1 John 5:6-8)
    • Week 50: January 23-29 (1 John 5:9-10)
    • Week 51: January 30-February 5 (1 John 5:11-13)
    • Week 52: February 6-12 (1 John 5:14-15)
    • Week 53: February 13-19 (1 John 5:16-17)
    • Week 54: February 20-26 (1 John 5:18-19)
    • Week 55: Febraury 27-March 4 (1 John 5:20-21)
    • Week 56: March 5-11 (Review 1 John!)

    So do you want to memorize 1 John with me? Richard and I will begin on February 14th and look forward to a year of renewing our vision of what it truly means to love sacrificially. I am so looking forward to the accountability he and I will share and the fellowship in the Word that will naturally come from out joint effort. You can be a part of it too! I made Memory Verse Cards (in the ESV, my translation of choice) to keep us on track and share with you! Today I am going to be printing them on card stock and cutting them out, feel free to do the same!

    You have plenty of time to prepare (mentally and physically) before this plan begins. So, if you have wanted to get serious about Bible memorization and think that 1 John would be a good choice for you as well, print out some cards for yourself (or just write them on some index cards) and get on board!

    I will be posting weekly with little insights from 1 John as we make our way through this wonderful book! Happy Memorizing!

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    Whoever Abides in Love Abides in God, and God Abides in Him.

    Feb 1, 2011 by

    Late in 2010 I wrote a little message in my journaling Bible next to 1 John 4:7 : “I need to work on my love.” Seems simple enough doesn’t it? It should be, but it isn’t. It’s complex, filled with the minute details of everyday life. Love is seeking my husband’s desires before my own, serving my parents when I don’t need to, consistently disciplining my toddler to not push against my authority… it’s hard, and selfless. But God’s words are so haunting:

    “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:7&8

    God IS love. My ability to love is an barometer of my relationship with the Lord. If I know God, I will love. If I love, I will know God. Oh, I have so much work to do on my love; so much work to do on self-sacrifice.

    I decided to memorize 1 John. Its words are like blood to this heart of mine-the theme of love streaming through it. My Darling Husband is going to work with me, memorizing alongside and encouraging my pursuit. We will go slowly, a couple verses a week until this entire letter is fixed in my brain and flows down to my being. I am going to press hard to abide. Do you want to abide with me? Think about it.

    It all starts on Valentine’s Day

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    Dirty Windows

    Jan 28, 2011 by

    She’s looking through dirty windows, squinting through small patches of light.

    The sinners walking by are entertaining, their faults so obvious to her.

    She watches them stumble and wonders why they don’t change their ways.

    Sometimes, she shouts and waves through her windows trying to warn them as they fall.

    They look around, confused and startled, searching for the one offering correction,

    but all they see are dirty windows.

    She knows she could be more useful if only her house weren’t so dirty,

    but that would take so much effort, so much work, so much sacrifice.

    You see, its easier to look through the fog of dirty windows

    than into the mirror of  self examination.

    “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” -Matthew 7:3-5

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    Sundays. The Beginning or the End?

    Jan 24, 2011 by

    Sundays. The Beginning or the End?

    In our culture, Sundays are the end of the weekend.

    They are the last day to get something done before work begins again.

    Most calendars and day planners these days make Sunday the last day of the week, starting your work schedule with Monday.

    What if Sunday was the beginning of your week?

    What if instead of the last day of rest, it was the first day of worship in the new week?

    What if Sunday was completely overwhelmed with the Lord filling up your soul for the week ahead?

    It is hard.

    Sometimes Sundays are the craziest days for us, filled with activities.

    How do you take hold of Sundays? Do you have any secrets to making it a time of Spiritual REST and RENEWAL?

    How do you make Sunday the LORD’S DAY and the prepare your heart for the week ahead?

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    Looking For a Great Shape Sorter?

    Jan 22, 2011 by

    I will admit it, I am picky when it comes to toys. But this one passes all of my standards with flying colors!

    The Educo Shake ‘n Match Shape Sorter is perfect in so many ways. It is made of high quality  materials and is the perfect size for small hands.

    The problem I have with most sorters is that they have removable lids that my genius child likes to… remove and then easily put the different shapes in a big gaping hole rather than using the actual cut outs. This sorter is different and might I just add genius. The opening for you to remove the different shapes is blocked by an elastic band that easily moves to the side when you want to get the shapes through it, but stays sturdily in place with you want them to stay in.

    Another thing I love about this sorter is that the shapes are color coordinated so that the circle shape matches the circle cutout. This aids my little guy in matching them up and gives you the opportunity to teach colors as well as shapes.

    Each shape is filled with little beads that jingle when you shake them and make the “toy” that much greater.

    Did I mention it is made of wood? That is always a big plus in my book!

    All in all, I am give this shape sorter 5 STARS because my little boys love it! Elliot enjoys the challenge of fitting all the shapes in the sorter and Hudson loves the rattle it gives when he rolls it!

    This product is made by a company called Hape which I am quickly falling in love with. All their toys are educational and beautiful! They might just take the place of Melissa and Doug in my heart… might… I will let you know.

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    The Thorn

    Jan 21, 2011 by

    The Thorn

    “I stood, a [beggar] of God, before His royal throne and begged Him for one priceless gift, which I could call my own. I took the gift from out His hand, but as I would depart I cried, ‘But Lord, this is a thorn and it has pierced my heart. This is a strange and hurtful gift which Thou hast given me.’ He said, ‘My child, I give good gifts. I gave My best to thee.’

    I took it home. And though at first the cruel thorn hurt sore, as long years passed I learned at last to love it more and more. I learned He never gives a thorn without this added grace: He takes the thorn to pin aside the veil which hides His face.”

    -Author Unknown

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    One Picture

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    One Picture

    Joy.

    That little apartment was beaming with joy. Inside was a young wife who had just confirmed her suspicions-she was pregnant. Life was blossoming within her and she couldn’t contain the smile it produced on her lips.

    “Hello little one,” she sang as she gently caressed her now precious belly.

    How would she tell her Love? How should she share with him the most wonderful news of their lives?

    She raced to the store to buy a statue of a man holding his newborn baby-she remembered her love admiring it before. Soon she was in her galley kitchen mixing the batter to a cake she would ice blue and pink. She quickly prepared the tiny home for her Love’s arrival, made their favorite dinner and queued the movie to just the right place.

    There was his key in the door. That familiar sound sent excitement through her veins as she put on the most ordinary face possible.

    “I want to eat in here tonight,” she said motioning into the living room where the baked tortellini was sending steam to the ceiling of the enchanted room.

    “Ok, what are we watching?” His eyes moved from the little laptop screen to her coy face.

    “Oh, I was watching Made for Each Other, do you want to keep watching?”

    Always up for a Jimmy Stewart film, he settled into their couch and marveled at the cake. “Wow! What is the occasion?”

    “No occasion, just felt like baking…” Did he not notice the color scheme? Oh never mind he will get it soon enough she said to herself.

    The movie took up where she had stopped it: John Mason opens the note slipped to him by his wife and he slowly grasps that they are going to have a baby. As the couple on screen exchange bewildered expressions the little wife sitting next to her unsuspecting husband presented him with a gift. His confusion fell to the ground with the wrapping as he helds the final clue to his future.

    “No way!”

    “Yes.” She nodded her head through tears and they embraced. That night was filled with laughter and talk of the future. Images of a beautiful child flashed in their imaginations as they spoke of the experiences to come. They threw off any fears that some might suppose accompany such news and thanked their Heavenly Father for the gift of life produced through their love.

    “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.” -James 1:17

    Their child was shrouded with prayer that night. That night in January of 2008.

    Pain.

    It wasn’t normal. Surely she shouldn’t be feeling like this. Is that blood?

    “No, God, please no.” Tears formed pools of sadness in her eyes. She looked out the window and prayed to her Father, but in her heart she already knew what was going to happen.

    The next day the young wife and her brave husband sat in a dark room next to the glow of a computer monitor showing their baby. Their precious baby, so small, so miraculous.

    “It is hard to tell at this point,” the caring voice cautioned, “Usually there is a heart beat, but sometimes not yet.”

    Not yet? Could the young wife cling to those words? “Can we have that picture?” she asked hesitantly.

    One picture. One piece of evidence. Proof that a baby had existed. One glimpse into their possible future.

    They left that room with uncertainty, but the next few days of anguish confirmed the young wife’s heart knowledge.

    Her baby was taken from her. In a war of horrid pain her baby was snatched from her womb. Where life had once been, there was only stillness. In the final hours of February 25th the young mother and the young father she loved lost their baby. A still silence punctuated only by their soft whimpers filled their tiny apartment. Her mother, the bereaved grandmother, sat close by stunned by the utter sadness. What words were there to say?

    Silence was broken by the young mother’s feeble words, “We should pray.” The young father, her love, lifted up their little family to their good God. They asked for peace, for comfort, for joy. They asked for clarity and trust. Their hearts cried out to the One who took their baby, the baby he had given them.

    “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” -Job 1:21

    “Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?” -Job 2:10

    Sacrifice.

    The pain didn’t go away. She carried it with her everywhere she went. It was heavy at first, strong like the waves of the ocean. Each baby she saw seemed to push her back down into memories of a lost future. Push, push, crash, crash. As she worshiped alongside other families on Sundays she silently cried, longing for what they had, longing for her baby, her lost baby.

    But her pain wasn’t wasted. It wasn’t for nothing. Every tear, every longing was a sacrifice she offered up to her God, beautiful incense. She begged her Savior to teach her the lesson he intended for her to learn, that she would have the ears to hear it and the heart to grasp it. She gave him her pain and asked for his strength.

    She asked him to be strong for her and he was.

    “Who is like the LORD our God, who is seated on high,  who looks far down on the heavens and the earth?  He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap,  to make them sit with princes, with the princes of his people.  He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD!” -Psalm 113:5-9

    Every day she grew stronger and slowly the waves got smaller. The Lord brought new blessings into her life. She would never be the same. Her faith was deeper, more real than it had been. She walked through the fire of affliction and was more beautiful because of it. She loved her God with a more natural, more pure love. Her praises were filled with memories of of pain and deliverance; her testimony one that had been tried, tested. She was thankful, thankful for the pain.

    “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” -James 1:2-4

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    Lessons From the Moon

    Jan 18, 2011 by

    Lessons From the Moon

    September 3, 2009

    Richard and I had to take separate cars home last night from church, so I was uncommonly alone for the 40 minute drive. For some reason I didn’t turn on the radio, just quietly drove home lost in my own thoughts. At one point in time I looked up to see the beautiful moon and was reminded of the many ways it is a perfect picture of what it means to be a Christian.

    You see, the moon reflects a glorious light all night long while the sun is away. But the light can never be attributed to the moon’s glory; we know that it is only because of the sun that we can even see it. Without the sun, the moon would be lost and ugly, without any real purpose.

    In the same way, we as Christian’s are meant to reflect the brilliancy of Christ. We are called to give the world a taste of his beauty, but never to claim it as our own. A Christian living in pride and conceit is like the moon boasting in the light it gives to the Earth. A Christian who worships himself and his religious zeal is like the the moon congratulating itself for accepting the sun’s generous rays.

    I might say, “I would never boast about my works or sing praises to myself,” but how many times have I desired the praises of man for the things I did for God? Or how many times have I felt that I would be better for a particular area of ministry than the person who God chose? How many times have I felt I deserved anything other than the just punishment for my sins? All too often the ugly, dark moon tries to sell itself as the beautiful, light giving sun rather than bowing before it and pleading with others to do the same.

    My thoughts then moved to the times when the moon experiences eclipse. This, of course, is when the earth comes exactly between the sun and moon, hiding it in its shadow. It makes me think about how the world can stamp out our light if we are not careful; how the more we look like the world, the more we think like the world, the more we love the things of the world, the less we shine like Christ. When we allow the world to come between us and our King our testimony for him is hidden and our light becomes very, very dim, almost unrecognizable. Sin is alluring and addictive. For every inch you give it, it will dull your likeness to the Son. I don’t want to be lost in the shadow of the world; I want to be lost in the brilliancy of God.

    In the same way, we can come between the world and Christ (creating a solar eclipse) through our sinful, prideful, and selfish actions. The world needs to see the Son, not us, but when we hurt others and neglect the week we take the focus off of the Savior and put it on our own sinful lives. The world looks at us and says, “If this is what God is like, I don’t want to have anything to do with him.” When people see me, I want them to see Jesus, not a “religion” or a political position or a social class. I want to be willing to give up all my rights and desires in order to make the image of Christ clearer in me.

    I also thought about how before you know the Lord you have no hope of ever being anything other than ugly and dark. You are constantly stuck in the shadow of the world, following its course, and completely content in it. You never know the warmth and beauty that the Son has to offer, and it isn’t until his rays touch your cold skin that you begin to see what life truly is. It isn’t until he pulls you from the shadows that you begin to sense your need for his life giving energy. Once you have tasted the goodness of the Lord the world’s offerings lose their luster. Suddenly your life becomes full of joy and hope; it is changed forever because the Light shines in you.

    Yes, when I think about the moon a lot comes to mind, but really what comes to mind the most is the sun. That is how I want it to be for others: when they think about me I want them to think about Christ. Please take a moment to read these passages and have your heart encouraged.

    The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness, on them has light shined. -Isaiah 9:10

    And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord,[1] are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
    [1]Or reflecting the glory of the Lord -2 Corinthians 3:18

    In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. -2 Corinthians 4:4

    In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven. -Matthew 5:16

    I have come into the world as light, so that whoever believes in me may not remain in darkness. -John 12:46

    For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. -2 Corinthians 4:6

    that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, Philippians 2:15

    Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14

    For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. -Ephesians 6:2

    But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. -1 Peter 2:9

    If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. -1 John 1:6

    Then the righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father. He who has ears, let him hear. -Matthew 13:43

    And the city has no need of sun or moon to shine on it, for the glory of God gives it light, and its lamp is the Lamb. -Revelation 21:23

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    Jan 17, 2011 by

    Now Desiring Virtue has a Facebook Page!

    Check down on the right hand side of this page to “LIKE” Desiring Virtue on Facebook and share it with your friends! Thanks for the Facebook love ladies!

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    Are You Already Behind In Your Reading?

    Jan 16, 2011 by

    Are You Already Behind In Your Reading?

    *This post is not for those of you who never miss a day of Bible reading… it is for people like me who tend to get behind.

    “I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.” ~Psalm 119:15

    Constant intake of the Word is vital to my life. Let me share with you the way my perfect day begins: it begins with a perfect morning. What does that morning look like? Me, my Bible, and some hazelnut coffee.

    Reading the Word, Praying to my Father, Meditating on the Lord. These things set the direction of my day. They draw me into the presence of the Lord and send me out with the power of the Holy Spirit to face what is to come.

    Consistency?

    It can be hard to be consistent in your devotional life, but making daily time with the Lord a priority is so pivotal that it should never be given up on. Bible reading plans can be very helpful when trying to keep yourself on track, but sometimes they can also be discouraging. How can that be? Well, think about it. What happens when you get a couple days behind? Suddenly you feel overwhelmed, you have to catch up, you think “When will I ever have time to read 15 chapters???”. Either you simply have to skip over those passages or you soon give up on your plan altogether and revert back to those books of the Bible you find yourself in most often.

    What is the Point?

    The purpose of Bible reading plans isn’t just to finish reading the Bible in a year; the point is to READ THE BIBLE! God wrote every one of those precious words for our benefit, for our encouragement, conviction, and our joy. That is why I have fallen in love with a new Bible reading plan.

    The Plan

    The reason I love this plan is because it allows flexibility and pretty much keeps you from ever coming to your Bible with that sinking feeling of guilt (that sometimes keeps you from coming to the Word at all). It is called “Read Through the Bible Program for Shirkers and Slackers”. Pretty great huh?

    Instead of being organized by dates, it is organized by days of the week. You never check off a date! Each day (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday…) represents a different genre of reading (O.T. Poetry, O.T. History, O.T. Prophets…). There is a selection of readings in each genre about 3 or 4 chapters long for every day. When you are done reading those chapters you simply check them off and come back to that list the next week. Here is the best part: If you don’t finish those chapters it is no big deal, you simply come back to them the next week and finish it up (maybe you start the next selection of chapters and maybe you don’t… whatever you have time for). There are no dates, so you don’t feel bad about it! If none of this makes any sense, it will when you look at the pdf. -TRUST ME.

    This is not a read through the Bible in a year plan. This is a read through the Bible plan. This will help you keep track of what you have and haven’t read. It will help you get to those books that have never seen the light of day… Nahum, ehem? Isn’t that what the point is? To listen to what God has spoken? To be infiltrated with the Word and transformed by it?

    It’s not too late!

    So, if you were wishing you had started a reading plan on the 1st, then this is your program because it doesn’t matter when you start!

    Here is the original source (probably explains it better than I did): Margie Haack

    Here is the link to the PDF file: Read Through the Bible Program for Shirkers and Slackers

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    Getting There!

    Jan 15, 2011 by

    So, what do you think of the new setup so far? It is definitely coming together and I am very excited. I still have some older posts to add and some work to do on the Recommended Resources page, but very soon I will be back up and running. Check back here on Monday for a new post with some actual content!

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    A New Bloggie Neighbor

    Jan 14, 2011 by

    Obviously, things are a little less than… pretty around here. I have finally found the theme I want to use for my new WordPress site, but I need to work on a few things before I put it up. So, here we are with this dazzling layout that I hope doesn’t bore you to tears. I am going to continue posting while I get my new look going, so keep checking in!

    On another more wonderful note, one of my dear friends, Katie, has started blogging and I am sure you will be encouraged by her website: HomeHealthHeart.wordpress.com. Katie is such a sweet and beautiful sister in Christ who’s friendship I truly cherish, so I hope you will take a minute to visit her lovely sight and maybe even leave an encouraging comment! Trust me, it will be a refreshing sight after leaving these bare walls!

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    How Can You Fight Against Abortion?

    Jan 14, 2011 by

    The fight against abortion seems like such an overwhelming fight. How does one become more involved in this movement? Is there anything we can really do that will make a difference aside from running for public office? Yes. There are simple things that you and I can do to make a difference. Randy Alcorn gives some great suggestions over at his website, Eternal Perspective Ministries. I have copied and pasted them here and hope that you will consider how the Lord might be calling you to act as well.

    50 Ways To Help Unborn Babies and Their Mothers …By Randy Alcorn

    Please Note: This article was written for the first version of my book ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments (1992). The book was revised and expanded in 2000 so the references to Appendices are different depending on which version of the book you have. The abbreviation PLA stands for ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments. References to the smaller prolife book published in 2004, Why ProLife? have also been added.

    Direct Personal Involvement

    1. Open your home to a pregnant girl. Help her financially, emotionally, and spiritually.

    2. Open your home to an unwanted child for foster care or adoption.

    3. Volunteer time with organizations helping pregnant women, newborns, drug babies, orphans, the handicapped, elderly, street people, and others in need. Personal care is the most basic prolife activity.

    4. Establish a pregnancy counseling and abortion alternative service that offers free pregnancy tests, counseling, and support. You can often get the very first listing in the Yellow Pages as Abortion Alternatives, which precedes Abortion Services. (For help getting started, see “Abortion Alternatives and Support For Women” in Appendix D or K, Prolife Resources, PLA.)

    5. Donate materials, office equipment, furniture, baby clothes, professional services, and money to Pregnancy Resource Centers, Birthright, Bethany Christian Services, and other prolife groups.

    6. Teach your children and other young people how to say no to premarital sex. Teenage sexual abstinence is not only psychologically healthy, it is the only sure way to prevent teen pregnancies. (Josh McDowell’s Why Wait? and How to Teach Your Child to Say No to Sexual Pressures, and James Dobson’s Preparing for Adolescence are helpful resources. See also the “Prochastity Curricula” listed in Appendix D or Appendix K, PLA).

    Educating Yourself and Others

    7. Become thoroughly informed about the abortion issue. Read ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or the condensed version, Why ProLife? There are many other fine prolife books and videos as well as excellent—and usually free—prolife newsletters. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)  There are a large number of quality prolife websites. The one I highly recommend is Abort73.com .This website is one of a kind, cutting edge, informative and appealing in its presentation. Know the facts so you can rehearse in advance the best responses to the prochoice arguments. Be prepared so no opportunities are missed.

    8. Talk to your friends, neighbors, and coworkers about the abortion issue. Challenge them to rethink their assumptions, and to be careful not to buy into an illogical or morally untenable position. Give them a copy of this book, with some pages marked for their attention. (Refer women who have had abortions to Appendix A, PLA, “Finding Forgiveness after an Abortion”.) Use this book to read and discuss in a class or small group.

    9. Volunteer your services as a prolife speaker for schools and church groups. Use the arguments laid out in this book as your presentation outline. Approach a church or Christian school and offer to teach a course in Prolife Logic and Action.

    10. Call in and speak up on talk shows, and ask for equal time on television and radio stations that present the prochoice position. They often welcome a variety of positions. To say nothing is to endorse what is often an unchallenged prochoice bandwagon.

    11. Students: Write papers, make speeches, and start a campus prolife group. See “Organizing a Student Prolife Organization” under Books on Prolife Strategies in Appendix D or K, PLA.

    12. Display attractive prolife posters and information at your office or shop. You may lose a little business, and gain a little. But the truth will be served, and some innocent human lives will be saved.

    Literature, Visuals, and Advertising

    13. Order and distribute prolife literature. Have it displayed or available at your place of business. Leave it on your coffee table. Distribute literature door to door to influence opinion. An attractive piece left on each porch on a Saturday morning will be read by many. In some areas every home distribution has radically changed community sentiments about abortion. (See Appendix D or K, PLA, for a list of the best literature.)

    14. Donate prolife books and magazine subscriptions to public and school libraries. They are usually well-stocked with prochoice literature—point out that you just want to provide a little balance and make sure the other position isn’t censored.

    15. Use a pre-made prolife slide presentation, assemble your own, or buy a video tape, and offer to show it in schools, churches, to your neighbors and government representatives. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    16. Wear prolife symbols, precious feet pins, buttons, and shirts (Abort73.com sells some attractive prolife apparel). These often stimulate conversations. Use prolife bumper stickers or lawn signs. Place prolife stickers on letters. More than a dozen people see the average piece of mail. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    17. Place newspaper ads, bench ads, and billboard posters. Attractive pre-made ads and beautiful full-size billboard posters are available. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    Letter-Writing

    18. Write letters to the editor. Be courteous, concise, accurate, and memorable. Quote brief references cited in ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments. Some local newspapers have a policy of printing every letter to the editor. The opportunity for influence is enormous. Letters to the editor in a major national magazine may be read by a million people.

    19. Compile a list of names, addresses, and phone numbers of politicians, newspapers, television stations, hospitals, and others in your area that people can contact to express their prolife views. Distribute them widely.

    20. Select the most strategic measures and issues and host a prolife letter-writing party. People can help each other compose informed and succinct letters to the right people and places. Since legislators and others assume there are a hundred others who feel the same way for every one that writes, there is considerable impact from each letter.

    21. Write letters of encouragement to the sometimes tired and discouraged prolife activists.

    Personal Conversation

    22. Refuse any indirect or business support of abortion clinics, and explain your refusal. Boycott proabortion companies, landlords of abortion clinics, and businesses that share space with abortion clinics and abortion-promoters such as Planned Parenthood. Explain your reasons nicely, and they will often take you seriously.

    23. Contact physicians and hospitals that perform abortions and insurance companies that cover them and express your convictions. Be polite but firm, stating that you, your family, and your business cannot in good conscience patronize those who contribute to the killing of innocent children. Does your own physician perform abortions? Ask him; you may be surprised to discover he does. If so, tell him you must reluctantly change doctors. Is your doctor prolife? Encourage him to take a public stand and participate in local prolife events. Share this book with him and ask his opinion of it.

    24. Talk to journalists about your concern that they accurately represent the prolife side in their reporting. Many have never heard an accurate presentation of the prolife position. Until we present it to them, how can we expect them to be fair? Highlight sections of this book for their interest. Many will read what you provide, and some may use the material in future articles.

    25. Talk to teachers, especially junior high, high school, and college teachers. Express your desire that they understand and be able to represent the prolife position rather than ignore or distort it. Whatever a teacher believes is multiplied a hundred times over in his students and those they in turn influence. Give them a copy of ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or Why ProLife? or other prolife books or videos. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    Political Action

    26. Write to representatives and others in government at local, state, and national levels. Be respectful, legible, straightforward, brief, and nondefensive. Enclose attractive prolife literature. The more personal your letter the better. Pre-printed postcards are not as effective.

    27. Personally phone or set up a meeting with your representatives to share your views on abortion. Groups of three are most effective. If possible include a prolife doctor or other professional. Be careful how you come across; show them prolifers are intelligent and rational.

    28. Draft, circulate, and sign petitions for prolife ballot measures, school board members, and so on.

    29. Run for political office, school board, or precinct chairman. Or stand by other prolife candidates with your time and money. The only possibility for there to be long-term restrictions on abortion is if our state legislatures have a prolife majority. Churches and prolife groups should identify and support character-qualified, knowledgeable, and skilled candidates.

    30. Help a bright young prolifer through law school. Challenge him or her to set a goal of becoming a judge. The legal and judicial arenas, as well as the medical and political, desperately need intelligent and skilled prolifers.

    Prolife Events

    31. Picket abortion clinics, hospitals, and physicians who perform abortions. Write a brochure or fact sheet documenting their performance of abortions. When abortions are only part of their practice they are much more inclined to eliminate them to preserve their reputation in the community. But until they are exposed they usually won’t stop.

    32. Make prolife signs for yourself and others. Make them large and attractive, with concise messages such as: Abortion Kills Babies. Adoption, not Abortion. Every Child Is Wanted by Someone. Give Your Baby a Chance to Choose. Please Let Your Baby Live. Equal Rights for Unborn Women. She’s a Baby, not a Blob. We Care; Talk to Us. We’ll Help Financially If You’ll Let Your Baby Live.

    33. Organize or participate in a Life Chain, where hundreds or thousands of prolifers stand on public sidewalks and display signs supporting the unborn and opposing abortion. This is an extremely effective means of mobilizing prolifers and making a clear statement for the children. Many who begin with Life Chain will solidify a prolife commitment and get involved in future prolife activities. (See Life Chain under “Prolife Event and Action Organizations”, in Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    34. Join prolife rallies and marches to galvanize prolife efforts. Have walk-a-thons and other projects to earn money for prolife groups. Get your children involved. They’ll love it, and it’s a great education as well as a family activity.

    35. Attend prochoice rallies as a counter-demonstrator. Be peaceful. The quiet presence of your group and your signs will make others think and lead to conversations with passersby.

    1. Participate in peaceful nonviolent civil disobedience at the doorways of abortion clinics. Or do the legal sidewalk counseling, singing, or praying in conjunction with other prolife activities.

    Abortion Clinic Strategies

    37. Research and write a brochure on your local abortion clinic, citing specific lawsuits and health code violations, which are a matter of public record. Write a leaflet or brochure asking something like, “What Do You Know about the Third Street Abortion Clinic”? Make it neat and attractive, perhaps with a photo of the clinic on the front. Give this brochure to women coming to the clinic, neighbors, nearby businesses, and passersby. Include information from this book on physical and psychological risks of abortion. Or use pre-made brochures specially designed for women entering abortion clinics. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    38. Collect information and initiate lawsuits against abortion clinics. Place newspaper or billboard ads asking, “Problems after an abortion?” Give a local or national phone number to call for medical, legal, or emotional help. (1-800-634-2224, the American Rights Coalition, is already set up for this purpose.) Many abortion clinics have been shut down by successful lawsuits.

    39. Hand out questionnaires and legal information to women entering and leaving clinics. Did you have a doctor-patient relationship? Did the doctor ask you for a complete medical history? Did he explain to you the possible complications of abortion? Did he show you a picture or explain to you the state of development of your unborn child? This will encourage them to reconsider their decision, to seek other counsel, or—if the abortion is over—not to come back for another abortion, and possibly to initiate legal action against the clinic. Include the number of an alternative pregnancy center where they can get complete and accurate information the clinic won’t give them.

    40. Keep new abortion clinics out of your community by informing the public, writing letters to council members, and contacting potential landlords and real estate agents. Abortion clinics mean loss of business and declining property values to everyone due to public sentiment and frequent demonstrations. Those who do not respond to moral reasoning often do respond to public opinion and even more to financial loss. It is usually easier to keep a clinic out of an area than to shut it down once it’s there.

    41. Rent space as close as possible to an abortion clinic or Planned Parenthood office and establish a pregnancy counseling clinic or prolife information center.

    Influencing Your Church

    42. Organize a prolife task force and target key church leaders for influence. Identify pastors and other strategic leaders and speak with them one by one. Give them literature and ask them to watch a video. Recruit prolife activists in your church who will help you formulate and implement a plan of education and mobilization. Ask your church leaders to include prolife activities and literature in the budget.

    43. Set up a prolife table at church with the best prolife literature and materials. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.) The presence of the table itself is a vital reminder of the prolife cause.

    44. Show in church services or classes prolife films and videos such as The Abortion Providers, The Hard Truth, and The Eclipse of Reason. Offer to pay the film rental yourself. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    45. Place a prolife newspaper ad, bench ad, or billboard with your church’s name and phone number, offering your help to pregnant girls. (See Appendix D or K, PLA, for pre-made ads.)

    46. Take your church bus to prolife activities. Many people who won’t go alone will go with a group. Some will discover an aptitude for regular prolife ministry they would otherwise never have realized.

    47. Have prolife emphasis Sundays, with special music, speakers, films, and literature. This should include, but not be limited to, the Sanctity of Human Life Sunday in mid-January. (Special bulletin inserts and materials are available from CareNet www.care-net.org and Right to Life of Michigan, www.rtl.org, listed in Appendix D or K, PLA.)

    48. Bring prolife issues and opportunities to the attention of your pastor, Sunday school class, Bible study, or men’s, women’s, or youth group. Show them one of the videos listed in Appendix D or K, PLA. Provide relevant newspaper clippings and other information to inform your pastor and provide him with sermon ideas and illustrations. Give him ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or Why Pro-Life? as a resource. Instead of expecting him to fulfill your prolife agenda, help him out by offering to be a resource and facilitator for him.

    49. Start a group of sidewalk counselors from your church that go once or twice a week to talk to women outside abortion clinics. This is hard but rewarding work, and you need the camaraderie of others by your side. Some excellent sidewalk counseling materials are listed in Appendix D or K, PLA.

    50. Pray daily for prolife ministries and victimized mothers and babies. Organize your own prayer group, perhaps combining prolife concerns with other vital needs, such as missions. Go to prolife rallies or sidewalk counseling and focus on the ministry of prayer. If the darkness of child-killing is to be overcome with the light of truth and compassion, it will require spiritual warfare, fought with humble and consistent prayer (Ephesians 6:10-20).

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    Is this Desiring Virtue?

    Jan 11, 2011 by

    Ha ha ha. Yes. This IS Desiring Virtue. I am in the process of “simplifying” my blog by moving it to WordPress, but it is going to take a few days before everything is up and running. Please excuse the mess for a little while!

    Jessalyn

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    Knowing Jesus

    Jan 5, 2011 by

    This was the first year that Elliot was able to participate with us in the “Trimming of the Tree”. Needless to say, he LOVED helping carry the balls from their box to our ready hands (which were not always so ready due to the lightning fast speed at which he was carrying them.) Our hands quickly filled up with these simple ornaments inscribed with the names of Jesus.

    Let’s just say, the picture I had in my head of us slowly hanging each ball and reading them out loud to each other… even looking up verses to support a few of them didn’t quite come to fruition this year. It was more like a race to spit out those precious names and hang them on the tree before another ball broke. Ah well, that is the way it goes with a two year old. I am still glad that we have begun this tradition and look forward to next year when I suspect we will have more time to digest each name together.

    Now as I sit next to our little Christmas tree and gaze at names such as “The Founder and Perfecter of our faith” I am reminded of how little I know Jesus. That might sound like an odd statement, but not if you knew what I just read a couple nights ago:

    There is a direct correlation between not knowing Jesus well and not asking much from Him. A failure in our prayer life is generally a failure to know Jesus…  And the implication is that those who do ask-Christians who spend time in prayer-do it because they see that God is a great Giver and that Christ is wise and merciful and powerful beyond measure.” John Piper, Desiring God

    The Founder and Perfecter of our faith. Wise. Merciful. Powerful beyond measure. How little I know my God. I ask so little of him and so much of myself, as though I am the founder and perfecter of my faith.

    Where does Piper get this correlations between knowledge of the Holy God and our prayer life? In an oft overlooked place to be sure. It is the story of the Samaritan woman found in John 4:

    “The Samaritan woman said to him, ‘How is it that you, a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a woman of Samaria?’ (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, ‘If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.’”

    This is the same idea that we get from Matthew 7:

    Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.  Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone?  Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!”

    Do I pray? Yes. But not nearly enough. Not like I know him. Not like I’ve seen him calm a wave or raise a dead man to life. No, if I knew him like that I would ask him for anything and everything-all the time.

    So I am asking the Lord Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of my faith, to perfect me. I want my husband to be able to say, “My wife knows the Lord; she asks him for miraculous blessings on my life and ministry.” I want my children to be able to say, “Our mother knows Jesus; she talks to him every day and asks him to protect our souls.” I want to be able to say, “I know the Lord. He answers my prayers and brings glory to himself through them.”


    I want to know the Lord. Don’t you?

     

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    Time to Take Hold

    Dec 31, 2010 by

    Last year I shared ten questions with you from Don Whitney’s website, Biblical Spirituality,  that are meant to help you plan, assess and look forward to the new year. This year, I am publishing the entire list of questions and I trust that it will be a blessing to you! So take a little time to think about your spiritual life in 2010 and how you want to grow in 2011.

    Take Hold  of eternal life in 2011! (1 Timothy 6:12)

    1. What’s one thing you could do this year to increase your enjoyment of God?

    2. What’s the most humanly impossible thing you will ask God to do this year?

    3. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your family life this year?

    4. In which spiritual discipline do you most want to make progress this year, and what will you do about it?

    5. What is the single biggest time-waster in your life, and what will you do about it this year?

    6. What is the most helpful new way you could strengthen your church?

    7. For whose salvation will you pray most fervently this year?

    8. What’s the most important way you will, by God’s grace, try to make this year different from last year?

    9. What one thing could you do to improve your prayer life this year?

    10. What single thing that you plan to do this year will matter most in ten years? In eternity?”

    11. What’s the most important decision you need to make this year?

    12. What area of your life most needs simplifying, and what’s one way you could simplify in that area?

    13. What’s the most important need you feel burdened to meet this year?

    14. What habit would you most like to establish this year?

    15. Who is the person you most want to encourage this year?

    16. What is your most important financial goal this year, and what is the most important step you can take toward achieving it?

    17. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your work life this year?

    18. What’s one new way you could be a blessing to your pastor (or to another who ministers to you) this year?

    19. What’s one thing you could do this year to enrich the spiritual legacy you will leave to your children and grandchildren?

    20. What book, in addition to the Bible, do you most want to read this year?

    21. What one thing do you most regret about last year, and what will you do about it this year?

    22. What single blessing from God do you want to seek most earnestly this year?

    23. In what area of your life do you most need growth, and what will you do about it this year?

    24. What’s the most important trip you want to take this year?

    25. What skill do you most want to learn or improve this year?

    26. To what need or ministry will you try to give an unprecedented amount this year?

    27. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your commute this year?

    28. What one biblical doctrine do you most want to understand better this year, and what will you do about it?

    29. If those who know you best gave you one piece of advice, what would they say? Would they be right? What will you do about it?

    30. What’s the most important new item you want to buy this year?

    31. In what area of your life do you most need change, and what will you do about it this year?

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    Aren’t You Thankful?

    Dec 25, 2010 by

    As a mom it is so difficult to imagine being the mother of the the Lord. The difficulty is not so much in the “mother” part, but in the God incarnate part. How does God become a man? How does the infinitely Holy One put on the clothes of human flesh? How does the Creator lie helpless at a mother’s breast? It is simply amazing… every aspect of it. This is the miracle we celebrate at Christmas.

    “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” ~John 1:1-5

    Taking the advice of a recent Girl Talk post, I reread the chapter in Knowing God titled “God Incarnate.” First of all, if you haven’t read Knowing God, you must… trust me, you must. Second of all I am so thankful that I reread this chapter (makes me want to reread the whole book…)! Packer covers a lot of material in this chapter, but one of the best parts is this paragraph:

    “The Word had become flesh: a real human baby. He had not ceased to be God; he was no less God than before; but he had begun to be man. He was not now God minus some elements of his deity, but God plus all that he had made his own by taking manhood to himself. He who made man was now learning what it felt like to be man. He who made the angel who became the devil was now in a state in which he could be tempted-could not, indeed, avoid being tempted-by the devil; and the perfection of his human life was achieved only by conflict with the devil. The epistle to the Hebrews, looking up to him in his ascended glory, draws great comfort  from this fact.”

    And the passages he is referring to in Hebrews:

    He had to be made like his brothers in every way… Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted… For we do not have a hight priest who is unable to sympathize with your weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are- yet was without sin.Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” ~Hebrews 2:17-18; 4:15-16

    Aren’t you thankful? Isn’t it amazing that the Lord knows the pull to sin that we feel. The one who can never sin, knows how our flesh pulls us toward sin every moment of the day. We don’t have a God who doesn’t sympathize with us! He knows how we struggle, but he gives us the power we need to overcome sin-the same power he used to overcome it! I am so thankful for this aspect of Christmas. Aren’t you?

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    The Valley

    Dec 20, 2010 by

    Lord High and Holy, Meek and Lowly,

    Though hast brought me to the valley of vision,

    where I live in the depths but see thee in the heights;

    hemmed in by mountains of sin I behold thy glory.

     

    Let me learn by paradox

    that the way down is the way up,

    that to be low is to be high,

    that the broken heart is the healed heart,

    that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit,

    that the repenting soul is the victorious soul,

    that to have nothing is to possess all,

    that to bear the cross is to wear the crown,

    that to give is to receive,

    that the valley is the place of vision.

     

    Lord, in the daytime stars can be seen from deepest wells,

    and the deeper the wells the brighter thy stars shine;

     

    Let me find thy light in my darkness,

    thy life in my death,

    thy joy in my sorrow,

    thy grace in my sin,

    thy riches in my poverty

    thy glory in my valley.

    ~The Valley of Vision

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    September/October/November Family Update

    Oct 25, 2010 by

    Time has gone by so quickly since the last time I posted. That is probably because we have been so incredibly busy with totally random things. Two surgeries (one for me and one for Richard), a move, job searching, the chaos of two little boys under the age of two leaves me sitting here wondering where to even begin. Instead of recounting the kidney stone that I thought would kill me (no really, I really thought I was going to die) or the foot surgery that left Richard incapacitated for a few weeks (which explains why he is not in the adorable “family” picture above) I will simply bring you up to date on the most recent news.

    As you probably know, Richard has been diligently working toward finishing seminary for the past three years. Because he is such an AMAZING husband and father he has been doing this while maintaining a full time job. Progress has been slow and at times very discouraging. It is difficult to provide for a family and pay for school at the same time. For this reason, he has only been able to take a few classes over the past year. With our lease ending in September, we prayerfully considered what our  next step would be. Right about that time, my parents (the wonderful people that they are) offered to have us live with them until Richard is done with seminary. This would free up some money for Richard to put toward classes. Well, we thought about it, prayed about it, talked about it and decided that it was just too good of an offer to pass up.

    So once again we packed up our lives and headed to a new home (well, kind of new). Needless to say, the Lord is constantly asking us to trust his plans and that is all we have really been able to do. We left many people behind in Dallas who we love so dearly, but that is a sadness we are well acquainted with. From Louisville to Fort Worth to Dallas and now to the little town of Montgomery we meet such wonderful followers of the Lord Jesus Christ and share in such sweet fellowship with them. The most wonderful part about leaving the known behind is stepping into the unknown and allowing the Lord to do as he wills with your life. Who knows what adventures stand before us or what relationships will blossom in the days ahead. What I do know is that the Lord is faithful to lead his children, so we simply follow and wait for the blessings to reveal themselves.

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    MMmmmmm…. Chocolate Cake

    Aug 30, 2010 by

    I will be honest… I am not the biggest cake fan. BUT honestly, this chocolate cake recipe is so yummy. My friend Amanda razzle dazzled us with this awesome cake on Friday night and I just had to share it with you. The icing is really thick and fudge-like, so if you like your icing softer, just add more water to the recipe. -But I recommend making it just as it is written. Enjoy!

    Scotch Chocolate Cake

    by Shirley Lanning

     

    Cake Instructions

    1.) Sift together:

    2 cups flour

    2 cups sugar

    1 teaspoon soda

    1 teaspoon cinnamon

    1 teaspoon salt

     

    2.) Bring to a boil and add to the above ingredients:

    1/2 lb oleo or margerine (1 stick)

    1/2 cup shortening

    4 tablespoons cocoa

    1 cup water

     

    3.) Then add and mix well:

    1/2 cup buttermilk

    2 eggs beaten

     

    4.) Bake at 375 degrees for 35 minutes.

    Icing Instructions

    1.) Bring to a boil:

    1/4 cup margarine (1/2 stick)

    4 Tablespoons cocoa

    3 Tablespoons of water

     

    2.) Gradually add:

    1 lb. of powdered sugar

    1 Tablespoon of water to get desired consistency

     

    3.) Stir in:

    1/2 cup Pecans

    1/4 teaspoon salt

    1/2 teaspoon vanilla

     

    4.) Ice cake while hot.

     

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    Three Questions to Ask the Text

    Aug 25, 2010 by

    Do you ever get done with your Bible reading and wonder what it is you just read? It is easy to let your mind wonder as your eyes move swiftly from word to word. Sometimes I am simultaneously reading, planning my day, worrying about the bills, and hurriedly scarfing down breakfast. But reading the Bible isn’t like reading the morning paper (who does that anymore?), it is the very Word of God profitable for teaching, reproof, correction and training in righteousness. Every sentence is important and worthy of my attention, but if I am not careful, reading it can become a task to get done rather than something I expect to transform my life. When I was younger my dearest friend and mentor, Chelle, taught me to ask these three questions every time I read my Bible:

     

    1. What does this passage say about God? Every part of the Bible is a revelation of God to us, even those long genealogies! It is so important to not miss God as we read, because we need to know him in order to love him. I don’t know about you, but I want to love him more and therefore I need to know him more.
    2. What does this passage say about me? Scripture searches our hearts bringing conviction, encouragement, and salvation. While the Bible is the story about a king, Jesus Christ, it is also a story about his people and the way he desires for them to live. It is our job to search this miraculous story for direction in our own lives.
    3. What am I going to do with this passage? In other words, what changes do I need to make in order to live out this portion of Scripture? It is important that we apply everything we learn from God so that we are “doers” of the word, not simply “hearers.” This is where we must translate the powerful truths of scripture into every day life. What needs to change in our speech, home life, work ethic, etc…?

     

    These three questions taught me how to study my Bible for the purpose of growing closer to the Lord. They are not as far as you can go with a text, but they are a great starting point as  you learn to study and apply the Word of God to everyday life.

     

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    Why We Must Dig Deeper

    Aug 24, 2010 by

    I will admit it. When I enter a Christian book store I head directly to the “Women’s” section. There are so many pretty, helpful, and interesting choices there. Not only do many of them answer questions I have been thinking about recently, but they are packaged in attractive, flower printed book covers. My heart races when I discover a new treasure by a beloved author and my fingers skip through its fresh, stiff pages with jubilee.

    Most of the books written by women, for women, about women (in relationship to the Lord of course) have similar content. Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 make up the great majority of pages shared by these authors. These beautiful passages of scripture are some of the most specific teachings for Christian women and deserve as much attention as is possible to give. Besides the basic teachings of these passages (wifely submission, husband loving, loving children, being workers at home, purity, self-control, trust in the Lord, etc…) most women’s books give practical advice and personal experience to aid you in your quest to become a godly woman. These insights can range anywhere from raising children to decorating your home to physical intimacy with your husband. This is wonderful and exactly what is meant when the book of Titus says “older women are to teach what is good” and “so train the young women.” Discipleship from generation to generation is vital to every woman who desires to be the best woman/wife/mother she can be. We need the how-to notes for these passages in order to practically apply them to our own lives. Reading the advice and experience of older, godlier women gives us just that. But, it is dangerous and detrimental, to limit your spiritual reading to this category (or any other category for that matter) of books.

    Just as our bodies need a balanced diet of food, our souls and minds need a balanced diet of knowledge. As women we gravitate toward self help type literature. We are programed to be practical people and love to find new tips and advice that we can instantly seek to apply to our lives. But if we are constantly filling our minds and hearts with “To-Do” or “How-To” lists we will quickly become overwhelmed in our Christian walks. Our daily lives will fail to focus on the Risen Lord and instead focus on reaching goals set by ourselves or an author.

    It is important to remember that being a woman/wife/mother isn’t what defines us, but it is our God and our relationship to him that defines us. If we ever want to be wives and/or mothers who reflect the glory of God we must first and foremost see the glory of God for ourselves. We must dive deeply into the scriptures and into works of literature that explain the truths of God to us so that our minds can be opened to the vast beauty of our Savior and our hearts can be filled with the glory of his love toward us.

    Often this means leaving the familiar and attractive Women’s section of the book store and heading on over to the Theology, Apologetics, or Biblical Commentary sections of the store. It is in these sections that we find the “why” behind the “how” of our daily lives. It is here that we learn why we are called to submit to our husbands (Marriage being a visible illustration of Christ and the church), serve faithfully in the church (God’s plan for the people of God), make our homes and our family our primary priority (God’s creative plan for man and woman), etc… It is within the pages of literature that focus on God that we find ourselves swept away by his holiness and planted firmly on the ground of sanctification. They give us motivation, understanding, and delight. Without a deep and growing understanding of the Lord, our attempts to be good wives, homemakers, mothers, neighbors, church members, etc… are in vain. We will constantly fail and constantly lack the pure desire to change if we have no vision of the Lord leading us ahead in our quest.

    Practical is good. But I want to submit to you that nothing is more practical than theology (the study of God). Every piece of literature you read is putting forth some kind of practical theology, but if we don’t know the theology behind it, we will fail at the practical implications within it’s pages. Am I suggesting that we boycott the Women’s section of LifeWay? Absolutely not. What I am suggesting is that we bravely explore the more difficult and less obvious choices that are thankfully in abundance and by so doing grow ever closer to our Lord before we seek to grow closer to the perfect wife.

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    Use Social Media for Spiritual Growth?

    Aug 18, 2010 by

    I don’t know about you, but I love being able to keep up with family and friends on Facebook. One recent way I have been using Facebook to deepen relationships and challenge my own walk with the Lord is by creating an accountability group.

     

    This particular group is made up of five ladies who want to hold each other accountable to be in the Word every day. Here’s how it works: Every day we start a new message thread that is sent to all five ladies (You can make this process less painful by creating a list for your friends who are in your accountability group*).

     

    Whoever has their time with the Lord first starts the thread. Each person responds to that thread as they complete their reading with one major truth the Lord impressed on them for the day through their reading. This makes sure that you are not just reading to get it over with, but you are actually reading for the purpose of application and transformation. Each day a new thread is started.

     

    There are a few reasons my friends and I have found this method of accountability to be helpful. First, a lot of us are online during the day anyway, so why not do something edifying while we are there? Second, it is a helpful reminder to do your own reading when you get 5 emails throughout the day from Facebook telling you what your friends are learning during theirs. Third, it can be a great check on your priorities…. what business do we have staying connected with friends on Facebook if we are not staying connected with the Lord first? Fourth, seeing what the Lord is teaching others every day is a great encouragement! This will also give you helpful insight into what to be praying for your friends’ spiritual lives. Fifth, you could do this long distance very easily. Sixth, well… you get the picture, there are lots of reasons!

     

    So, if you are using Facebook anyway, why not use it for this purpose as well? It is simple and can have great benefits! I would recommend keeping your group small (2-5 people) so that you can easily keep up with everyone.

     

    *To create a list click on your “Friend” tab and then “+ Create a List” tab. Name your group and add your friends to it. Then whenever you send out a message just type in your group name instead of typing in every name on your list.

     

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    Worldliness

    Jul 26, 2010 by

    I’m thinking about how easy it is to blend in with the people around you.

    “We have a gospel mission: not only to preach Christ but to live in a way consistent with out profession of faith. As women, you can actually detract from the gospel mission by dressing immodestly, or you can enhance the gospel mission by dressing in a way that reflects the transforming power of the gospel at work in you. The humble woman, the modest woman, is concerned about the lost. and her dress reflects that concern.

    Make this your aim: that there be no contradiction between your gospel message and the clothes you wear. May your modest dress be a humble witness to the One who gave himself as a ransom for all.”

    -C.J. Mahaney, Worldliness

    Are you witnessing in the way you dress? Or are you blending in?

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    Jul 16, 2010 by

    I haven’t necessarily had a lot of free time to write, but I have gotten little moments to myself to read some encouraging, challenging, and interesting posts in the last few weeks. Here is my latest round up.

     

    1. Russell Moore always has such wonderfully thought provoking posts over at Moore to the Point. I have read two such posts recently. The first was called “Ecological Catastrophe and the Uneasy Evangelical Conscience.” This was a great post about the oil spill and how Christians don’t always respond to environmental catastrophes well. The second post was a heart breaking post called “Abba Changes Everything” This was published in Christianity Today’s July issue and is a great piece on adoption.

     

    1. Another great author I have been enjoying lately is Jasmine Baucham. She not only has a blog of her own, but contributes to Ladies Against Feminism regularly. This post titled “A Dream Deferred” is a personal testimony of bringing your “dreams” under the authority of the Lord with the rest of your life. It is a great piece that focuses on combating the world’s philosophy of making any sacrifice necessary to pursue your “dream.”

     

    1. Just for fun, here is a yummy post on making your own pizza dough (even stuffed crust!) over at Raising Homemakers

     

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    Jul 15, 2010 by

    Imagine me rocking not only this 30 pound “baby,” but my precious 7 pound newborn as well. Now, imagine that both of them are screaming at the top of their lungs and the only thing calming them is the rhythmic sway of my fabulous glider and the gentle “shooshing” of this barely-holding-it-together-mommy. Such was my day yesterday. If anyone had walked into my apartment at that moment they probably would have laughed at me. Either that or they would have made some “wise” comment about having two children under the age of two. But when each of my beautiful boys felt secure in my arms and as their breathing finally began to even out, they slowly drifted off into peaceful sleep. At that moment (as in so many others) this thanks-filled-mommy offered up praise to her maker, the one who created these perfect blessings.

     

    So this is the way things have been going lately. Slowly, ever so slowly, I am adjusting to being the mother of two and even slower than that, I am gaining mastery of my home again. So, if you don’t see me around here very often you will know why. I am probably reading Goodnight Moon to my little boy for the unteenth time, or changing my spit up soaked blouse for the second time that day, or possibly, just possibly I am vacuuming our Gold Fish-littered floor. Most likely I am changing a diaper (early potty training tips anyone?) or nursing my sweet little Hudson. But whatever I am doing, I am loving it and praying that it honors the Lord.

     

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    Jul 6, 2010 by

    Last night my sister-in-law and I were talking about how envious we can be of couples our age who already have homes (house homes, not apartment homes). After all, we could be such better hostesses if we just had more room to fit more people. For instance, just think of the wonderful holiday dinners I could host if I had a table that sat more than four people! We noted that the desire to have a house doesn’t usually poke up its head until we are visiting someone else’s house… then our apartments are seen for what they really are: depressingly small.

    “Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.” -Galatians 5

    Have you ever realized that you just can’t live without something even though you’ve been living without that very thing just fine? It seems like the sins of envy and discontent are permanently hibernating within my soul waiting to be awakened by the sight of a sparkly new toaster, a smart phone, a house, a larger dining room table. My life is happy and peaceful until my eyes lay hold of a new item that I simply must have. Then the turbulence rises within my heart and cries out “I really really need that;” my thoughts begin to revolve around it, and soon I am enslaved to it.

    About a month ago I was helping my brother and his wife move into their new apartment down the road. It is their first home together and they have tons of beautiful, new kitchen utensils and appliances. I couldn’t help but envy their sharper than sharp knives or their four slotted toaster that has an option for bagels! Soon everything I had in my kitchen seemed like garage sale fodder.

    “For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.”-Ephesians 5

     

    What do we say about God when we have such thoughts? Surely when I spurn the things he has given me and chase after the things he has withheld I proclaim loudly that he hasn’t given me the good stuff. If he hasn’t given me the good stuff, then is he good?

    “Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” -Matthew 6

    God is good. Good is God. He defines what is perfect and beautiful and lovely. His very nature is all that is good. He doesn’t give out second rate blessings or less than wonderful gifts. All that I have is from him and therefore it is perfect. He is the only one who knows me for who I truly am. He knows my needs, desires, and my shortcomings. Not only that, but he knows my future! His gifts are perfect because they come from the one who knows exactly what I need and when I need it. Just as he gives me what I truly need, he withholds the things I don’t need. He doesn’t just have my desires in mind, but my soul, my good.

    Laying in bed last night, staring into the face of my beautiful little boy (peacefully sleeping in the co-sleeper next to me), I thanked God for the countless gifts he has given me. From the important ones like my sons to the simple ones like a comfortable bed to sleep in. He has withheld nothing from me, nothing that is for my good. I’ve got plenty of the good stuff.

    “I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” -Philippians 4


     

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    Jun 18, 2010 by

    Ahhh, it’s been so long since I have given you some good bookmarks. Today I have quite a few of them for you. There is so much good stuff out there, so many interesting topics to read about!

    1.) First I have a link to Passionate Homemaking (have you noticed that I visit there a lot?). Kat wrote a helpful post for mothers titled “10 Keys to Patient Motherhood”. Most of the tips are pretty strait forward, but it is still helpful to be reminded of them!

    2.) Here is a great post from Ladies Against Feminism about the tragedy of Christian women marrying unbelievers. “A Place in the Paradigm” explores the motives behind such a decision and how we, as a Christian community, can help guard against such decisions.

    3.) Do you believe that you can still dress feminine while wearing pants? If you do, here is a great post from Empowered Traditionalist on how to wear those pants while maintaining a certain amount of “frill.” I like this article titled “Pants and Femininity” because I too often fall into the t-shirt and jeans category, which does not leave me feeling very womanly!

    4.) Last, but not least, here is a small, but encouraging post from Raising Homemakers called “Embrace Homemaking-Be Busy At Home”. If you are feeling overwhelmed by your calling to be a homemaker I think you will find some inspiration there.

    Well, there you have it! I hope you enjoy these posts and have a great weekend. I will be enjoying the company of my Grandmother this weekend as she visits our new little boy.

     

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    What to Pack for the Hospital; PT 2

    Jun 17, 2010 by

    Yesterday we looked at a list of items that my friends and I feel are “Must Haves” while at the hospital. Today we are going to look at some items that aren’t as imperative, but will make your stay way more comfortable and maybe even a little bit like a small vacation… ok, so a vacation might be a little over the top, but you know what I mean!

    The Luxuries:

    • A Robe. A nice, comfortable robe can not only help you keep covered up, but keep you warm!
    • Books and Games. You never know how long your delivery will take or how long you will be stuck at the hospital. Reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond can get old, so you may want to bring some reading material, cards, etc… to keep you and your husband entertained.
    • Quarters. Bringing a few dollars in quarters will help your hubby get some drinks and snacks from the vending machine.
    • Laptop (and other electronics). For some people this is a must have, but for others it is a luxury. Again, the point being to post pics online while you stay at the hospital…. or even do a blog post!
    • A Snack Bag for Guests. In the must haves I mentioned bringing snacks for you and your husband, but one of my friends mentioned providing snacks for guests. This would be especially thoughtful if you have a long delivery and a bunch of family waiting on baby’s arrival.
    • A Comfortable Nursing Bra. Wearing a bra in the hospital will make you feel more… presentable and will keep those hugs from being too awkward! (of course you will just have to deal with this until after the delivery because you aren’t allowed to wear anything under your hospital gown.)
    • A Journal. Taking a few moments to record your thoughts and emotions as you bring a life into this world will be something you treasure for the rest of your life-and something your child treasures as well!
    • Clothes For Your Little One. The hospital will automatically put simple white shirts on your baby, but these tend to be worn out and old looking. If you picture your baby wearing special newborn outfits during his/her stay, you will need to bring them.
    • A Baby Blanket. You will be given receiving blankets, but you may want to bring something snuggly for your little one as well!
    • A Boppy Pillow. This one item will make nursing much easier (especially if you are a first time mommy)!
    • Thank You Notes. Might as well use the time for something you will have NO time for when you get home!

    Do you have anything to add to these lists? Share your “Must Have” or “Luxury” item in the comments for others to see!

     

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    On Motherhood and Tiny Men

    Jun 15, 2010 by

    Who am I that the Lord would give me the responsibility of raising these precious tiny men? Surely he knows my weakness, my selfishness, my laziness. Surely he has not forgotten the many times I have brought shame upon his name or the times I have worshiped other gods. No, of course he has not forgotten. Yet, he has chosen this foolish woman to care for and nurture the souls of these precious little ones. This quest will test every inch of me and bring me to the cross time and time again.

    Oh Lord, may I never attempt to raise these men without your Spirit. May my heart cling to the power you have lavished upon me through your Son as I strive to impart wisdom and discipline. May they grow up to be men who glorify your name and fight for your Kingdom, your honor. Let these tiny feet go to nations in need of the light of the gospel; let these little hands care for the poor and needy; let these wide eyes gaze upon the beauty of the Savior and be moved by it. May their voices be filled with the words of the Most High God and their actions driven by them.

    It is a weighty task to raise tiny men into mighty Christ-followers, weighty and honorable. My strength is nothing and my talents are worthless… it is Christ who must take up this task through me and I who must fade into the background of my life. He is the one who will nourish their souls, who will give wisdom and insight to their minds. He will love them as they could never be loved by another and will show them the path of godliness. I am simply a vessel for the Lord to use as he wills in the lives of my tiny men.

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    What to Pack for the Hospital; PT 1

    Jun 15, 2010 by

    Living at the hospital for a couple of days after your baby is born can be uncomfortable to say the least. Not only are you hooked up to machines half the time, but you are being checked on, talked to, and prodded every couple hours. People are going in and out of your room constantly and your husband is probably trying to sleep on a very uncomfortable “bed.” When packing for this glorious stay at the hospital you may be wondering what to bring. What are the necessities and what are the luxuries that you will want to have with you? How should you prepare for the first couple days of your little one’s life?

    There are definitely certain items that you MUST have, but then there are the items that no baby book will tell you would be WONDERFUL to have. For this reason I asked a few of my friends who have also recently had babies in the hospital to share their wisdom and advice with us on what to bring to the hospital. Thank you Joelle, Sky, and Monica for your helpful input. I am sure that many other ladies will benefit from your practical advice! Today we will begin with the items you will really want to have with you.

    The Must Haves:

    • “Fat Pants”. Big, comfortable sweat pants you can wear after you are allowed to switch from your hospital gown.
    • A Guest Book. You will have lots of guests visiting your new baby (and you of course), it is nice to have a record of who came and if they brought any gifts (for those thank you cards!).
    • A Camera. Make sure you have everything you need like extra batteries and film (if you still use film…. anyone?); you don’t want to miss a single adorable moment!
    • Slippers. Those tile floors can be chilly!
    • Chapstick. No water means your lips will be dry!
    • Nursing Night Gowns. When you are allowed to change out of that hospital gown you will want to wear something that is easy to nurse in and will still give the doctors easy access for check ups.
    • Cell Phone and Charger. You will want to send out that mass text message when baby arrives and you may also need it for an alarm clock!
    • Video Camera. If you have one, bring it! You will be able to capture some sweet moments with your little one.
    • A Few Options of Clothing for the Ride Home. You never know what will fit well and what will be uncomfortable until the day you are ready to leave the hospital so give yourself a couple options. *see note on “Fat Pants.”
    • Snacks. Let’s face it, hospital food is TERRIBLE. Aside from family and friends bringing you glorious food from your favorite restaurant you will want some good snacks to munch on.
    • Personal Care Items. Make sure to pack shampoo, conditioner, facial soap, your blow dryer, straightener, etc… It is nice to feel “put together” while you are receiving guests and having pictures taken of you constantly.
    • Makeup. See above note on personal care items.
    • Your Own Pillow.
    • Your Own Blanket. Bring something think to put over the paper thin blanket the hospital provides. I brought two fleece throw blankets, one for me and one for my husband and I was so glad I did.
    • Your Laptop… if you want to put photos online while you are still in the hospital.
    • A Husband Bag. Don’t forget about your dear husband… he needs clothes and pajamas as well!
    • A Nursing Cover. A baby blanket will do, but make sure you bring something you can hide behind when the unexpected visitor arrives.
    • BIG COMFY UNDERWEAR. They need to be able to fit a HUGE pad in them! (Helpful tip: in the case of a unexpected C-section, you may want to include a pair of high rise underwear so that the elastic doesn’t rub against your incision.)
    • A “Going Home Outfit” for Baby. Pack something small and cute for your little one!

     

     

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    Recipe: Southwest Roll Ups

    May 21, 2010 by

    Recipe: Southwest Roll Ups

    I love this easy recipe I found at MoneySavingMom.com. It is simple to put together and great for a quick lunch you can just pull out of the freezer. Instead of reheating them in the oven, I just stick them in the microwave for 2:30-3 minutes each.

    Southwest Roll Ups

    Ingredients:

    Directions:

    1. Mix together beans, salsa, and chicken. Spread 1/8 of mixture onto one tortilla. Sprinkle with cheese. Roll up and turn ends under. Stick in a freezer bag or in a 9×13 baking pan and freeze.
    2. When ready to bake, thaw and bake in a pre-heated 350 degrees oven for 20-30 minutes until heated through. Sprinkle with more shredded Cheddar cheese, if desired. Serve with salsa.

     

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    I wasn’t able to get these up last week, but they are just as good today! Sit back, grab your coffee and enjoy my favorite picks from last week.

    What Not to Say to Those Who are Suffering

    @CCEF by Ed Welch

    ‘“It could be worse. Imagine if you broke both legs.’

    We have some odd ways of cheering each other up.

    Most of our bone-headed comments to suffering people are offered with passable intentions, and most of those comments are judged by their recipients as misguided rather than malicious, but it sure would be nice to improve our record of encouragement in the midst of pain.

    We could all generate a Top Ten List of words we spoke or received that make us shudder when we think about them. Here is one that, I suspect, makes a lot of lists.

    ‘What is God teaching you through this?’

    Hmmm. This is orthodox. God does teach us in our suffering, and he is working all things together for good. We agree with C.S.Lewis when he writes that pain is God’s megaphone to arouse a deaf world. But the story of Jezebel and her entrails being food for the dogs is orthodox too. We are after orthodoxy that is relevant, pastoral and edifying…”

    To continue reading this article click here!

    Deliciously Homemade Granola Bars

    @the Motherload

    These look absolutely delicious! I can’t wait to make them.

    To see the picks and recipe click here!

    Create a “When Mama Gets Sick” Kit to Help Your Home Run Smoothly

    @Passionate Homemaking

    “…Mama needs a backup plan.

    Jimmy did a great job, don’t get me wrong. Since he works from home, he has a good idea of how things run around here and he took care of things like a champ, but it was hard on him. I want to plan in advance so, should anything like this happen again (may it never, ever be), we’ll be prepared. And it will be easier on everyone.

    So I’ve decided we need a “If Mommy Gets The Black Plague Again Kit.” Here’s what it will contain:

    1. Frozen meals

    Make sure there are always at least a weeks worth of meals in the freezer. It would have been much easier if Jimmy hadn’t had to come up with a meal every single night. It would have been nice if he could have just pulled something out of the freezer to heat and serve…”

    To continue reading this post click here!

    40 Ways to Ruin Your Financial Life By Age 30

    @Frugal Dad

    “It was not until I reached 30 that I started to turn my own financial life around. Unfortunately, by then, the damage was done. In retrospect, I often knew the decisions I was making were not-so-smart, but I did them anyway because I could always “pay it off later” or “just save more money when I’m older.” One of the cruel facts of life is that it gets harder when you get older.

    Hopefully, by sharing a few of these bad money moves, it will prevent others from doing the same. And don’t worry, if you are over 30 and still doing these things, it is never too late to start living frugal…”

    To continue reading this post click here!

    Let me know what you think!

     

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    How to Properly Load a Dishwasher

    May 19, 2010 by

    I don’t know about you, but I hate it when I open the dishwasher to find that my glasses and bowls are still dirty! Usually I just blame the dishwasher or the detergent, but sometimes it is my fault. I must have missed the memo about a “correct” way of loading the dishwasher, but apparently there is. I did some research and compiled a list of tips to help make your (and my) dishwasher more efficient. Some of these tips you may already know, but some you may not, so take a look and share your own tips if I missed anything!

     

    1. Quickly rinse dishes before putting them in to get the chunks of food off.
    2. Put glasses, coffee mugs, plastic containers, and large utensils in the top rack of the dishwasher to keep them from breaking or melting.
    3. Place bowls down the center of top rack.
    4. Make sure to put glassware (as well as sippy cups!) on prongs so that they are held in place better.
    5. If you are washing fragile items leave space between each of them to ensure they don’t vibrate against each other during the wash.
    6. Dishes, large bowls and other items that need greater water pressure go on the bottom rack.
    7. Put cookie sheets and platters along the sides of the bottom rack so they don’t prevent water flow.
    8. Face items like plates in the same direction, facing toward the middle for best water flow.
    9. Put pots and dishes with baked-on food  in the bottom rack facing down so that they get as much water pressure as possible.
    10. Load silverware with handles down (except for knives….point them down) in the basket provided.
    11. When loading utensils into their compartment mix them up so that all the spoons don’t “spoon” each other and trap food and grease.
    12. Make sure that large or tall items do not hinder the washing arm from rotating freely when the tray is pushed in.
    13. Don’t place large/tall items near the front or they may keep the detergent cup from opening during the cycle.
    14. Don’t put extremely large bowls and pots in the dishwasher and expect your dishes to come out looking clean. Why? All the water is being trapped in those few items and not reaching the others. As sad as it sounds, wash them by hand.
    15. A full dishwasher runs best, so fill it up before running.
    16. Fill both cups with a good dishwasher detergent.
    17. If necessary use a rinse agent.

    Some of these tips were shockers to me. For instance, I love separating all of the utensils into their own compartment (mostly because it makes putting them away easier), but this truly does limit their ability to get clean. I will admit that I have put HUGE pots into the dishwasher hoping that they (and the rest of my dishes will get clean), but they never do… I always end up hand washing them anyways. So, here’s to more productive dishwashers–and happier operators!

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    The Resurrected Life

    May 18, 2010 by

    “For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his. We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. For one who has died has been set free from sin. Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. We know that Christ, being raised from the dead, will never die again; death no longer has dominion over him. For the death he died he died to sin, once for all, but the life he lives he lives to God. So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” ~Romans 6:5-11

    Last week was hard.

    Pregnancy was weighing.

    Elliot was crying.

    I was tired.

    Elliot was teething.

    I was frustrated.

    Elliot was screaming.

    I cried.

    Then I read this post and was reminded of my Savior.

    I was reminded of Romans 6:5-11 and Colossians 3:1-4.

    “If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.~Colossians 3:1-4

    The Holy Spirit made my spirit rejoice when I didn’t want to.

    My heart found its footing at the side of my resurrected King.

    My God reminded me of my resurrection.

    And that was more than enough.

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    My Most Perfect Baked Mac ‘N Cheese

    May 11, 2010 by

    I am obsessed with Macaroni and Cheese. I like it in any form. Straight from the blue box or from a fancy Italian restaurant. You just can’t go wrong with its creamy, cheesy, goodness. It IS the ultimate comfort food-don’t even try to fight me on it.

    When I am not making it from the blue box for lunch, I usually bake it for when we have company over. It gives it an air of formality and pairs well with a salad and bread. My favorite recipe? One that I have perfected over time from a Kraft recipe. The great thing about it is that you probably have most of the ingredients in your pantry and fridge already. Additionally, you will not need any measuring utensils to make this perfect dish.

    Jessalyn’s Most Perfect Baked Mac ‘N Cheese

    Ingredients:

    • One box Kraft Deluxe Macaroni and Cheese (whichever flavor you prefer)
    • Shredded Cheddar Cheese
    • Milk
    • Sour Cream
    • 5 strips of cooked Bacon
    • Salt
    • Pepper
    • Cayenne Pepper
    • Ritz Crackers
    • Butter

    Directions:

    1. Make Macaroni and Cheese according to box directions. (Do not overcook noodles. Keep in mind that they will cook longer in the oven as well, so a little-too-hard noodles are better than a little-too-soft noodles.)
    2. Mix in two big handfuls of cheddar cheese.
    3. Add a splash of milk.
    4. Add two big spoonfuls of sour cream (about 8 oz.).
    5. Rip bacon into inch long pieces and add to mixture.
    6. Mix in salt and pepper to taste.
    7. Pour mixture into a greased, glass baking dish.
    8. Sprinkle sparingly with pepper and cayenne pepper.
    9. Crush Ritz Crackers over the top of Mac ‘N Cheese until the entire surface is covered.
    10. Sprinkle again with cayenne pepper (mostly for looks….if you think this will be too hot you can substitute paprika at this point).
    11. Melt a stick of butter.
    12. Pour melted butter over Ritz topping.
    13. Cover with tin foil.
    14. Bake at 375 degrees for approximately 25 minutes or until edges are boiling.
    15. Uncover and bake until top is golden brown.
    16. Let sit for 10 minutes before serving.
    17. Enjoy!

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    Motives and Methods… a look at birth control (Pt.4)

    May 7, 2010 by

    Last Thoughts

    My purpose in doing this series has been to challenge the culturally accepted use of abortive birth control methods and to look into the heart of our dependence on them. I have done a somewhat adequate job on the first point, but today I want to take a few moments to focus on the second point. If it is true, which I believe the evidence clearly proves (if you haven’t already, please read this and this), that the pill and other forms of hormonal birth control methods could abort a fertilized egg, then why do so many Christians still use them? Here are some common objections that people raise to abandoning methods like the pill and responses to them:

    “If God wants us to get pregnant, then he can surely work around the birth control method we have chosen.”

    Yes this is true, and many times he does (most of us know people who have gotten pregnant on the pill), but it does not in any way lessen our own responsibility for the life/lives of the child/children we could be unknowingly aborting through knowingly taking a substance that could keep a fertilized egg from implanting. The analogy of not buckling your child into a car seat while driving does not adequately represent this choice. It is more closely related to not putting them in a car seat and then purposefully driving recklessly on a busy highway. God can keep your child safe in such a situation, but he doesn’t have to, and he doesn’t always.

    We are not taking the pill with the intention of aborting a baby… our intention is to prevent conception of a baby, which the Bible does not prohibit.”

    Intentions are important, but they don’t change the reality of what is going on in our bodies. If we know that something we are doing has the possibility to kill a baby, then our “intentions” are naive at best. A helpful analogy would be the alcoholic mother who doesn’t intend to hurt her developing child, but doesn’t mind taking the risk involved in constantly subjecting her child to a substance that is known to have harmful effects on developing children. Once a woman knows about the possible abortive effect of the pill (or any other birth control method that works in the same way) she is responsible for that  knowledge and must follow the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

    “We can’t really know when a baby’s life begins; what if an embryo isn’t even a baby until it actually attaches to the uterus?”

    It is true that we know very little about when a person becomes a person. When does God create a soul from a sperm and an egg…? These are impossible distinctions to make. Most secular physicians have redefined a true pregnancy to the embryo who has successfully attached itself to the uterus. Yet, even before that pivotal moment the child has a unique DNA that is a combination of the father and mother’s. It has a gender and is already developing and increasing in complexity. The mere fact that we can’t put our finger on when exactly that zygote becomes (or has already become) a person should lead us to be very careful and conservative in our speculations. The same dehumanizing logic is used by those who support early term abortions and should be strictly guarded against. It seems as though the safest place to mark the beginning of  a new life is when the two distinct objects (a wife’s egg and husband’s sperm) combine to form a completely new creation-one that is unique from both the mother and father. This zygote (quickly developing into an embryo before it reaches the uterus) is not just another part of the woman’s body, it is now a distinct body within the mothers.

    “We need the certainty of a certain kind of birth control in order to plan our family responsibly.”

    The introduction of the pill, IUD, etc… into society created a sense of security and control for women and their sexual partners. Their effectiveness gave couples the very real option of putting off children for as long as they felt it necessary. The link between sex and reproduction has in many ways been severed due to their extreme effectiveness. This kind of mindset has certainly infiltrated the Christian community as well. The risk of getting pregnant, even while using other purely contraceptive methods, is seen as a negative predicament while the certainty of the pill is seen as a blessing. We tend to get married young (a great thing!), but purposefully put off children until we are comfortable adding them to our lives whether for careers, monetary reasons, passions, ministry aspirations, etc…. simply because we have the ability to (thanks to methods like the pill). These things are not necessarily wrong in and of themselves, but if the method you employ to put off children has the potential to kill children in the process, it must be abandoned no matter what its positive attributes might be. Furthermore, if discontinuing the use of a potentially sinful birth control method is difficult because of fear for the future or a distain for children interrupting your life, you may want to do some studying on what the Bible says about those concerns.

    “If I don’t use this particular birth control method I will inevitably get pregnant.”

    A doctor once laughed as he told me, “You know what they call women who don’t use birth control… pregnant!” He was referring specifically to the pill in that case. There are other ways to prevent pregnancy such as condoms, cervical caps, and the rhythm method, but it is true that they are less reliable, less effective, and sometimes less convenient. I know couples who were able to put off children for years using the rhythm method and condoms, but also know women who this has not been as effective for. I see three different issues at the heart of this concern: 1.) Willingness to do whatever the Lord convicts you of no matter what the consequences (such as getting pregnant sooner than desired); 2.) Trust in the Lord’s plan and provision for your life if you were to get pregnant; 3.) Believing that the Lord was not lying when he called children a blessing and not a burden to be avoided at any cost.

    These are just some of the common concerns I have heard from those who are confronted with the information included in my earlier posts. My heart here is not to make them sound trivial in any way. My desire is to dig beneath the concerns and look into the motives of making the choice to take a substance that could cause an abortion. It is my adamant opinion that Christian women should avoid the pill and other similar birth control methods because it is the wisest choice to make. It is possible that your body will never abort a fertilized egg while taking the pill, but it is also possible that it may (even multiple times) keep your body from accepting a developing baby in your womb. For as long as this is a real possibility my conscience will not allow me to put my “possible children” at risk. It is my earnest prayer that after researching the information I have provided, you and your husband will come to the same conclusion.

    As Christians we are to look distinctly different from the world around us. We are to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, and mind. This includes trusting him, obeying the Holy Spirit who convicts the heart, and thanking him for the gift and blessing of children and the way he has designed our bodies to conceive life. We are also to love our neighbor as ourself, which means that as Christians we must continually seek to put the good of others before our own. In this case we must choose to put the safety of our developing children above the convenience and security a particular birth control method offers.

    Please weigh the evidence and pray that the Lord would lead you and your husband to obey him in this very intimate area of your life.

     

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    Motives and Methods… a look at birth control (Pt.3)

    Apr 23, 2010 by

    The Pill

    Did you know that conception is defined as the moment when an egg and a sperm fuze to produce a new human? Within minutes of a sperm entering a woman’s body, she can conceive a baby with its own unique DNA. At that moment the blueprints for a person are completely contained within this tiny, single celled, simple creation… including its gender! As this new creation travels down the fallopian tube to the uterus it continues to develop by subdividing into smaller cells. Finally, it makes its home in the lush endometrium (lining of the uterus) where it will find the safe environment and nourishment necessary to continue development until it is ready to be delivered in nine months. It is an incredible process that reveals God’s perfect planning, power, and thoughtfulness.

    When a couple decides to delay or inhibit this natural process they can do so by any of the means described in the previous Methods post and many more. One of the most common methods used by American women and even by Christian women is the pill. It’s simple, effective, and popular. Many pastors will even recommend it to their premarital counselees as a good option for those wishing to postpone pregnancy because it is generally thought to prevent conception completely, thus acting as a contraceptive and not as an abortifacient.

    Early versions of the pill were in fact more likely to act in a completely contraceptive manner because of the extremely high dose of estrogen they contained. However, due to increasing awareness of the negative effects of such high doses of estrogen in women, the FDA quickly restricted the amount of estrogen contained in American birth control pills in 1988. The pill, which started out having a standard 150 micrograms of estrogen now has about 20-35. These “low dose” pills have a much higher chance of aborting a conceived baby than their earlier predecessors.

    So how does the pill work and why does it have the potential to abort a conceived baby?

    The combination of estrogen and progestin contained in the pill does three things:

    1. It inhibits ovulation (this is the primary mechanism)
    2. It thickens the cervical mucus, thereby making it more difficult for sperm to travel to the egg
    3. It thins and shrivels the lining of the uterus to the point that it is unable or less able to facilitate the implantation of the newly fertilized egg.

    Think of the second and third mechanisms as the back up in case ovulation does in fact occur while taking the pill (which we know is possible since we have all heard of people getting pregnant while on the pill). The first two mechanisms are contraceptive. The third is abortive.

    The third mechanism (the alteration to the uterus) is also the  most debated among gynecologists. This is interesting because the Physician’s Desk Reference (the most frequently used reference book by physicians in America) clearly states: “Combination oral contraceptives act by suppression of gonadotropins. Although the primary mechanism of this action is inhibition of ovulation, other alterations include changes in the cervical mucus, which increase the difficulty of sperm entry into the uterus, and changes in the endometrium which reduce the likelihood of implantation.”

    What does it mean for the endometrium to change in a way that reduces the likelihood of implantation? Randy Alcorn summarizes the process in this way:

    As a woman’s menstrual cycle progresses, her endometrium gradually gets richer and thicker in preparation for the arrival and implantation of any newly conceived child. In a natural cycle, unimpeded by the Pill, the endometrium experiences an increase of blood vessels, which allow a greater blood supply to bring oxygen and nutrients to the child. There is also an increase in the endometrium’s stores of glycogen, a sugar that serves as a food source for the blastocyst (child) as soon as he or she implants.

    The Pill keeps the woman’s body from creating the most hospitable environment for a child, resulting instead in an endometrium that is deficient in both food (glycogen) and oxygen. The child may die because he lacks this nutrition and oxygen.

    Typically, the new person attempts to implant at six days after conception. If implantation is unsuccessful, the child is flushed out of the womb in a miscarriage. When the miscarriage is the result of an environment created by a foreign device or chemical, it is in fact an abortion. This is true even if the mother does not intend it, and is not aware of it happening.” (Bold added by me)

    The condition of the uterus when a baby arrives from the fallopian tube is very important. When an IVF practitioner is about to implant an embryo from a petri dish into a womb he knows that the more lush and rich in blood supply and nutrients an endometrium is, the greater chance the embryo has of survival. It is the same in a naturally occurring pregnancy. Women who are blessed with the ability to conceive a child and who are not altering their endometrium with the pill provide a much more hospitable environment for the conceived child than those who alter the state of their uterus with the pill.

    It is true that not every conception results in a successful pregnancy, even in the most perfect of circumstances, but this is beyond our control and in the hands of our God. It is a different matter altogether when we as women (and possible mothers) purposefully take a substance that has the potential to abort a pregnancy that has already begun. The ability of the pill to do such a thing should give us great pause and cause us to prayerfully consider whether or not a Christian should use such a substance at all.

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    Motives and Methods… a look at birth control (Pt.2)

    Apr 19, 2010 by

    Methods

    Six months into our married life we stopped using the pill. Why am I telling you this? Why am I sharing something so incredibly personal with you? Because it wasn’t just a personal decision, it was an ethical decision. As a Christian who believes in the sanctity of human life, as a person who holds to life beginning at conception (a fertilized egg that has its own unique DNA), as a woman and mother who wishes she had known more from the beginning, I want to share with you the knowledge that I lacked when I started taking the pill.

    Birth control options are abounding today due to incredible advances in medical science. A woman can control when she has a child by simply taking a pill once a day or having an IUD implanted directly into her uterus. But not all methods of birth control work in the same way. Some are purely contraceptive (keeping a husband’s sperm from ever fertilizing and egg), others are completely abortive (keeping a fertilized egg from attaching to the uterus), while still others are contraceptive and abortive (contain multiple methods of keeping you from getting pregnant, including making it impossible for a fertilized egg to attach to the uterus). Here is a simple list (not exhaustive at all) of the two major categories of birth control (mostly taken from the very informative site Abort73.com):

    Contraceptive Birth Control Methods (cannot cause an abortion):

    • Continuous Abstinence – The only method that is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy and disease.
    • Periodic Abstinence or Fertility Awareness Methods – Being abstinent on the days you may be fertile or using a “barrier” method of birth control (condoms, diaphragms, or cervical caps) on fertile days.
    • The Male Condom – Prevents sperm from reaching the egg.
    • The Female Condom – Worn by the woman, prevents sperm from reaching the egg.
    • Diaphragm – A shallow latex cup that prevents sperm from reaching the egg, requires a visit with your health care provider for proper fitting.
    • Cervical Cap – A thimble-shaped latex cup that prevents sperm from reaching the egg, requires a visit with your health care provider for proper fitting.
    • Surgical Sterilization (Tubal Ligation or Vasectomy) – Permanent surgical methods of birth control. Tubal ligations prevent a woman’s eggs from reaching her uterus. Vasectomies to prevent sperm from entering a woman during intercourse.

    Birth Control Methods That Can Cause an Abortion:

    • Copper T IUD (Intrauterine Device) – A small, copper-containing device that is shaped in the form of a “T.” and placed inside the uterus by a health care provider. The copper arms prevent fertilization by keeping sperm from entering the fallopian tubes. If fertilization does occur, the IUD would prevent the fertilized egg from implanting in the lining of the uterus.
    • Progestasert IUD (Intrauterine Device) – A small plastic device that is shaped in the form of a “T.” and placed inside the uterus by a health care provider. It contains the hormone progesterone, which causes the cervical mucus to thicken so sperm cannot reach the egg, and so that a fertilized egg cannot successfully implant into the lining of the uterus.
    • The Mini-Pill – The mini-pill only has one hormone, progestin, instead of both estrogen and progestin. Taken daily, the mini-pill reduces and thickens cervical mucus to prevent sperm from reaching the egg. It also prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus (womb).
    • Emergency Contraception (“Morning After” Pill, Postcoital Contraception, Plan B, etc.) – According to WebMd, emergency contraception “is a form of birth control that may be used by women who have had unprotected sex or if a contraceptive method fails.” The reason there is so much confusion as to whether or not emergency contraception has the potential to be abortifacient is because those marketing it seem to have subtly changed the definition of pregnancy. This is perhaps nowhere more evident than on the website for Plan B® One-Step.

    On the “Consumer” side of the website we read this (select “How Does it Work?” then “Learn More” to read for yourself):

    Plan B® One-Step is not an abortion pill. It won’t work if you’re already pregnant. If you take Plan B® One-Step and are already pregnant, it will not affect your existing pregnancy.

    On the “Prescribers” side, we find something very different:

    Plan B® One-Step works primarily by: Preventing ovulation. Possibly preventing fertilization by altering tubal transport of sperm and/or egg. Altering the endometrium, which may inhibit implantation (emphasis added).

    The first two methods work to prevent an egg from being fertilized. The third method works to destroy the fertilized embryo. That’s abortion. When Duramed Pharmaceuticals, the manufacturer of Plan B® One-Step, tells consumers in no uncertain terms that emergency contraception cannot cause an abortion or interfere with an existing pregnancy, either they are lying outright or they’ve redefined pregnancy as something that begins at implantation instead of fertilization. Since they plainly admit on the “Prescriber” side of their site that emergency contraception can prevent an embryo from implanting in the mother’s uterus, we must assume the latter.

    • Oral Contraceptives (the pill): contain both estrogen and progestin in very low doses to 1.) prevent ovulation, 2.) effect cervical mucus making it harder for sperm to enter into the uterus, 3.) change the endometrium’s (uterus’) ability to support a fertilized egg.

    Of course there are many more options available that fall into each of these categories, but these are the ones that I know the most about and can clearly articulate to you. I emphasized the oral contraceptive method because it, I believe is the one least understood by Christian couples who are contemplating the choices available to them. I believe that many couples, like us, would be shocked to know that the pill has the potential to act in the same way as the morning after pill does. I know there are many women out there, like me, who do not realize that they could be aborting a baby by taking a simple pill every morning.

    So the question is, can the pill (the most widely used birth control method in the United States) cause a woman’s body to abort a fertilized egg? If it can, is it the Christian’s obligation to refrain from such a form of birth control? As Randy Alcorn says, “For those who believe God is the Creator of each person and the giver and taker of human life, this is a question with profound moral implications.” As women desiring virtue it is a question we must ask.

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    Motives and Methods… a look at birth control

    Apr 15, 2010 by

    Our Story

    I still remember going to the gynecologist for the first time. I was very nervous, especially because my doctor was a man! It was a few months before Richard and I were to be married and I needed information about birth control. To make matters more interesting I saw my pastor’s wife in the hospital parking lot on the way in… “Welcome to womanhood!” she exclaimed as we parted. I came out of that appointment with a prescription for a pill that would keep me from getting pregnant until Richard and I decided the “time was right.”

    Our plan was to finish Richard’s last year of undergrad and get a few years of seminary out of the way before we started having children. Of course we were open to God changing our plan at any time, but it was a plan nonetheless. Most of the young Christian couples around us were on the pill and none of our spiritual leaders warned against it. The closest we got to a caution was the statement, “it is a matter of conviction for each couple.” We just assumed this was referring to the decision to delay having children or the idea of planning how many children to have, not to the actual bioethics involved in the method. I started taking the pill with little hesitation and a lot of naivety.

    Richard and I wanted to have a large family from the start. We love children and have always thought of them as a blessing rather than a burden. We did, however, lean toward waiting until we were at a place financially where Richard could fully support us and I could stay home full time with our children. Our desire for kids was something we felt could be sacrificed until we were closer to finishing Richard’s schooling. So that is where we were…. wanting children, but waiting until we were “ready.”

    The pill was easy. The pill was also effective. Everyone else was taking the pill. We were taking the pill.

    Four and a half months down our married road a coworker got me thinking about that decision again. He was one of the few Christians working at my Starbucks and for some reason everybody knew that he and his wife were not on birth control. This was partly because people who work at a coffee shop have plenty of time to talk about other people’s business and partly because he wanted people to know about the possible abortive effect the pill could have on a forming baby. Inevitably we got to talking about it one day and he began explaining how he and his wife had made the decision not to use the pill after her gynecologist admitted that there was a chance of a fertilized egg being aborted while using the pill. This was new information to me… after all, I thought the pill was supposed to keep an egg from ever getting fertilized in the first place! I took what he said, gave it a little thought, and then decided that there was a difference between a possibility of a fertilized egg being aborted and purposefully aborting a fertilized egg. He patiently and sensitively waited and did not press the issue any further.

    The Lord did not allow me to go too long before bringing this issue back to mind however. This was around the time when President Bush was in office and all of the hoopla about embryonic stem cell research was going on. For good reason the Christian community was very much against the purposeful destruction of human embryos. I wondered how much of a difference there was between my “possible baby” and these “possible babies.” Then the research began. I started trying to dig up anything I could that would shed some light on what the pill actually does to my system and what it could do to my “possible baby.”

    One of the most important and helpful resources I found was Randy Alcorn’s abbreviated version of Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?. It is a thorough and honest look at what the medical community has to say about the pill and also what the Christian response to it should be. After investigating a little further my heart and mind was made up; I couldn’t purposefully take a medication that I knew had the potential to abort a fertilized egg; I couldn’t purposefully put a baby, my baby at risk. After discussing it with Richard (who by the way, had been reading all the same material I had) we decided to stop using the pill. Six months into our married life we stopped using the pill.

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    Easter Traditions

    Apr 2, 2010 by

    Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children—how on the day that you stood before the Lord your God at Horeb, the Lord said to me, “Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.”

    Deuteronomy 4:9-10

     

    I know there are some Christians who believe that we should not celebrate Easter or Christmas differently than any other day of the year. To do so would be to imply that we do not pay special attention to the birth, crucifixion, and resurrection of Christ every day as we ought. I understand this line of reasoning, and believe that we should do our utmost to treasure Christ in every moment of every day of every year… and yet I also believe that God-centered celebrations can be a useful tool to “take care” and “keep [our souls] diligently, lest [we] forget the things [our] eyes have seen, and lest they depart from [our hearts] all the days of [our lives]” as this passage from Deuteronomy encourages the Israelites. This is exactly why God instituted so many feasts and celebrations throughout the Old Testament.

     

    But Easter, as well as Christmas, can also just be a time when we say we are celebrating Christ, but in reality we give very little of our time and attention to him. Symbolic traditions, not just traditions, can be a way to help focus our minds and instruct our children in the wonder of the joy we receive from our salvation in Christ. During the Christmas season I shared some of the ways that we, as a family, were trying to be purposeful in our traditions. In the same way I want to build Easter traditions that focus around our God and King.

    It is surprisingly difficult to find a wealth of information about Christian Easter traditions. Most of what you find on the internet is saturated with bunnies and eggs, but there were a few gems that I was able to bookmark and hope to incorporate into our own celebration. Here they are in no particular order:

    1. In most of the world lamb, not ham, is the traditional Easter meat and with good reason. The symbolism is obvious! “Behold, the lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world.” (John 1:29) Just as the sacrificial lamb was a symbol for the Israelites, eating lamb on Easter can be a symbol for us of the sacrifice of the perfect lamb of God for our sins.

    2. For many people Hot Cross Buns are a traditional Easter food. These sweet, fruit filled buns display a cross on top of them to help remind us of the reason for our celebration. Here is a link to a recipe.

    3. Apparently in much of Europe, Italian Easter Bread, is a common tradition. The cross braiding of the dough is meant to remind you of the crown of thorns, while the decorative eggs are a symbol of the new life found in Christ. This is also a sweet bread. Here is a link to a recipe.

    4. Easter eggs in general are supposed to be symbolic of new life. In some traditions they color the eggs red to represent the blood of Christ. In others you crack open the eggs on Easter morning symbolizing Jesus’ tomb breaking open. There is even a game for children (and adult men I would presume) where each person holds an egg in their fist and you sort of fist pump each other until one of the eggs breaks. Whoever’s egg doesn’t break is the winner (Again, the breaking of the egg is reminiscent of the tomb breaking open). In some cultures the decorated eggs are the first food handed out on Easter morning with the traditional, “He is risen!” accompanying the hand off and “Indeed he is!” being the thank you from the recipient. In some homes, only one egg is eaten by every member of the family symbolizing the unity of the body of Christ.

    5. Similar to the Advent Candles of Christmas, many people do the opposite for Easter. You start out with lit candles and over time blow them all out until there are none left on Good Friday. You can do it over the entire Lent season, the holy week, or even simply on Good Friday itself. This tradition symbolizes the death of the “Light of the World.” On Easter morning all of the candles are lit to represent the resurrection.

    6. Just as wine (or grape juice) represent the blood of Christ when we take communion, it can do the same soul stirring service during our Easter Celebrations.

    7. Extended Family Worship is a great way to make Easter different from other days. Taking time to read prophecies regarding the suffering and exaltation of Christ and then their fulfillment is the most obvious way of focusing our hearts and minds as a family on Christ. Choose songs to sing that focus on the crucifixion and resurrection to continue with the same theme.

    8. Fasting has always been a part of this season as a way of seeking closer fellowship to the Lord and even mourning his death on the cross. Fasting from Friday night to Sunday morning would be a great tradition to start in order to symbolize the darkness that was felt as the Son of God physically died and then the joy felt as he returned.

    9. The new clothes that many people wear on Easter Sunday are symbolic of the new life we put on when we repent and believe in the risen Lord.

    10. The American tradition of eating ham on Easter can be symbolic of the old covenant being replaced by the new due to the fact that the Israelites were not permitted to eat “unclean meats” such as ham. Once Christ had fulfilled the law, God made it clear to Peter that all foods including those once forbidden were now clean. Adults and older children will benefit from the symbolism of Gentiles being grafted into the covenant.

    11. Resurrection Buns are an adorable tradition to start with your children. Together you make these simple buns that are wrapped around a big marshmallow. When they are done baking the marshmallow has been melted and incorporated into the dough leaving a gigantic hole in the middle of the bun. When the children tear open the buns to look for their marshmallow they are surprised to find that it is missing just as Christ was missing from the tomb. Here is a link to a recipe.

    I am sure that there are many more ideas out there. Do you know of any that I haven’t listed? I am particularly looking for some kind of symbolic side dish. Obviously none of these symbols will mean anything if we fail to think deeply on the truths behind them and explain them to our children, but they are great ways to help us in our pursuit of Christ-centered Easters.

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