Abide: Week 3

Feb 28, 2011 by

Abide: Week 3

Week two was a success, and I feel myself getting into the hang of memorization again which is so encouraging. As I memorized verses 3 and 4 this past week, I was joyously meditating on the idea of having “fellowship with the Father and with his Son Jesus Christ”. John says, “indeed” yes, yes, our fellowship is with the God of the universe and the Son of God who came to rescue us! We are so very blessed to have an intimate relationship with our God. He is not so far away from us that we cannot feel his very presence in our souls. In fact, he has chosen to dwell within us! The Holy Spirit, the very person of God, shares our feeble frames…. how much more intimate can you get? This is an amazing truth that is so easy to forget.

This Week’s Verses

1 John 1:5. This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.

1 John 1:6. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.

Thoughts and Musings:

If you were kind of thinking about memorizing alongside with me, but then chickened out, this week would be a GREAT week to join in! John dives into his main message right here and begins with this loaded statement: God IS LIGHT. He isn’t just like light or reminiscent of light, he is the definition of light. The light we see is like God, it is reminiscent of God, not the other way around. He IS purity. Righteousness is defined by his very character. If we desire to be holy, perfect, and pure, we must be like God.

Related Passages:

“In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness, to bear witness about the light, that all might believe through him. He was not the light, but came to bear witness about the light. The true light, which enlightens everyone, was coming into the world. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.  There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. He came as a witness, to bear witness about the light, that all might believe through him. He was not the light, but came to bear witness about the light.  The true light, which enlightens everyone, was coming into the world.” -John 1:4-9

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What Makes a Home Beautiful?

Feb 16, 2011 by

Occasionally I decide to pick up an old, but treasured post from the dusty shelf and share it with you once again. Maybe it is the first time you have ever read it, or maybe you have seen it before. In either case I pray that it will be an encouragement to your heart today as it is to mine. Enjoy!

September 8, 2009

As we get ready for another move I find myself thinking about how I am going to decorate my new home. It seems like with each move there is a temptation to buy more “stuff” to make this home look nicer and more beautiful than the last one. I’m thinking about how the furniture will fit in the new living room and whether or not we need to swap some items on Craigslist for others. I’m thinking about new ways to save space because our new apartment will be much smaller than this one is and about what kind of decor changes I want to make in the future.

It feels like as a young family your “style” is always changing as you slowly get to throw out the “hand-me-downs,” and move up to the “slightly used” furniture you find for a deal, and then again move up the coveted “new” furniture and decor. It is bound to be years… maybe even decades before we start buying new furniture. For now we are content to swap our damaged things for slightly less damaged things at a really great price!

As women it is our God-given duty to care for the home and with that assignment comes the responsibility of making the home a beautiful haven for our family and guests. Sometimes I wonder if we put too much emphasis on the “beautiful” part. As I look around at my living room I have to admit, it is anything but a picture from a magazine. There are many things that I wish I could change about it, but simply can’t. As I visit other people’s homes I am tempted to envy their ability to furnish their homes with lovely and unique pieces or I am amazed by their decorative genius. I begin to think that I am doing a poor job creating a beautiful and heavenly atmosphere for my own family and guests. Soon I am making lists of things we “need” and things I need to do in order to remedy the obvious problem that our home is.

It is then, as I am making my list, that the Lord begins to convict my heart. He begins to reveal the layers of envy and jealousy that are the pillars of my desire to have a “beautiful home.” He then shows me the pride that is the foundation of my lust; the desire to be the woman that other women are jealous of and desire to be like. He reminds me of the millions of people around the world who don’t even have a roof over their heads and how one less flippant purchase a month could feed a poor soul who is dying of hunger. He reminds me of Kris and Chelle Stire who are in Albania serving the small, but vibrant church there. They gave up their right to a “beautiful” home and chose a glorious one among the beautiful souls they are winning for Christ. I am reminded of how much more money I could be giving to them and to my own church for the furtherance of the gospel. How retched my soul must look to my Savior when it is filled with selfishness!

It is hard to judge how much of my desire to have a beautiful home is a result of selfishness. Surely much of it is from pride and envy, but a great majority is simply the desire to please myself and my own tastes. Let’s face it, I love beautiful things! My personal style is a sort of “Country-Clean-Shabby Chic” (or at least this is what I want my personal style to be). As of yet, I have not been able to achieve my “dream home look” so every time I pass by a beautiful piece of decor or see something I like in a magazine (ehem… Pottery Barn!) I feel like I need it. After all, I just want to make my home a beautiful and inviting place!!!!

I realize that making your home aesthetically appealing is not wrong and I truly hope that my home is and will be a warm haven for my family and guests. Unfortunately, I honestly believe that when I focus on these desires they take an unhealthy and ungodly role in my heart. The more beautiful my home gets and the nicer things I have, the more I begin to love this world and the things in it. The more I am comfortable here, the less I desire heaven. Yes, I want my family to be proud of their home, but more importantly I want them to yearn for their heavenly home; I want them to yearn for Christ-I want to yearn for Christ!

I also know that the more I desire to be seen as the woman others envy, the more I am promoting an atmosphere of sinful jealousy between myself and other sisters in Christ.

Yes, I want my home to be an inviting and comfortable place for my guests, but I also want their focus to be directed to the Lord and not my fabulous home decor.

God gives to each in a different manner. Some have more income and are able to spend more money on decorating their homes while still being faithful to give sacrificially to the Lord. To others he entrusts a very little teaching them to rely on his beauty and comfort rather than the possessions they can accumulate. But all of us must fight the temptation to call this world home and invest too much of ourselves in it rather than God’s Kingdom. As I get older and my family’s income increases I know that our home will get bigger and become more aesthetically pleasing, but my earnest prayer is that Richard and I would never put those things before our service to our King, and if necessary we would choose poverty over unfaithfulness.

But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself. -Philippians 3:20 & 21

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Sharing the Love: Pioneer Woman Simple Perfect Enchiladas

Feb 15, 2011 by

Sharing the Love: Pioneer Woman Simple Perfect Enchiladas

When I find something good, whether it be a recipe, or a bargain while out shopping, there is a great need for me to share that good find with others!

I have been known to over-share at times, because, to my surprise, other people may not care (or at least not to the extent that I do) about the particular item. Perhaps they aren’t the bargain shopping type. I’ve come to learn that that’s okay. I’ve also learned to choose your audience prior to speaking ;)

You may or may not be that into cooking. You may or may not be in the market for a new cookbook.  I know cookbooks in general can be hit or miss, but I’m betting on the fact that everyone likes to eat good food.

So if you fall into that category…may I suggest this one:

Why The Pioneer Woman Cooks?

  • Everything in this cookbook is really tasty!
  • Each recipe includes step-by-step pictures
    • As Pioneer Woman also has a passion for photography she includes a photo for each step -even the worst of cooks could not mess this up!
  • She keeps it real.
    • Ree (The PW) is a home cook, not a fancy chef. So the recipes are things normal people eat and the ingredients are things you can easily find at the store. How many times have you found a recipe but can hardly find let alone pronounce some of the ingredients?!
    • She shares a piece of her life through these recipes. Pictures and stories of her family and friends. I think its so cool to be able to relate to and feel like you know someone just by turning a few pages in their book!

Simple Perfect Enchiladas

This Pioneer Woman recipe has become a staple in our home. It’s perfect for feeding a crowd, or makes a great dinner & next day lunch for our family of two.

Ree’s recipe calls for ground beef –which is wonderful!  Maybe your family doesn’t eat red meat, or perhaps you don’t have ground beef on hand.  If that’s the case, do not let it stop you from trying this recipe. Simply make a substitution!

I recommend subbing the ground beef for a can of black beans. Along with the green chili’s you won’t even miss the meat! You could also sub shredded chicken or even just double up on the cheese.

I just love the method Ree uses. I love that I can have amazing Mexican food from my very own kitchen! This recipe with or without variation is tried and true.

I just HAD TO share it with YOU! ;)

Simply click here for the full recipe!

A self-proclaimed foodie, Julie’s love of cooking and her travel experiences have sent her on a quest for creativity in the kitchen! Julie and her husband James live just outside of Dallas, Texas where they share a passion for serving others through their local church. As the Turner’s are newlyweds, Julie chronicles their journey together on their family blog www.theturnyeahs.tumblr.com

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“You’re Super Mom!”

Feb 8, 2011 by

“You’re Super Mom!”

When people (my family) found out I made Elliot’s baby food they thought I was insanely cool. Suddenly my mom points went from a good 6 to a full out 9. The funny thing is that making your own baby food is really pretty simple~ as long as you have a food processor/blender you are set to go. Yes, it takes a little bit of time, but it is actually quite fun AND both my babies seem to prefer fresh baby food to the packaged/processed stuff. Also, it can save a substantial amount of money on the grocery bill. So, there you have it-three positives already!

Simple. Fun. Money Saving.

We don’t even have to go into all of the other specifics to making your own baby food to know that ANYONE who wants to, can indeed accomplish this simple task. You don’t have to be Super Mom. You just have to want to. -Make baby food, not be Super Mom… though you could want both.

There is something so enjoyable about steaming fruits and veggies, pureeing them, adding your own spices, coming up with your own mixtures and then putting them in the cute containers of your choice. Trust  me… it is enjoyable.

But How?

  1. Wash and peal your choice fruit/veggies.
  2. Most fruits and veggies can simply be steamed in the microwave (this is actually better than steaming on the stove top because you can use all of the vitamin rich juices). Just put them in a bowl with a little bit of water (a few tablespoons at the most), cover with cling wrap, and then zap until tender enough to puncture with a fork.
  3. Next transfer them (watch out, it is hot!) to a food processor/blender and… blend. Add the spices you want and more water if the mixture is too thick.
  4. When you achieve the desired consistency, pour (or spoon, this is where I always make a mess) into freezer containers. You can buy special containers for this, use canning jars (pictured above), or simply freeze the food in ice cube trays and transfer into plastic baggies once frozen.
  5. Viola! Super Mom status.

Now obviously, there are some important things to think about when making your own baby food. For instance: which foods are good to introduce at what age. For that kind of in depth information, follow this link to a helpful site: www.wholesomebabyfood.com

Money Saving Tips:

I feel like you save money on most foods, but sweet potatoes are where it is at in the money saving department. You will find the best deals on veggies will be in the frozen food section, and even some fruits for that matter. Apples are the one item that I find to be unnecessary to make at home. It just isn’t worth it. You can get a big jar of unsweetened apple sauce for a much better price than the amount of apples you will have to peal, core, and chop to match it. It is also very nice to be able to add premade apple sauce to your creations to get a nice mix of flavors!

What is my creation above? Cinnamon Carrot Apple Deluxe! That is right, I added the “Deluxe” for added sparkle. It is one of Hudson’s favorites, and actually Elliot is obsessed with it as well. I can hardly feed it to Hudson without Elliot attacking me. So, finally I thought, “Hey, if he likes pureed carrots he can have them!” He eats it like regular apple sauce and I feel quite pleased with myself.

So if you thought homemade baby food was only for the Super Moms out there, you were wrong. Put on your apron and get to making your own!

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Whoever Abides in Love Abides in God, and God Abides in Him.

Feb 1, 2011 by

Late in 2010 I wrote a little message in my journaling Bible next to 1 John 4:7 : “I need to work on my love.” Seems simple enough doesn’t it? It should be, but it isn’t. It’s complex, filled with the minute details of everyday life. Love is seeking my husband’s desires before my own, serving my parents when I don’t need to, consistently disciplining my toddler to not push against my authority… it’s hard, and selfless. But God’s words are so haunting:

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:7&8

God IS love. My ability to love is an barometer of my relationship with the Lord. If I know God, I will love. If I love, I will know God. Oh, I have so much work to do on my love; so much work to do on self-sacrifice.

I decided to memorize 1 John. Its words are like blood to this heart of mine-the theme of love streaming through it. My Darling Husband is going to work with me, memorizing alongside and encouraging my pursuit. We will go slowly, a couple verses a week until this entire letter is fixed in my brain and flows down to my being. I am going to press hard to abide. Do you want to abide with me? Think about it.

It all starts on Valentine’s Day

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Julie’s Spring Chicken Pizza

Feb 1, 2011 by

This is Jessalyn here, and I am so happy to introduce you to my friend and sister-in-law, Julie. She is an amazing cook who loves to share her passion for food. I am VERY excited to tell you that she has agreed to start guest posting here at Desiring Virtue taking us along on her food journies! Please welcome her to the blog and enjoy her first recipe.
One of my favorite things to do when I am traveling, or just trying a restaurant for the first time is to order the most unique item on the menu. While traveling with my sister in Seattle one spring, we stopped for lunch at a quaint place on Bainbridge Island that featured pizza. This was not your typical pizza joint, in fact, far from it! When I read the words blueberry, chicken and pizza all in the same description, I was sold!

The unexpected flavors were surprisingly delicious, as the blueberries had burst to create a sweet and savory sauce.

Coming home a few days later, I was excited to re-create the pizza for my then boyfriend, now husband, James. Before I continue, you must know, that, while I am adventurous when it comes to food, James is not.

I’m a French dip while James is a turkey club.

I’m a Beef Bourguignon while James is a classic pot roast.

So you can imagine how skeptical James was when I told him I wanted to make him that crazy pizza I had in Seattle!

I made it, he tried it-and liked it!

I call this my Spring Chicken Pizza.

James calls it the meal that changed his life.

We like it so much that we even used the recipe as our wedding favor!

This is proof that: before you knock it, try it for yourself.

I’m glad to share this recipe with you :

Julie’s Spring Chicken Pizza

Ingredients:

  • 1 prepared pizza dough either (I’ve used homemade or store-bought, just your preference!)
  • 1 grilled chicken breast, sliced into strips
  • 1 C Spring mix lettuce
  • ½ C shredded mozzarella/Italian cheese
  • ½ C blueberries-fresh or frozen
  • ½ Granny smith apple, sliced very thin
  • ¼ C feta cheese (or sub more mozzarella if you prefer)
  • 1 T garlic powder
  • 2 T Italian seasoning

Instructions:

  • Preheat oven as directed for dough (usually 375 or 400 degrees)
  • Spray pizza pan or cookie sheet with cooking spray
  • Roll out the dough, seasoning with garlic & Italian seasoning
  • Bake seasoned dough for half the cook time (5 minutes). It will need to be firm enough to sustain the toppings, but not fully baked.
  • Remove from oven and arrange the remaining ingredients in the following order: field greens, ½ mozzarella cheese, chicken, apple slices, blueberries, feta
  • Sprinkle the remaining mozzarella over the top of and place back in the oven until the edges are golden brown.
  • Let cool for 2 minutes, then slice. When sliced, the blueberries will burst creating that delicious sweet and savory sauce!
A self-proclaimed foodie, Julie’s love of cooking and her travel experiences have sent her on a quest for creativity in the kitchen! Julie and her husband James live just outside of Dallas, Texas where they share a passion for serving others through their local church. As the Turner’s are newlyweds, Julie chronicles their journey together on their family blog www.theturnyeahs.tumblr.com

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Dirty Windows

Jan 28, 2011 by

She’s looking through dirty windows, squinting through small patches of light.

The sinners walking by are entertaining, their faults so obvious to her.

She watches them stumble and wonders why they don’t change their ways.

Sometimes, she shouts and waves through her windows trying to warn them as they fall.

They look around, confused and startled, searching for the one offering correction,

but all they see are dirty windows.

She knows she could be more useful if only her house weren’t so dirty,

but that would take so much effort, so much work, so much sacrifice.

You see, its easier to look through the fog of dirty windows

than into the mirror of  self examination.

“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” -Matthew 7:3-5

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Sundays. The Beginning or the End?

Jan 24, 2011 by

Sundays. The Beginning or the End?

In our culture, Sundays are the end of the weekend.

They are the last day to get something done before work begins again.

Most calendars and day planners these days make Sunday the last day of the week, starting your work schedule with Monday.

What if Sunday was the beginning of your week?

What if instead of the last day of rest, it was the first day of worship in the new week?

What if Sunday was completely overwhelmed with the Lord filling up your soul for the week ahead?

It is hard.

Sometimes Sundays are the craziest days for us, filled with activities.

How do you take hold of Sundays? Do you have any secrets to making it a time of Spiritual REST and RENEWAL?

How do you make Sunday the LORD’S DAY and the prepare your heart for the week ahead?

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One Picture

Jan 20, 2011 by

One Picture

Joy.

That little apartment was beaming with joy. Inside was a young wife who had just confirmed her suspicions-she was pregnant. Life was blossoming within her and she couldn’t contain the smile it produced on her lips.

“Hello little one,” she sang as she gently caressed her now precious belly.

How would she tell her Love? How should she share with him the most wonderful news of their lives?

She raced to the store to buy a statue of a man holding his newborn baby-she remembered her love admiring it before. Soon she was in her galley kitchen mixing the batter to a cake she would ice blue and pink. She quickly prepared the tiny home for her Love’s arrival, made their favorite dinner and queued the movie to just the right place.

There was his key in the door. That familiar sound sent excitement through her veins as she put on the most ordinary face possible.

“I want to eat in here tonight,” she said motioning into the living room where the baked tortellini was sending steam to the ceiling of the enchanted room.

“Ok, what are we watching?” His eyes moved from the little laptop screen to her coy face.

“Oh, I was watching Made for Each Other, do you want to keep watching?”

Always up for a Jimmy Stewart film, he settled into their couch and marveled at the cake. “Wow! What is the occasion?”

“No occasion, just felt like baking…” Did he not notice the color scheme? Oh never mind he will get it soon enough she said to herself.

The movie took up where she had stopped it: John Mason opens the note slipped to him by his wife and he slowly grasps that they are going to have a baby. As the couple on screen exchange bewildered expressions the little wife sitting next to her unsuspecting husband presented him with a gift. His confusion fell to the ground with the wrapping as he helds the final clue to his future.

“No way!”

“Yes.” She nodded her head through tears and they embraced. That night was filled with laughter and talk of the future. Images of a beautiful child flashed in their imaginations as they spoke of the experiences to come. They threw off any fears that some might suppose accompany such news and thanked their Heavenly Father for the gift of life produced through their love.

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.” -James 1:17

Their child was shrouded with prayer that night. That night in January of 2008.

Pain.

It wasn’t normal. Surely she shouldn’t be feeling like this. Is that blood?

“No, God, please no.” Tears formed pools of sadness in her eyes. She looked out the window and prayed to her Father, but in her heart she already knew what was going to happen.

The next day the young wife and her brave husband sat in a dark room next to the glow of a computer monitor showing their baby. Their precious baby, so small, so miraculous.

“It is hard to tell at this point,” the caring voice cautioned, “Usually there is a heart beat, but sometimes not yet.”

Not yet? Could the young wife cling to those words? “Can we have that picture?” she asked hesitantly.

One picture. One piece of evidence. Proof that a baby had existed. One glimpse into their possible future.

They left that room with uncertainty, but the next few days of anguish confirmed the young wife’s heart knowledge.

Her baby was taken from her. In a war of horrid pain her baby was snatched from her womb. Where life had once been, there was only stillness. In the final hours of February 25th the young mother and the young father she loved lost their baby. A still silence punctuated only by their soft whimpers filled their tiny apartment. Her mother, the bereaved grandmother, sat close by stunned by the utter sadness. What words were there to say?

Silence was broken by the young mother’s feeble words, “We should pray.” The young father, her love, lifted up their little family to their good God. They asked for peace, for comfort, for joy. They asked for clarity and trust. Their hearts cried out to the One who took their baby, the baby he had given them.

“Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” -Job 1:21

“Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?” -Job 2:10

Sacrifice.

The pain didn’t go away. She carried it with her everywhere she went. It was heavy at first, strong like the waves of the ocean. Each baby she saw seemed to push her back down into memories of a lost future. Push, push, crash, crash. As she worshiped alongside other families on Sundays she silently cried, longing for what they had, longing for her baby, her lost baby.

But her pain wasn’t wasted. It wasn’t for nothing. Every tear, every longing was a sacrifice she offered up to her God, beautiful incense. She begged her Savior to teach her the lesson he intended for her to learn, that she would have the ears to hear it and the heart to grasp it. She gave him her pain and asked for his strength.

She asked him to be strong for her and he was.

“Who is like the LORD our God, who is seated on high,  who looks far down on the heavens and the earth?  He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap,  to make them sit with princes, with the princes of his people.  He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD!” -Psalm 113:5-9

Every day she grew stronger and slowly the waves got smaller. The Lord brought new blessings into her life. She would never be the same. Her faith was deeper, more real than it had been. She walked through the fire of affliction and was more beautiful because of it. She loved her God with a more natural, more pure love. Her praises were filled with memories of of pain and deliverance; her testimony one that had been tried, tested. She was thankful, thankful for the pain.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” -James 1:2-4

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Lessons From the Moon

Jan 18, 2011 by

Lessons From the Moon

September 3, 2009

Richard and I had to take separate cars home last night from church, so I was uncommonly alone for the 40 minute drive. For some reason I didn’t turn on the radio, just quietly drove home lost in my own thoughts. At one point in time I looked up to see the beautiful moon and was reminded of the many ways it is a perfect picture of what it means to be a Christian.

You see, the moon reflects a glorious light all night long while the sun is away. But the light can never be attributed to the moon’s glory; we know that it is only because of the sun that we can even see it. Without the sun, the moon would be lost and ugly, without any real purpose.

In the same way, we as Christian’s are meant to reflect the brilliancy of Christ. We are called to give the world a taste of his beauty, but never to claim it as our own. A Christian living in pride and conceit is like the moon boasting in the light it gives to the Earth. A Christian who worships himself and his religious zeal is like the the moon congratulating itself for accepting the sun’s generous rays.

I might say, “I would never boast about my works or sing praises to myself,” but how many times have I desired the praises of man for the things I did for God? Or how many times have I felt that I would be better for a particular area of ministry than the person who God chose? How many times have I felt I deserved anything other than the just punishment for my sins? All too often the ugly, dark moon tries to sell itself as the beautiful, light giving sun rather than bowing before it and pleading with others to do the same.

My thoughts then moved to the times when the moon experiences eclipse. This, of course, is when the earth comes exactly between the sun and moon, hiding it in its shadow. It makes me think about how the world can stamp out our light if we are not careful; how the more we look like the world, the more we think like the world, the more we love the things of the world, the less we shine like Christ. When we allow the world to come between us and our King our testimony for him is hidden and our light becomes very, very dim, almost unrecognizable. Sin is alluring and addictive. For every inch you give it, it will dull your likeness to the Son. I don’t want to be lost in the shadow of the world; I want to be lost in the brilliancy of God.

In the same way, we can come between the world and Christ (creating a solar eclipse) through our sinful, prideful, and selfish actions. The world needs to see the Son, not us, but when we hurt others and neglect the week we take the focus off of the Savior and put it on our own sinful lives. The world looks at us and says, “If this is what God is like, I don’t want to have anything to do with him.” When people see me, I want them to see Jesus, not a “religion” or a political position or a social class. I want to be willing to give up all my rights and desires in order to make the image of Christ clearer in me.

I also thought about how before you know the Lord you have no hope of ever being anything other than ugly and dark. You are constantly stuck in the shadow of the world, following its course, and completely content in it. You never know the warmth and beauty that the Son has to offer, and it isn’t until his rays touch your cold skin that you begin to see what life truly is. It isn’t until he pulls you from the shadows that you begin to sense your need for his life giving energy. Once you have tasted the goodness of the Lord the world’s offerings lose their luster. Suddenly your life becomes full of joy and hope; it is changed forever because the Light shines in you.

Yes, when I think about the moon a lot comes to mind, but really what comes to mind the most is the sun. That is how I want it to be for others: when they think about me I want them to think about Christ. Please take a moment to read these passages and have your heart encouraged.

The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness, on them has light shined. -Isaiah 9:10

And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord,[1] are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
[1]Or reflecting the glory of the Lord -2 Corinthians 3:18

In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. -2 Corinthians 4:4

In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven. -Matthew 5:16

I have come into the world as light, so that whoever believes in me may not remain in darkness. -John 12:46

For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. -2 Corinthians 4:6

that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, Philippians 2:15

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. -Ephesians 6:2

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. -1 Peter 2:9

If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. -1 John 1:6

Then the righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father. He who has ears, let him hear. -Matthew 13:43

And the city has no need of sun or moon to shine on it, for the glory of God gives it light, and its lamp is the Lamb. -Revelation 21:23

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Are You Already Behind In Your Reading?

Jan 16, 2011 by

Are You Already Behind In Your Reading?

*This post is not for those of you who never miss a day of Bible reading… it is for people like me who tend to get behind.

“I will meditate on your precepts and fix my eyes on your ways.” ~Psalm 119:15

Constant intake of the Word is vital to my life. Let me share with you the way my perfect day begins: it begins with a perfect morning. What does that morning look like? Me, my Bible, and some hazelnut coffee.

Reading the Word, Praying to my Father, Meditating on the Lord. These things set the direction of my day. They draw me into the presence of the Lord and send me out with the power of the Holy Spirit to face what is to come.

Consistency?

It can be hard to be consistent in your devotional life, but making daily time with the Lord a priority is so pivotal that it should never be given up on. Bible reading plans can be very helpful when trying to keep yourself on track, but sometimes they can also be discouraging. How can that be? Well, think about it. What happens when you get a couple days behind? Suddenly you feel overwhelmed, you have to catch up, you think “When will I ever have time to read 15 chapters???”. Either you simply have to skip over those passages or you soon give up on your plan altogether and revert back to those books of the Bible you find yourself in most often.

What is the Point?

The purpose of Bible reading plans isn’t just to finish reading the Bible in a year; the point is to READ THE BIBLE! God wrote every one of those precious words for our benefit, for our encouragement, conviction, and our joy. That is why I have fallen in love with a new Bible reading plan.

The Plan

The reason I love this plan is because it allows flexibility and pretty much keeps you from ever coming to your Bible with that sinking feeling of guilt (that sometimes keeps you from coming to the Word at all). It is called “Read Through the Bible Program for Shirkers and Slackers”. Pretty great huh?

Instead of being organized by dates, it is organized by days of the week. You never check off a date! Each day (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday…) represents a different genre of reading (O.T. Poetry, O.T. History, O.T. Prophets…). There is a selection of readings in each genre about 3 or 4 chapters long for every day. When you are done reading those chapters you simply check them off and come back to that list the next week. Here is the best part: If you don’t finish those chapters it is no big deal, you simply come back to them the next week and finish it up (maybe you start the next selection of chapters and maybe you don’t… whatever you have time for). There are no dates, so you don’t feel bad about it! If none of this makes any sense, it will when you look at the pdf. -TRUST ME.

This is not a read through the Bible in a year plan. This is a read through the Bible plan. This will help you keep track of what you have and haven’t read. It will help you get to those books that have never seen the light of day… Nahum, ehem? Isn’t that what the point is? To listen to what God has spoken? To be infiltrated with the Word and transformed by it?

It’s not too late!

So, if you were wishing you had started a reading plan on the 1st, then this is your program because it doesn’t matter when you start!

Here is the original source (probably explains it better than I did): Margie Haack

Here is the link to the PDF file: Read Through the Bible Program for Shirkers and Slackers

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How Can You Fight Against Abortion?

Jan 14, 2011 by

The fight against abortion seems like such an overwhelming fight. How does one become more involved in this movement? Is there anything we can really do that will make a difference aside from running for public office? Yes. There are simple things that you and I can do to make a difference. Randy Alcorn gives some great suggestions over at his website, Eternal Perspective Ministries. I have copied and pasted them here and hope that you will consider how the Lord might be calling you to act as well.

50 Ways To Help Unborn Babies and Their Mothers …By Randy Alcorn

Please Note: This article was written for the first version of my book ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments (1992). The book was revised and expanded in 2000 so the references to Appendices are different depending on which version of the book you have. The abbreviation PLA stands for ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments. References to the smaller prolife book published in 2004, Why ProLife? have also been added.

Direct Personal Involvement

1. Open your home to a pregnant girl. Help her financially, emotionally, and spiritually.

2. Open your home to an unwanted child for foster care or adoption.

3. Volunteer time with organizations helping pregnant women, newborns, drug babies, orphans, the handicapped, elderly, street people, and others in need. Personal care is the most basic prolife activity.

4. Establish a pregnancy counseling and abortion alternative service that offers free pregnancy tests, counseling, and support. You can often get the very first listing in the Yellow Pages as Abortion Alternatives, which precedes Abortion Services. (For help getting started, see “Abortion Alternatives and Support For Women” in Appendix D or K, Prolife Resources, PLA.)

5. Donate materials, office equipment, furniture, baby clothes, professional services, and money to Pregnancy Resource Centers, Birthright, Bethany Christian Services, and other prolife groups.

6. Teach your children and other young people how to say no to premarital sex. Teenage sexual abstinence is not only psychologically healthy, it is the only sure way to prevent teen pregnancies. (Josh McDowell’s Why Wait? and How to Teach Your Child to Say No to Sexual Pressures, and James Dobson’s Preparing for Adolescence are helpful resources. See also the “Prochastity Curricula” listed in Appendix D or Appendix K, PLA).

Educating Yourself and Others

7. Become thoroughly informed about the abortion issue. Read ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or the condensed version, Why ProLife? There are many other fine prolife books and videos as well as excellent—and usually free—prolife newsletters. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)  There are a large number of quality prolife websites. The one I highly recommend is Abort73.com .This website is one of a kind, cutting edge, informative and appealing in its presentation. Know the facts so you can rehearse in advance the best responses to the prochoice arguments. Be prepared so no opportunities are missed.

8. Talk to your friends, neighbors, and coworkers about the abortion issue. Challenge them to rethink their assumptions, and to be careful not to buy into an illogical or morally untenable position. Give them a copy of this book, with some pages marked for their attention. (Refer women who have had abortions to Appendix A, PLA, “Finding Forgiveness after an Abortion”.) Use this book to read and discuss in a class or small group.

9. Volunteer your services as a prolife speaker for schools and church groups. Use the arguments laid out in this book as your presentation outline. Approach a church or Christian school and offer to teach a course in Prolife Logic and Action.

10. Call in and speak up on talk shows, and ask for equal time on television and radio stations that present the prochoice position. They often welcome a variety of positions. To say nothing is to endorse what is often an unchallenged prochoice bandwagon.

11. Students: Write papers, make speeches, and start a campus prolife group. See “Organizing a Student Prolife Organization” under Books on Prolife Strategies in Appendix D or K, PLA.

12. Display attractive prolife posters and information at your office or shop. You may lose a little business, and gain a little. But the truth will be served, and some innocent human lives will be saved.

Literature, Visuals, and Advertising

13. Order and distribute prolife literature. Have it displayed or available at your place of business. Leave it on your coffee table. Distribute literature door to door to influence opinion. An attractive piece left on each porch on a Saturday morning will be read by many. In some areas every home distribution has radically changed community sentiments about abortion. (See Appendix D or K, PLA, for a list of the best literature.)

14. Donate prolife books and magazine subscriptions to public and school libraries. They are usually well-stocked with prochoice literature—point out that you just want to provide a little balance and make sure the other position isn’t censored.

15. Use a pre-made prolife slide presentation, assemble your own, or buy a video tape, and offer to show it in schools, churches, to your neighbors and government representatives. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

16. Wear prolife symbols, precious feet pins, buttons, and shirts (Abort73.com sells some attractive prolife apparel). These often stimulate conversations. Use prolife bumper stickers or lawn signs. Place prolife stickers on letters. More than a dozen people see the average piece of mail. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

17. Place newspaper ads, bench ads, and billboard posters. Attractive pre-made ads and beautiful full-size billboard posters are available. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

Letter-Writing

18. Write letters to the editor. Be courteous, concise, accurate, and memorable. Quote brief references cited in ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments. Some local newspapers have a policy of printing every letter to the editor. The opportunity for influence is enormous. Letters to the editor in a major national magazine may be read by a million people.

19. Compile a list of names, addresses, and phone numbers of politicians, newspapers, television stations, hospitals, and others in your area that people can contact to express their prolife views. Distribute them widely.

20. Select the most strategic measures and issues and host a prolife letter-writing party. People can help each other compose informed and succinct letters to the right people and places. Since legislators and others assume there are a hundred others who feel the same way for every one that writes, there is considerable impact from each letter.

21. Write letters of encouragement to the sometimes tired and discouraged prolife activists.

Personal Conversation

22. Refuse any indirect or business support of abortion clinics, and explain your refusal. Boycott proabortion companies, landlords of abortion clinics, and businesses that share space with abortion clinics and abortion-promoters such as Planned Parenthood. Explain your reasons nicely, and they will often take you seriously.

23. Contact physicians and hospitals that perform abortions and insurance companies that cover them and express your convictions. Be polite but firm, stating that you, your family, and your business cannot in good conscience patronize those who contribute to the killing of innocent children. Does your own physician perform abortions? Ask him; you may be surprised to discover he does. If so, tell him you must reluctantly change doctors. Is your doctor prolife? Encourage him to take a public stand and participate in local prolife events. Share this book with him and ask his opinion of it.

24. Talk to journalists about your concern that they accurately represent the prolife side in their reporting. Many have never heard an accurate presentation of the prolife position. Until we present it to them, how can we expect them to be fair? Highlight sections of this book for their interest. Many will read what you provide, and some may use the material in future articles.

25. Talk to teachers, especially junior high, high school, and college teachers. Express your desire that they understand and be able to represent the prolife position rather than ignore or distort it. Whatever a teacher believes is multiplied a hundred times over in his students and those they in turn influence. Give them a copy of ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or Why ProLife? or other prolife books or videos. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

Political Action

26. Write to representatives and others in government at local, state, and national levels. Be respectful, legible, straightforward, brief, and nondefensive. Enclose attractive prolife literature. The more personal your letter the better. Pre-printed postcards are not as effective.

27. Personally phone or set up a meeting with your representatives to share your views on abortion. Groups of three are most effective. If possible include a prolife doctor or other professional. Be careful how you come across; show them prolifers are intelligent and rational.

28. Draft, circulate, and sign petitions for prolife ballot measures, school board members, and so on.

29. Run for political office, school board, or precinct chairman. Or stand by other prolife candidates with your time and money. The only possibility for there to be long-term restrictions on abortion is if our state legislatures have a prolife majority. Churches and prolife groups should identify and support character-qualified, knowledgeable, and skilled candidates.

30. Help a bright young prolifer through law school. Challenge him or her to set a goal of becoming a judge. The legal and judicial arenas, as well as the medical and political, desperately need intelligent and skilled prolifers.

Prolife Events

31. Picket abortion clinics, hospitals, and physicians who perform abortions. Write a brochure or fact sheet documenting their performance of abortions. When abortions are only part of their practice they are much more inclined to eliminate them to preserve their reputation in the community. But until they are exposed they usually won’t stop.

32. Make prolife signs for yourself and others. Make them large and attractive, with concise messages such as: Abortion Kills Babies. Adoption, not Abortion. Every Child Is Wanted by Someone. Give Your Baby a Chance to Choose. Please Let Your Baby Live. Equal Rights for Unborn Women. She’s a Baby, not a Blob. We Care; Talk to Us. We’ll Help Financially If You’ll Let Your Baby Live.

33. Organize or participate in a Life Chain, where hundreds or thousands of prolifers stand on public sidewalks and display signs supporting the unborn and opposing abortion. This is an extremely effective means of mobilizing prolifers and making a clear statement for the children. Many who begin with Life Chain will solidify a prolife commitment and get involved in future prolife activities. (See Life Chain under “Prolife Event and Action Organizations”, in Appendix D or K, PLA.)

34. Join prolife rallies and marches to galvanize prolife efforts. Have walk-a-thons and other projects to earn money for prolife groups. Get your children involved. They’ll love it, and it’s a great education as well as a family activity.

35. Attend prochoice rallies as a counter-demonstrator. Be peaceful. The quiet presence of your group and your signs will make others think and lead to conversations with passersby.

  1. Participate in peaceful nonviolent civil disobedience at the doorways of abortion clinics. Or do the legal sidewalk counseling, singing, or praying in conjunction with other prolife activities.

Abortion Clinic Strategies

37. Research and write a brochure on your local abortion clinic, citing specific lawsuits and health code violations, which are a matter of public record. Write a leaflet or brochure asking something like, “What Do You Know about the Third Street Abortion Clinic”? Make it neat and attractive, perhaps with a photo of the clinic on the front. Give this brochure to women coming to the clinic, neighbors, nearby businesses, and passersby. Include information from this book on physical and psychological risks of abortion. Or use pre-made brochures specially designed for women entering abortion clinics. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

38. Collect information and initiate lawsuits against abortion clinics. Place newspaper or billboard ads asking, “Problems after an abortion?” Give a local or national phone number to call for medical, legal, or emotional help. (1-800-634-2224, the American Rights Coalition, is already set up for this purpose.) Many abortion clinics have been shut down by successful lawsuits.

39. Hand out questionnaires and legal information to women entering and leaving clinics. Did you have a doctor-patient relationship? Did the doctor ask you for a complete medical history? Did he explain to you the possible complications of abortion? Did he show you a picture or explain to you the state of development of your unborn child? This will encourage them to reconsider their decision, to seek other counsel, or—if the abortion is over—not to come back for another abortion, and possibly to initiate legal action against the clinic. Include the number of an alternative pregnancy center where they can get complete and accurate information the clinic won’t give them.

40. Keep new abortion clinics out of your community by informing the public, writing letters to council members, and contacting potential landlords and real estate agents. Abortion clinics mean loss of business and declining property values to everyone due to public sentiment and frequent demonstrations. Those who do not respond to moral reasoning often do respond to public opinion and even more to financial loss. It is usually easier to keep a clinic out of an area than to shut it down once it’s there.

41. Rent space as close as possible to an abortion clinic or Planned Parenthood office and establish a pregnancy counseling clinic or prolife information center.

Influencing Your Church

42. Organize a prolife task force and target key church leaders for influence. Identify pastors and other strategic leaders and speak with them one by one. Give them literature and ask them to watch a video. Recruit prolife activists in your church who will help you formulate and implement a plan of education and mobilization. Ask your church leaders to include prolife activities and literature in the budget.

43. Set up a prolife table at church with the best prolife literature and materials. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.) The presence of the table itself is a vital reminder of the prolife cause.

44. Show in church services or classes prolife films and videos such as The Abortion Providers, The Hard Truth, and The Eclipse of Reason. Offer to pay the film rental yourself. (See Appendix D or K, PLA.)

45. Place a prolife newspaper ad, bench ad, or billboard with your church’s name and phone number, offering your help to pregnant girls. (See Appendix D or K, PLA, for pre-made ads.)

46. Take your church bus to prolife activities. Many people who won’t go alone will go with a group. Some will discover an aptitude for regular prolife ministry they would otherwise never have realized.

47. Have prolife emphasis Sundays, with special music, speakers, films, and literature. This should include, but not be limited to, the Sanctity of Human Life Sunday in mid-January. (Special bulletin inserts and materials are available from CareNet www.care-net.org and Right to Life of Michigan, www.rtl.org, listed in Appendix D or K, PLA.)

48. Bring prolife issues and opportunities to the attention of your pastor, Sunday school class, Bible study, or men’s, women’s, or youth group. Show them one of the videos listed in Appendix D or K, PLA. Provide relevant newspaper clippings and other information to inform your pastor and provide him with sermon ideas and illustrations. Give him ProLife Answers to ProChoice Arguments or Why Pro-Life? as a resource. Instead of expecting him to fulfill your prolife agenda, help him out by offering to be a resource and facilitator for him.

49. Start a group of sidewalk counselors from your church that go once or twice a week to talk to women outside abortion clinics. This is hard but rewarding work, and you need the camaraderie of others by your side. Some excellent sidewalk counseling materials are listed in Appendix D or K, PLA.

50. Pray daily for prolife ministries and victimized mothers and babies. Organize your own prayer group, perhaps combining prolife concerns with other vital needs, such as missions. Go to prolife rallies or sidewalk counseling and focus on the ministry of prayer. If the darkness of child-killing is to be overcome with the light of truth and compassion, it will require spiritual warfare, fought with humble and consistent prayer (Ephesians 6:10-20).

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Knowing Jesus

Jan 5, 2011 by

This was the first year that Elliot was able to participate with us in the “Trimming of the Tree”. Needless to say, he LOVED helping carry the balls from their box to our ready hands (which were not always so ready due to the lightning fast speed at which he was carrying them.) Our hands quickly filled up with these simple ornaments inscribed with the names of Jesus.

Let’s just say, the picture I had in my head of us slowly hanging each ball and reading them out loud to each other… even looking up verses to support a few of them didn’t quite come to fruition this year. It was more like a race to spit out those precious names and hang them on the tree before another ball broke. Ah well, that is the way it goes with a two year old. I am still glad that we have begun this tradition and look forward to next year when I suspect we will have more time to digest each name together.

Now as I sit next to our little Christmas tree and gaze at names such as “The Founder and Perfecter of our faith” I am reminded of how little I know Jesus. That might sound like an odd statement, but not if you knew what I just read a couple nights ago:

There is a direct correlation between not knowing Jesus well and not asking much from Him. A failure in our prayer life is generally a failure to know Jesus…  And the implication is that those who do ask-Christians who spend time in prayer-do it because they see that God is a great Giver and that Christ is wise and merciful and powerful beyond measure.” John Piper, Desiring God

The Founder and Perfecter of our faith. Wise. Merciful. Powerful beyond measure. How little I know my God. I ask so little of him and so much of myself, as though I am the founder and perfecter of my faith.

Where does Piper get this correlations between knowledge of the Holy God and our prayer life? In an oft overlooked place to be sure. It is the story of the Samaritan woman found in John 4:

“The Samaritan woman said to him, ‘How is it that you, a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a woman of Samaria?’ (For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, ‘If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.’”

This is the same idea that we get from Matthew 7:

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.  Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone?  Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!”

Do I pray? Yes. But not nearly enough. Not like I know him. Not like I’ve seen him calm a wave or raise a dead man to life. No, if I knew him like that I would ask him for anything and everything-all the time.

So I am asking the Lord Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of my faith, to perfect me. I want my husband to be able to say, “My wife knows the Lord; she asks him for miraculous blessings on my life and ministry.” I want my children to be able to say, “Our mother knows Jesus; she talks to him every day and asks him to protect our souls.” I want to be able to say, “I know the Lord. He answers my prayers and brings glory to himself through them.”


I want to know the Lord. Don’t you?

 

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Time to Take Hold

Dec 31, 2010 by

Last year I shared ten questions with you from Don Whitney’s website, Biblical Spirituality,  that are meant to help you plan, assess and look forward to the new year. This year, I am publishing the entire list of questions and I trust that it will be a blessing to you! So take a little time to think about your spiritual life in 2010 and how you want to grow in 2011.

Take Hold  of eternal life in 2011! (1 Timothy 6:12)

1. What’s one thing you could do this year to increase your enjoyment of God?

2. What’s the most humanly impossible thing you will ask God to do this year?

3. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your family life this year?

4. In which spiritual discipline do you most want to make progress this year, and what will you do about it?

5. What is the single biggest time-waster in your life, and what will you do about it this year?

6. What is the most helpful new way you could strengthen your church?

7. For whose salvation will you pray most fervently this year?

8. What’s the most important way you will, by God’s grace, try to make this year different from last year?

9. What one thing could you do to improve your prayer life this year?

10. What single thing that you plan to do this year will matter most in ten years? In eternity?”

11. What’s the most important decision you need to make this year?

12. What area of your life most needs simplifying, and what’s one way you could simplify in that area?

13. What’s the most important need you feel burdened to meet this year?

14. What habit would you most like to establish this year?

15. Who is the person you most want to encourage this year?

16. What is your most important financial goal this year, and what is the most important step you can take toward achieving it?

17. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your work life this year?

18. What’s one new way you could be a blessing to your pastor (or to another who ministers to you) this year?

19. What’s one thing you could do this year to enrich the spiritual legacy you will leave to your children and grandchildren?

20. What book, in addition to the Bible, do you most want to read this year?

21. What one thing do you most regret about last year, and what will you do about it this year?

22. What single blessing from God do you want to seek most earnestly this year?

23. In what area of your life do you most need growth, and what will you do about it this year?

24. What’s the most important trip you want to take this year?

25. What skill do you most want to learn or improve this year?

26. To what need or ministry will you try to give an unprecedented amount this year?

27. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your commute this year?

28. What one biblical doctrine do you most want to understand better this year, and what will you do about it?

29. If those who know you best gave you one piece of advice, what would they say? Would they be right? What will you do about it?

30. What’s the most important new item you want to buy this year?

31. In what area of your life do you most need change, and what will you do about it this year?

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Aren’t You Thankful?

Dec 25, 2010 by

As a mom it is so difficult to imagine being the mother of the the Lord. The difficulty is not so much in the “mother” part, but in the God incarnate part. How does God become a man? How does the infinitely Holy One put on the clothes of human flesh? How does the Creator lie helpless at a mother’s breast? It is simply amazing… every aspect of it. This is the miracle we celebrate at Christmas.

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” ~John 1:1-5

Taking the advice of a recent Girl Talk post, I reread the chapter in Knowing God titled “God Incarnate.” First of all, if you haven’t read Knowing God, you must… trust me, you must. Second of all I am so thankful that I reread this chapter (makes me want to reread the whole book…)! Packer covers a lot of material in this chapter, but one of the best parts is this paragraph:

“The Word had become flesh: a real human baby. He had not ceased to be God; he was no less God than before; but he had begun to be man. He was not now God minus some elements of his deity, but God plus all that he had made his own by taking manhood to himself. He who made man was now learning what it felt like to be man. He who made the angel who became the devil was now in a state in which he could be tempted-could not, indeed, avoid being tempted-by the devil; and the perfection of his human life was achieved only by conflict with the devil. The epistle to the Hebrews, looking up to him in his ascended glory, draws great comfort  from this fact.”

And the passages he is referring to in Hebrews:

He had to be made like his brothers in every way… Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted… For we do not have a hight priest who is unable to sympathize with your weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are- yet was without sin.Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” ~Hebrews 2:17-18; 4:15-16

Aren’t you thankful? Isn’t it amazing that the Lord knows the pull to sin that we feel. The one who can never sin, knows how our flesh pulls us toward sin every moment of the day. We don’t have a God who doesn’t sympathize with us! He knows how we struggle, but he gives us the power we need to overcome sin-the same power he used to overcome it! I am so thankful for this aspect of Christmas. Aren’t you?

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MMmmmmm…. Chocolate Cake

Aug 30, 2010 by

I will be honest… I am not the biggest cake fan. BUT honestly, this chocolate cake recipe is so yummy. My friend Amanda razzle dazzled us with this awesome cake on Friday night and I just had to share it with you. The icing is really thick and fudge-like, so if you like your icing softer, just add more water to the recipe. -But I recommend making it just as it is written. Enjoy!

Scotch Chocolate Cake

by Shirley Lanning

 

Cake Instructions

1.) Sift together:

2 cups flour

2 cups sugar

1 teaspoon soda

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1 teaspoon salt

 

2.) Bring to a boil and add to the above ingredients:

1/2 lb oleo or margerine (1 stick)

1/2 cup shortening

4 tablespoons cocoa

1 cup water

 

3.) Then add and mix well:

1/2 cup buttermilk

2 eggs beaten

 

4.) Bake at 375 degrees for 35 minutes.

Icing Instructions

1.) Bring to a boil:

1/4 cup margarine (1/2 stick)

4 Tablespoons cocoa

3 Tablespoons of water

 

2.) Gradually add:

1 lb. of powdered sugar

1 Tablespoon of water to get desired consistency

 

3.) Stir in:

1/2 cup Pecans

1/4 teaspoon salt

1/2 teaspoon vanilla

 

4.) Ice cake while hot.

 

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Three Questions to Ask the Text

Aug 25, 2010 by

Do you ever get done with your Bible reading and wonder what it is you just read? It is easy to let your mind wonder as your eyes move swiftly from word to word. Sometimes I am simultaneously reading, planning my day, worrying about the bills, and hurriedly scarfing down breakfast. But reading the Bible isn’t like reading the morning paper (who does that anymore?), it is the very Word of God profitable for teaching, reproof, correction and training in righteousness. Every sentence is important and worthy of my attention, but if I am not careful, reading it can become a task to get done rather than something I expect to transform my life. When I was younger my dearest friend and mentor, Chelle, taught me to ask these three questions every time I read my Bible:

 

  1. What does this passage say about God? Every part of the Bible is a revelation of God to us, even those long genealogies! It is so important to not miss God as we read, because we need to know him in order to love him. I don’t know about you, but I want to love him more and therefore I need to know him more.
  2. What does this passage say about me? Scripture searches our hearts bringing conviction, encouragement, and salvation. While the Bible is the story about a king, Jesus Christ, it is also a story about his people and the way he desires for them to live. It is our job to search this miraculous story for direction in our own lives.
  3. What am I going to do with this passage? In other words, what changes do I need to make in order to live out this portion of Scripture? It is important that we apply everything we learn from God so that we are “doers” of the word, not simply “hearers.” This is where we must translate the powerful truths of scripture into every day life. What needs to change in our speech, home life, work ethic, etc…?

 

These three questions taught me how to study my Bible for the purpose of growing closer to the Lord. They are not as far as you can go with a text, but they are a great starting point as  you learn to study and apply the Word of God to everyday life.

 

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Why We Must Dig Deeper

Aug 24, 2010 by

I will admit it. When I enter a Christian book store I head directly to the “Women’s” section. There are so many pretty, helpful, and interesting choices there. Not only do many of them answer questions I have been thinking about recently, but they are packaged in attractive, flower printed book covers. My heart races when I discover a new treasure by a beloved author and my fingers skip through its fresh, stiff pages with jubilee.

Most of the books written by women, for women, about women (in relationship to the Lord of course) have similar content. Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 make up the great majority of pages shared by these authors. These beautiful passages of scripture are some of the most specific teachings for Christian women and deserve as much attention as is possible to give. Besides the basic teachings of these passages (wifely submission, husband loving, loving children, being workers at home, purity, self-control, trust in the Lord, etc…) most women’s books give practical advice and personal experience to aid you in your quest to become a godly woman. These insights can range anywhere from raising children to decorating your home to physical intimacy with your husband. This is wonderful and exactly what is meant when the book of Titus says “older women are to teach what is good” and “so train the young women.” Discipleship from generation to generation is vital to every woman who desires to be the best woman/wife/mother she can be. We need the how-to notes for these passages in order to practically apply them to our own lives. Reading the advice and experience of older, godlier women gives us just that. But, it is dangerous and detrimental, to limit your spiritual reading to this category (or any other category for that matter) of books.

Just as our bodies need a balanced diet of food, our souls and minds need a balanced diet of knowledge. As women we gravitate toward self help type literature. We are programed to be practical people and love to find new tips and advice that we can instantly seek to apply to our lives. But if we are constantly filling our minds and hearts with “To-Do” or “How-To” lists we will quickly become overwhelmed in our Christian walks. Our daily lives will fail to focus on the Risen Lord and instead focus on reaching goals set by ourselves or an author.

It is important to remember that being a woman/wife/mother isn’t what defines us, but it is our God and our relationship to him that defines us. If we ever want to be wives and/or mothers who reflect the glory of God we must first and foremost see the glory of God for ourselves. We must dive deeply into the scriptures and into works of literature that explain the truths of God to us so that our minds can be opened to the vast beauty of our Savior and our hearts can be filled with the glory of his love toward us.

Often this means leaving the familiar and attractive Women’s section of the book store and heading on over to the Theology, Apologetics, or Biblical Commentary sections of the store. It is in these sections that we find the “why” behind the “how” of our daily lives. It is here that we learn why we are called to submit to our husbands (Marriage being a visible illustration of Christ and the church), serve faithfully in the church (God’s plan for the people of God), make our homes and our family our primary priority (God’s creative plan for man and woman), etc… It is within the pages of literature that focus on God that we find ourselves swept away by his holiness and planted firmly on the ground of sanctification. They give us motivation, understanding, and delight. Without a deep and growing understanding of the Lord, our attempts to be good wives, homemakers, mothers, neighbors, church members, etc… are in vain. We will constantly fail and constantly lack the pure desire to change if we have no vision of the Lord leading us ahead in our quest.

Practical is good. But I want to submit to you that nothing is more practical than theology (the study of God). Every piece of literature you read is putting forth some kind of practical theology, but if we don’t know the theology behind it, we will fail at the practical implications within it’s pages. Am I suggesting that we boycott the Women’s section of LifeWay? Absolutely not. What I am suggesting is that we bravely explore the more difficult and less obvious choices that are thankfully in abundance and by so doing grow ever closer to our Lord before we seek to grow closer to the perfect wife.

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Use Social Media for Spiritual Growth?

Aug 18, 2010 by

I don’t know about you, but I love being able to keep up with family and friends on Facebook. One recent way I have been using Facebook to deepen relationships and challenge my own walk with the Lord is by creating an accountability group.

 

This particular group is made up of five ladies who want to hold each other accountable to be in the Word every day. Here’s how it works: Every day we start a new message thread that is sent to all five ladies (You can make this process less painful by creating a list for your friends who are in your accountability group*).

 

Whoever has their time with the Lord first starts the thread. Each person responds to that thread as they complete their reading with one major truth the Lord impressed on them for the day through their reading. This makes sure that you are not just reading to get it over with, but you are actually reading for the purpose of application and transformation. Each day a new thread is started.

 

There are a few reasons my friends and I have found this method of accountability to be helpful. First, a lot of us are online during the day anyway, so why not do something edifying while we are there? Second, it is a helpful reminder to do your own reading when you get 5 emails throughout the day from Facebook telling you what your friends are learning during theirs. Third, it can be a great check on your priorities…. what business do we have staying connected with friends on Facebook if we are not staying connected with the Lord first? Fourth, seeing what the Lord is teaching others every day is a great encouragement! This will also give you helpful insight into what to be praying for your friends’ spiritual lives. Fifth, you could do this long distance very easily. Sixth, well… you get the picture, there are lots of reasons!

 

So, if you are using Facebook anyway, why not use it for this purpose as well? It is simple and can have great benefits! I would recommend keeping your group small (2-5 people) so that you can easily keep up with everyone.

 

*To create a list click on your “Friend” tab and then “+ Create a List” tab. Name your group and add your friends to it. Then whenever you send out a message just type in your group name instead of typing in every name on your list.

 

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Jul 6, 2010 by

Last night my sister-in-law and I were talking about how envious we can be of couples our age who already have homes (house homes, not apartment homes). After all, we could be such better hostesses if we just had more room to fit more people. For instance, just think of the wonderful holiday dinners I could host if I had a table that sat more than four people! We noted that the desire to have a house doesn’t usually poke up its head until we are visiting someone else’s house… then our apartments are seen for what they really are: depressingly small.

“Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.” -Galatians 5

Have you ever realized that you just can’t live without something even though you’ve been living without that very thing just fine? It seems like the sins of envy and discontent are permanently hibernating within my soul waiting to be awakened by the sight of a sparkly new toaster, a smart phone, a house, a larger dining room table. My life is happy and peaceful until my eyes lay hold of a new item that I simply must have. Then the turbulence rises within my heart and cries out “I really really need that;” my thoughts begin to revolve around it, and soon I am enslaved to it.

About a month ago I was helping my brother and his wife move into their new apartment down the road. It is their first home together and they have tons of beautiful, new kitchen utensils and appliances. I couldn’t help but envy their sharper than sharp knives or their four slotted toaster that has an option for bagels! Soon everything I had in my kitchen seemed like garage sale fodder.

“For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.”-Ephesians 5

 

What do we say about God when we have such thoughts? Surely when I spurn the things he has given me and chase after the things he has withheld I proclaim loudly that he hasn’t given me the good stuff. If he hasn’t given me the good stuff, then is he good?

“Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” -Matthew 6

God is good. Good is God. He defines what is perfect and beautiful and lovely. His very nature is all that is good. He doesn’t give out second rate blessings or less than wonderful gifts. All that I have is from him and therefore it is perfect. He is the only one who knows me for who I truly am. He knows my needs, desires, and my shortcomings. Not only that, but he knows my future! His gifts are perfect because they come from the one who knows exactly what I need and when I need it. Just as he gives me what I truly need, he withholds the things I don’t need. He doesn’t just have my desires in mind, but my soul, my good.

Laying in bed last night, staring into the face of my beautiful little boy (peacefully sleeping in the co-sleeper next to me), I thanked God for the countless gifts he has given me. From the important ones like my sons to the simple ones like a comfortable bed to sleep in. He has withheld nothing from me, nothing that is for my good. I’ve got plenty of the good stuff.

“I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” -Philippians 4


 

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On Motherhood and Tiny Men

Jun 15, 2010 by

Who am I that the Lord would give me the responsibility of raising these precious tiny men? Surely he knows my weakness, my selfishness, my laziness. Surely he has not forgotten the many times I have brought shame upon his name or the times I have worshiped other gods. No, of course he has not forgotten. Yet, he has chosen this foolish woman to care for and nurture the souls of these precious little ones. This quest will test every inch of me and bring me to the cross time and time again.

Oh Lord, may I never attempt to raise these men without your Spirit. May my heart cling to the power you have lavished upon me through your Son as I strive to impart wisdom and discipline. May they grow up to be men who glorify your name and fight for your Kingdom, your honor. Let these tiny feet go to nations in need of the light of the gospel; let these little hands care for the poor and needy; let these wide eyes gaze upon the beauty of the Savior and be moved by it. May their voices be filled with the words of the Most High God and their actions driven by them.

It is a weighty task to raise tiny men into mighty Christ-followers, weighty and honorable. My strength is nothing and my talents are worthless… it is Christ who must take up this task through me and I who must fade into the background of my life. He is the one who will nourish their souls, who will give wisdom and insight to their minds. He will love them as they could never be loved by another and will show them the path of godliness. I am simply a vessel for the Lord to use as he wills in the lives of my tiny men.

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Recipe: Southwest Roll Ups

May 21, 2010 by

Recipe: Southwest Roll Ups

I love this easy recipe I found at MoneySavingMom.com. It is simple to put together and great for a quick lunch you can just pull out of the freezer. Instead of reheating them in the oven, I just stick them in the microwave for 2:30-3 minutes each.

Southwest Roll Ups

Ingredients:

Directions:

  1. Mix together beans, salsa, and chicken. Spread 1/8 of mixture onto one tortilla. Sprinkle with cheese. Roll up and turn ends under. Stick in a freezer bag or in a 9×13 baking pan and freeze.
  2. When ready to bake, thaw and bake in a pre-heated 350 degrees oven for 20-30 minutes until heated through. Sprinkle with more shredded Cheddar cheese, if desired. Serve with salsa.

 

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How to Properly Load a Dishwasher

May 19, 2010 by

I don’t know about you, but I hate it when I open the dishwasher to find that my glasses and bowls are still dirty! Usually I just blame the dishwasher or the detergent, but sometimes it is my fault. I must have missed the memo about a “correct” way of loading the dishwasher, but apparently there is. I did some research and compiled a list of tips to help make your (and my) dishwasher more efficient. Some of these tips you may already know, but some you may not, so take a look and share your own tips if I missed anything!

 

  1. Quickly rinse dishes before putting them in to get the chunks of food off.
  2. Put glasses, coffee mugs, plastic containers, and large utensils in the top rack of the dishwasher to keep them from breaking or melting.
  3. Place bowls down the center of top rack.
  4. Make sure to put glassware (as well as sippy cups!) on prongs so that they are held in place better.
  5. If you are washing fragile items leave space between each of them to ensure they don’t vibrate against each other during the wash.
  6. Dishes, large bowls and other items that need greater water pressure go on the bottom rack.
  7. Put cookie sheets and platters along the sides of the bottom rack so they don’t prevent water flow.
  8. Face items like plates in the same direction, facing toward the middle for best water flow.
  9. Put pots and dishes with baked-on food  in the bottom rack facing down so that they get as much water pressure as possible.
  10. Load silverware with handles down (except for knives….point them down) in the basket provided.
  11. When loading utensils into their compartment mix them up so that all the spoons don’t “spoon” each other and trap food and grease.
  12. Make sure that large or tall items do not hinder the washing arm from rotating freely when the tray is pushed in.
  13. Don’t place large/tall items near the front or they may keep the detergent cup from opening during the cycle.
  14. Don’t put extremely large bowls and pots in the dishwasher and expect your dishes to come out looking clean. Why? All the water is being trapped in those few items and not reaching the others. As sad as it sounds, wash them by hand.
  15. A full dishwasher runs best, so fill it up before running.
  16. Fill both cups with a good dishwasher detergent.
  17. If necessary use a rinse agent.

Some of these tips were shockers to me. For instance, I love separating all of the utensils into their own compartment (mostly because it makes putting them away easier), but this truly does limit their ability to get clean. I will admit that I have put HUGE pots into the dishwasher hoping that they (and the rest of my dishes will get clean), but they never do… I always end up hand washing them anyways. So, here’s to more productive dishwashers–and happier operators!

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My Most Perfect Baked Mac ‘N Cheese

May 11, 2010 by

I am obsessed with Macaroni and Cheese. I like it in any form. Straight from the blue box or from a fancy Italian restaurant. You just can’t go wrong with its creamy, cheesy, goodness. It IS the ultimate comfort food-don’t even try to fight me on it.

When I am not making it from the blue box for lunch, I usually bake it for when we have company over. It gives it an air of formality and pairs well with a salad and bread. My favorite recipe? One that I have perfected over time from a Kraft recipe. The great thing about it is that you probably have most of the ingredients in your pantry and fridge already. Additionally, you will not need any measuring utensils to make this perfect dish.

Jessalyn’s Most Perfect Baked Mac ‘N Cheese

Ingredients:

  • One box Kraft Deluxe Macaroni and Cheese (whichever flavor you prefer)
  • Shredded Cheddar Cheese
  • Milk
  • Sour Cream
  • 5 strips of cooked Bacon
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • Cayenne Pepper
  • Ritz Crackers
  • Butter

Directions:

  1. Make Macaroni and Cheese according to box directions. (Do not overcook noodles. Keep in mind that they will cook longer in the oven as well, so a little-too-hard noodles are better than a little-too-soft noodles.)
  2. Mix in two big handfuls of cheddar cheese.
  3. Add a splash of milk.
  4. Add two big spoonfuls of sour cream (about 8 oz.).
  5. Rip bacon into inch long pieces and add to mixture.
  6. Mix in salt and pepper to taste.
  7. Pour mixture into a greased, glass baking dish.
  8. Sprinkle sparingly with pepper and cayenne pepper.
  9. Crush Ritz Crackers over the top of Mac ‘N Cheese until the entire surface is covered.
  10. Sprinkle again with cayenne pepper (mostly for looks….if you think this will be too hot you can substitute paprika at this point).
  11. Melt a stick of butter.
  12. Pour melted butter over Ritz topping.
  13. Cover with tin foil.
  14. Bake at 375 degrees for approximately 25 minutes or until edges are boiling.
  15. Uncover and bake until top is golden brown.
  16. Let sit for 10 minutes before serving.
  17. Enjoy!

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Easter Traditions

Apr 2, 2010 by

Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children—how on the day that you stood before the Lord your God at Horeb, the Lord said to me, “Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.”

Deuteronomy 4:9-10

 

I know there are some Christians who believe that we should not celebrate Easter or Christmas differently than any other day of the year. To do so would be to imply that we do not pay special attention to the birth, crucifixion, and resurrection of Christ every day as we ought. I understand this line of reasoning, and believe that we should do our utmost to treasure Christ in every moment of every day of every year… and yet I also believe that God-centered celebrations can be a useful tool to “take care” and “keep [our souls] diligently, lest [we] forget the things [our] eyes have seen, and lest they depart from [our hearts] all the days of [our lives]” as this passage from Deuteronomy encourages the Israelites. This is exactly why God instituted so many feasts and celebrations throughout the Old Testament.

 

But Easter, as well as Christmas, can also just be a time when we say we are celebrating Christ, but in reality we give very little of our time and attention to him. Symbolic traditions, not just traditions, can be a way to help focus our minds and instruct our children in the wonder of the joy we receive from our salvation in Christ. During the Christmas season I shared some of the ways that we, as a family, were trying to be purposeful in our traditions. In the same way I want to build Easter traditions that focus around our God and King.

It is surprisingly difficult to find a wealth of information about Christian Easter traditions. Most of what you find on the internet is saturated with bunnies and eggs, but there were a few gems that I was able to bookmark and hope to incorporate into our own celebration. Here they are in no particular order:

1. In most of the world lamb, not ham, is the traditional Easter meat and with good reason. The symbolism is obvious! “Behold, the lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world.” (John 1:29) Just as the sacrificial lamb was a symbol for the Israelites, eating lamb on Easter can be a symbol for us of the sacrifice of the perfect lamb of God for our sins.

2. For many people Hot Cross Buns are a traditional Easter food. These sweet, fruit filled buns display a cross on top of them to help remind us of the reason for our celebration. Here is a link to a recipe.

3. Apparently in much of Europe, Italian Easter Bread, is a common tradition. The cross braiding of the dough is meant to remind you of the crown of thorns, while the decorative eggs are a symbol of the new life found in Christ. This is also a sweet bread. Here is a link to a recipe.

4. Easter eggs in general are supposed to be symbolic of new life. In some traditions they color the eggs red to represent the blood of Christ. In others you crack open the eggs on Easter morning symbolizing Jesus’ tomb breaking open. There is even a game for children (and adult men I would presume) where each person holds an egg in their fist and you sort of fist pump each other until one of the eggs breaks. Whoever’s egg doesn’t break is the winner (Again, the breaking of the egg is reminiscent of the tomb breaking open). In some cultures the decorated eggs are the first food handed out on Easter morning with the traditional, “He is risen!” accompanying the hand off and “Indeed he is!” being the thank you from the recipient. In some homes, only one egg is eaten by every member of the family symbolizing the unity of the body of Christ.

5. Similar to the Advent Candles of Christmas, many people do the opposite for Easter. You start out with lit candles and over time blow them all out until there are none left on Good Friday. You can do it over the entire Lent season, the holy week, or even simply on Good Friday itself. This tradition symbolizes the death of the “Light of the World.” On Easter morning all of the candles are lit to represent the resurrection.

6. Just as wine (or grape juice) represent the blood of Christ when we take communion, it can do the same soul stirring service during our Easter Celebrations.

7. Extended Family Worship is a great way to make Easter different from other days. Taking time to read prophecies regarding the suffering and exaltation of Christ and then their fulfillment is the most obvious way of focusing our hearts and minds as a family on Christ. Choose songs to sing that focus on the crucifixion and resurrection to continue with the same theme.

8. Fasting has always been a part of this season as a way of seeking closer fellowship to the Lord and even mourning his death on the cross. Fasting from Friday night to Sunday morning would be a great tradition to start in order to symbolize the darkness that was felt as the Son of God physically died and then the joy felt as he returned.

9. The new clothes that many people wear on Easter Sunday are symbolic of the new life we put on when we repent and believe in the risen Lord.

10. The American tradition of eating ham on Easter can be symbolic of the old covenant being replaced by the new due to the fact that the Israelites were not permitted to eat “unclean meats” such as ham. Once Christ had fulfilled the law, God made it clear to Peter that all foods including those once forbidden were now clean. Adults and older children will benefit from the symbolism of Gentiles being grafted into the covenant.

11. Resurrection Buns are an adorable tradition to start with your children. Together you make these simple buns that are wrapped around a big marshmallow. When they are done baking the marshmallow has been melted and incorporated into the dough leaving a gigantic hole in the middle of the bun. When the children tear open the buns to look for their marshmallow they are surprised to find that it is missing just as Christ was missing from the tomb. Here is a link to a recipe.

I am sure that there are many more ideas out there. Do you know of any that I haven’t listed? I am particularly looking for some kind of symbolic side dish. Obviously none of these symbols will mean anything if we fail to think deeply on the truths behind them and explain them to our children, but they are great ways to help us in our pursuit of Christ-centered Easters.

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An End To Your Work Day

Mar 30, 2010 by

A mother’s job is never done. But can a housekeeper’s, a school teacher’s, or a blogger’s job end at 5 o’clock with the rest of the world? Of course it can! As homemakers, we wear many different hats and some of those need to be taken off both mentally and physically at some point in time or your day will simply turn into one overstressed, unproductive mush. Having a cut off time for certain household duties is beneficial in many ways.

First, it gives you incentive to work hard up until that designated point in time. It is much easier to put your nose to the grindstone when you have a light at the end of the tunnel to keep you going. When you feel like giving up or surfing the web, remember that you have time for that on your “off” hours. Alternatively, deluding yourself with the prospect of a never ending work day can result in procrastination and frustration.

Another helpful aspect to shutting down shop around 5pm is the ability to refocus and recharge before your husband gets home from work. Let your husband come home to a peaceful, quiet home and a peaceful, quiet wife while you are at it! If you plan to have dinner on the table at 6pm, you will have plenty of time to leisurely prepare the meal and spruce up a bit before your love returns from a hard day at work.

Another benefit to retiring for the night is your ability to focus on family time. It is difficult to give your whole heart and mind to your husband and children when  you still have the day’s cares hovering above you like a black cloud. This small amount of time you have with your family every night is precious and should not be taken lightly. It is especially precious to your husband, who spends much of his day outside the home and looks forward to your company when he returns. Some of the most important family activities happen in the evening, from dinner to family worship to bath time to romantic rendezvous. Let your heart, body and mind be all there during these precious times.

One last benefit to cutting off some duties when your husband gets home is that he will not feel as though he needs to help you in those activities. He has been working hard all day and envisions this as his time to relax and rejuvenate, but he can’t truly do this unless you are as well. Watching you fold laundry while he relaxes will only make him feel guilty and you feel bitter in the process!

Now, I am not proposing that you put aside your duties as wife and mother. Dinner still has to be prepared and served, babies still need to be nursed, bathed, and put to bed, and much much more. However, there are specific duties that you can designate to your “work day” and others that you can designate to your “off time.” In order to achieve this reality there are certain disciplines that need to be cultivated every day, here are a few:

  1. Have a plan for your day. It doesn’t have to be a minute by minute guide, but having a general plan laid out will help you know what you need to accomplish before the “whistle blows” for the end of your work day. Ideally this should be done before your time off so that you don’t have tomorrow’s to-do list hanging over your head while you are trying to relax. Give yourself 10-15 minutes at the end of every work day to plan the next day’s duties.
  2. Get to work on the hard things first. We all have those specific tasks that we dread doing every day. Whether it is vacuuming or cleaning the tub, getting it done first thing will aid your desire to be productive and spur you on throughout the rest of the day.
  3. Do the most important things on your list next. With the painful, but necessary tasks out of the way, move on the most important tasks. These will vary day by day, but you don’t want them to get looked over as you go about your business. If you do look them over, the chances of you getting to relax when your husband gets home are greatly decreased.
  4. Make as many nighttime chores daytime chores as you can. For instance, if you normally unload and load the dishwasher after dinner or before you go to bed consider moving your dishwashing routine to the middle of the day. After lunch is through, run the dishwasher and unload it before you call it quits for the day. Then all you will have to do before bed is load the dinner dishes. Maybe you could move bath time for the little ones to a less hectic time during the day. If so, that is one less thing you will have to do before the kids go down. Simply setting out the kid’s diapers and pajamas for bed time (before you stop working for the day) is a huge help when you are trying to simplify your nighttime routine, plus it makes you feel prepared for the night.
  5. Take the necessary steps to be able to call it quits. You can’t truly call it quits if the house is still in disarray when the quitting bell rings! The last 30 minutes of your day will have to be dedicated to a thorough pic up in order to make quitting a reality. This means that if you desire to stop working at 5pm, you must begin preparing to stop working a little after 4! Imagine how peaceful you would be if, at around 4:15pm you began picking up the house, looking for loose ends that need to be tied (like a clean load of laundry that needs to be put away or dishes that need to be unloaded). You are able to accomplish these last minute details, light a few candles, and put on a pot of coffee to enjoy before you start cooking dinner. Then, at 4:45pm you sit down with the your cup of coffee and plan out the next day. Depending on how long your dinner preparations are going to take, you may even have time to pray for a little bit thanking the Lord for the things you were able to accomplish and asking him to prepare your heart to be ready for your husband. It all sounds rather ideal does it not? Imagine how different your nights could be with just a little bit of planning!
  6. When it is quitting time, quit! As you are planning out the next day include the tasks that you were unable to get to today (and of course there will probably be some depending on how long you make your lists). Most household chores will not blow up if they are left for the next day and unless something completely unexpected happened you were able to get to the most important things that needed to be done, done. It isn’t as easy as it sounds to quit because a lot of the things we do can be done in just a few minutes, but remember that your off time is designated to other important things like preparing dinner, reading to your kids, or enjoying your husband’s company. These things are just as important (sometimes more) as matching a pair of socks or windexing a window.
  7. Keep your plan for the next day handy. Though it is wise to make this plan before you quit for the day, having it handy so that you can add duties or activities as they come to mind is very helpful. As soon as you think of something or see something that needs to get done jot it down so that it does not weigh on you throughout the night.
  8. Make the “pick-up” habit second nature. If you aren’t going to dedicate yourself to cleaning after 5, then you will need to be diligent in the upkeep of the house from then on out. Keeping a tidy house must become part of our very nature as homemakers if we are to be able to enjoy a clean home for more than 15 minutes! Just take the time as you are enjoying your family to leave every room you spend time in nice and tidy.
  9. View your tasks after 5pm as enjoyable, relaxing activities. It is obvious that no matter how much you get done before you quit for the day, there are certain activities as wives and mothers that will have to be done during the night time. However, viewing them as enjoyable, relaxing activities rather than more chores will make your evenings much less stressful. Cooking, if you are not strapped for time, can be a therapeutic and creative endeavor. Bathing your children and putting them to bed should be an enjoyable, memory making activity. Unfortunately these things can become stressful tasks in and of themselves if you have not done the necessary preparations or accomplished enough ahead of time.

Being part of a family is hard work, being the mother or wife in that family is even harder work. However, evenings should be reserved for relaxing and fellowship with your husband and family as a means of service to them. The whole work day is devoted to serving your husband through working diligently in your home while he is out, let him enjoy the home  you have prepared for him by letting him enjoy you.


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The Gift of a Spirit

Mar 2, 2010 by

“These considerations make us wonder if God’s spirituality should perhaps be called an incommunicable attribute. To do so would indeed be appropriate in some ways, since God’s being is so different from ours. Nevertheless, the fact remains that God has given us spirits in which we worship him…, in which we are united with the Lord’s spirit…, with which the Holy Spirit joins to bear witness to our adoption in God’s family…, and in which we pass into the Lord’s presence when we die…. Therefore there is clearly some communication from God to us of a spiritual nature that is something like his own nature, though certainly not in all respects. For this reason it also seems appropriate to think of God’s spirituality as a communicable attribute.”

-Wayne Grudem, Systematic Theology

I have been tossing this idea around in my head for the past couple of weeks trying to grasp its weightiness. God’s word tells us that he “is spirit” (John 4:24) and that spacial dimensions cannot hold him: “But will God indeed dwell on the earth? Behold, heaven and the highest heaven cannot contain you; how much less this house that I have built!” (1 Kings8:27) There is a part of his nature that is completely unlike anything our world can see, touch, or understand. Perhaps this is one of the biggest hindrances for the modern mind when presented with the idea of God. His spirituality is not something that can be tested by the scientific method or even pass the tests of reason or logic (as we define them). It is wholly incomprehensible. Our world is fashioned with matter, molecules and energy and we tend to think in these terms, reason with these terms. “Instead of these ideas of God, we must say that god is spirit. Whatever this means it is a kind of existence that is unlike anything else in creation. It is a kind of existence that is far superior to all our material existence. We might say that God is ‘pure being’ or ‘the fullness of essence of being.’” (Grudem)

We certainly are very unlike God in this way because we are limited. Our spirits were created by his spirit; they have a beginning. Our spirits are limited to one space while his is completely everywhere. Yet, these spirits of ours are mysterious, incomprehensible things themselves. In each material body the Creator placed an immortal, invisible soul… something that was like his own. Scientists debate the very existence of a soul just as they debate the existence of God himself-perhaps because they must disbelieve the validity of a soul if they disbelieve the validity of a Spiritual God. What purpose is there for a spirit if there is nothing for it to relate to beyond itself, if there is nothing like itself. But there is a Spiritual God and he chose to create men in his likeness. He chose to separate them from the rest of creation by giving them spirits that resembled his own… that resembled him.

This reminds me of the importance of the soul. Last week we looked at 1 Peter 3 and the priority that God puts on us cultivating the “inner person of the heart.” It occurs to me that our spiritual nature is all that has lasting value. These bodies are quickly fading growing more and more tired, broken, and diseased. Soon “the dust returns to the earth as it was, and the spirit returns to God who gave it.” (Eccl. 12:7) We will all, as Jesus vocally admitted on the cross, commit our spirits into the Father’s hands (Luke 23:46) when or mortal bodies fail. What kind of spirit do I want to commit to the Lord on that day?

It is a wonderful thing to realize our spirits were not made to resemble the things of this earth, but our loving God. It is ok that science cannot explain them, or that logic cannot understand them. God is beyond these arguments as well and he is the one we resemble. Just as a child is marked by a likeness to his biological parents, we as children of God are marked by our spiritual nature. It is not something that we should shy away from, but something that we should cling to and be grateful for.  Just as all creation points to the powerful, creative, and beautiful Creator, our souls point to his personal and real spiritual existence. Today I am thanking God for the gift of my spirit…. that it is like his. But, more importantly, I am asking God to make it truly like his in holiness.

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1 Peter 3:1-6

Feb 22, 2010 by

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husband, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives-when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing-but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

Pink passages. They are the words God wrote directly to us as women. They are words that describe exactly what he expects from us and teach us how, through his grace and power, we can please his heart. I am very grateful for these special places in the Bible because they remind me that God created women for glorious, beautiful and specific purposes. He knows that we have our own unique set of temptations and preoccupations, and rather than leaving us to grasp for direction he gently shows us how to overcome our sinful flesh and be women who glorify his name.

In 1 Peter we hear the familiar call to wifely submission, but for an additional purpose. Submission is the attitude that every wife is called to by the Lord (Eph 5:22; Col 3:18; 1 Tim 2:9-15; Titus 2:4-5), but in this case submission is also motivated by a desire to see one’s husband repent and believe in the Lord. The respectful and pure conduct that this wife maintains is attractive and winsome to her husband for the purpose of salvation.

It is easy to look at this passage and assume that it doesn’t hold any relevance to the wife who is blessed with a believing husband, but that notion is completely false. The wife of an unbeliever is not called to have more godliness then the wife of a believer is. Both are called to the high standard of holiness and both must display it through their submission to their respective husbands. The wife of a believer testifies to the world just as the 1 Peter wife is testifying to her husband.

But also as our supreme motivation, we have this small phrase, “…which in God’s sight is very precious.” Do we not desire above all else to appear precious before our Lord? What greater reward can their be in this life, or the one after for that matter, than to be counted as cherished by our creator?

In this passage the Lord explains submission in a few different ways. He describes our conduct as needing to be respectful and pure. We must tend our spiritual growth and aim towards being gentle and quiet women rather than harsh and overbearing. I love how he warns us to not get caught up in physical appearances, but to value our souls and their growth above all else. The most beautiful of women can be ugly in the sight of her husband and her God if her life is epitomized by bitterness, anger, pride, or selfishness. We are told to model ourselves after the holy women of the past by doing good and fearing nothing.

These instructions are good to hear. They are like bumpers on a bowling lane, keeping my heart from getting side tracked and losing purpose. It is so easy to lose focus and begin rolling down the gutters of self-service and self-love. I want to be respectful, pure, gentle, quiet, good, and brave. I want to be precious to my Lord.

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A Morsel of B.M. Palmer

Feb 16, 2010 by

“The fact is, that all comparisons between the [husband and wife], as to which should be pronounced the worthier are shallow and impertinent. Each is the best in its place; and neither is perfect without the other. The distinction of sex runs through the entire nature of both, so that they differ as truly in their spiritual, as in their corporeal structure; but this very distinction forbids the comparison between the two. What is called the weakness of woman is really her strength. It springs from the more exquisite delicacy of her organization, both intellectual and physical, by which she is fitted for the more delicate and tender offices which she is called to discharge. The dependence to which all this adapts her is not her degradation, but her glory. It betrays, then only the folly of him who is unable to distinguish betwixt subordination and inferiority; and who fails to remember that subordination in office often obtains where there is absolute equality in rank. There is not a bitterer bitter to a true woman than this disparagement, which degrades her in the eyes of him she is herself bound to honor.”

-The Family, by B.M. Palmer

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Not a Care in the World

Jan 20, 2010 by

One night as we were sitting around marveling at our son who was contentedly grinning from ear to ear, Richard made the simple statement: Look at him, he doesn’t have a care in the world! This statement came amidst a conversation about jobs, tuition, and homes. In comparison, our lives certainly seem full of “cares.”

In my heart however, this mother knows that her little boy is full of cares, though they may seem small and insignificant compared to our own. They revolve around food and being alone and being stuck in a car seat longer than desired. They usually are a result of a lack of knowledge or understanding. He doesn’t realize that the bottle he’s so desirous of is just minutes away in the microwave, or that he must be strapped into a car seat for his own safety. These are things that we know, but he doesn’t. As a result he gets mad, angry, worried, or upset. If only he could learn to trust his loving parents and believe that they always have his good in mind, that they will always take care of him, that they want for him to be happy.

You can see where I am going with this can’t you? We are all too much like that little child who doesn’t understand why his parents are making him sit buckled into that car seat way longer than desired. We are just like that little baby who doesn’t believe that the bottle is on its way until it is in its mouth. To our Lord and Heavenly Father our cares and worries seem so small, so easily taken care of, so obviously necessary at times. We fret over jobs when he controls every company in the world. We worry over finances when he owns every treasury on the planet. We grow frustrated when we are forced to wait for something that the Lord is obviously holding back for a reason.

Our cares may seem more weighty, but to God they are just as simple, just as needless. He is intimately acquainted with them and has not forgotten or overlooked what concerns our hearts.

“I tell you, my friends, do not fear those who kill the body, and after that have nothing more that they can do. But I will warn you whom to fear: fear him who, after he has killed, has authority to cast into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him! Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.” Luke 12:4-7 (bold me)

“And he said to his disciples, “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat, nor about your body, what you will put on. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing. Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds!  And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?  If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest? Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.  But if God so clothes the grass, which is alive in the field today, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, how much more will he clothe you, O you of little faith! And do not seek what you are to eat and what you are to drink, nor be worried. For all the nations of the world seek after these things, and your Father knows that you need them. Instead, seek his  kingdom, and these things will be added to you.”  Luke 12:22-31 (bold me)

We serve a powerful and loving God. It is good that he is powerful because it means that he can do anything! He can open up that new job for you; he can provide the money you need to meet your budget; he can provide the road for you to accomplish your goals.

He can.

But sometimes he doesn’t.

Sometimes he takes longer than we would like him to.

Sometimes he gives us something different.

That is why it is important that he is a loving God. He isn’t up there in the sky playing pranks on us, or musing over how we mess up our lives. He loves us. He loves us. He knows what is best for us. Sometimes he joyfully gives us exactly what we desire. Sometimes he knows that what we desire isn’t good for us or for others. Sometimes he desires to teach us something as we wait for him. Sometimes he has something better in mind.

But he always has the best thing in mind.

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,  for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (bold mine)

So, if you are in a place where you feel the cares and anxieties of the world weighing on your shoulders remember that you have a loving Father who is bigger than your “problems.” In fact, he is orchestrating those problems for your good. He is using them for purposes you may not be able to see and only asks that you trust him. Trust the one who holds the universe in the palm of his hand and loved you enough to die for you.

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Why Abortion is the Slavery of Our Times

Jan 9, 2010 by

FACTS:

National abortion statistics in the U.S. are only available from two sources, privately from The Alan Guttmacher Institute (AGI) and federally from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). Since Alaska, California and New Hampshire do not provide abortion data to the federal government, and since California accounts for more abortions than any other state in the U.S, the CDC numbers are somewhat speculative. AGI, on the other hand, is the research arm of Planned Parenthood, the world’s largest abortion provider. While their data is helpful, they certainly have a position and agenda in regard to abortion. The following information has been gleaned from both sources to provide an overview of the frequency and demography of abortion.

  • In 2005 (the most recent year for which there is reliable data), approximately 1.21 million abortions took place in the U.S., down from an estimated 1.29 million in 2002, 1.31 million in 2000 and 1.36 million in 1996. From 1973 through 2005, more than 45 million legal abortions have occurred in the U.S. (AGI).
  • At least 80% of all abortions are performed on unmarried women (CDC).
  • 50% of U.S. women obtaining abortions are younger than 25; women aged 20-24 obtain 33% of all U.S. abortions and teenagers obtain 17% (AGI).
  • 47% of women who have abortions had at least one previous abortion (AGI).
  • Black women are more than 4.8 times more likely than non-Hispanic white women to have an abortion, and Hispanic women are 2.7 times as likely (AGI).
  • On average, women give at least 3 reasons for choosing abortion: 3/4 say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or other responsibilities; about 3/4 say they cannot afford a child; and 1/2 say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their husband or partner (AGI).

I still remember looking at my high school text book in horror that day. I couldn’t take my eyes off of the small picture at the bottom of the page. It was a rendering of the layout of a slave ship bound for the Americas. The picture showed rows and rows of African people chained to each other, each having less than a coffin’s amount of space to move and live during the horrible journey. I gasped as I read about the “troughs” that lined the rows of slaves for their excrement to flow through. My imagination jumped from face to face as I thought of the mothers, fathers, children, grandparents on that ship; all plucked from their human lives to become worthless possessions of the white man.

Another distinct memory I have in regard to slave ships is more recent and from the movie Amazing Grace. The scene burned into my memory is of William Wilberforce touring one such ship. He is shown a place where the women were chained up in a standing position for the shipmates to rape over and over and over again. What could be going through her mind during those hopeless months of sea travel but that she was dead, no longer human?

How would you like to be on the wrong side of history? How would you like to be a slave owner who would one day be seen as a villain, a devil. The fact is that the general population of the “civilized” world believed that slavery was normal, even a good thing. The vast majority of these people believed the lie that Africans were not people-they were possessions, like livestock. The perception of the black man was that he couldn’t think or reason for himself and therefore he needed a white man to do those things for him. His destiny was in the hands of the white man and whatever he felt was “best.”

We look at people like Abraham Lincoln and William Wilberforce and applaud their efforts in the face of adversity. We marvel at their passion and unwavering pursuits of justice. We are forever grateful for the changes they brought about through blood, sweat, and tears. Yet, for every one person like these men there were thousands of indifferent, uncaring, or anti abolitionary men in the “civilized” world. These two men were not the norm for society, they were most certainly the exception.

I look at the abortion movement in similar fashion. When I think about the overwhelming public opinion that is either indifferent or “pro-choice” I sometimes feel as though it is a hopeless cause. How can so many people be so blind to the massive genocide that is taking place within our own borders. How can we yet again dehumanize our fellow human beings to the point where we advocate their deaths for the convenience and “happiness” of the mothers carrying them? We say that we will never be so ignorant as to allow another Holocaust to happen. “NEVER AGAIN!” we shout. And yet just as the Nazi regime convinced a nation that Jewish people were not really people, we have believed the lie that unborn children are simply property that a mother can dispose of whenever it is inconvenient for her to care for it any longer. I believe that one day we will be standing in a land where abortion is seen for what it truly is, selfish murder, and that one day we will look back on those who so adamantly stood for “women’s freedom” with the same incredulous anger we feel toward slave traders, slave owners, and the Nazis.

Yet, what are we doing to abolish abortion? I may not be actively fighting for abortion, but what am I doing to end it? These are questions Richard and I have been mulling over and praying about lately. If we believe that abortion is murder and know that more than 1 million helpless babies are being murdered every year in our country it is not enough to sit around and lament our countries indifference. It is not enough to agree with our friends as they speak of the injustices done at abortion clinics. It is not enough to mourn over “pro-choice” legislation as it glides through our government. It is our Christian duty and our American obligation to fight for the rights of children who cannot fight for themselves.

I often wonder what side of history I would be on…

Would I have stood back and watched as Wilberforce spent much of his life fighting for the end of the slave trade in England? Or would I have stood beside him, sharing in his failures, his set backs, his shame and fighting for a cause full of righteousness and honor. Would I have shared in his victory, or been ashamed of my lack of involvement?

Would I be an indifferent American (Christian even) who didn’t want to rock the boat during the civil rights movement? Or would I have walked with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. in the march for equal rights for all human beings? Would I have stood beside my African American brothers and sisters as they fought to be treated as human beings and not second class citizens?

Would I have followed the propaganda of the Nazi regime and disowned all my Jewish friends and neighbors? Would I have turned a blind eye to the death camps they were sent to? Or would I have sounded the bell, bravely standing up against a satanic government though it could cost me my life?

Richard and I have come to the conclusion that if we are not actively involved in the “pro-life” movement, we might as well count ourselves guilty of each of the former atrocities listed. Standing by and mourning the lack of morality in our country is not enough. The people in our country need to know that the anti abortion movement is not a passing fad among Christians, but a core belief in the basic right of every human being to have the the opportunity to live from the moment of creation. They can only come to terms with this if we, who know the truth, are serious about the cause of our age. They must see that it is not simply another “issue” that is on the voting ballet, but that it is the issue of our times. We must show them. We must get serious and get active. We must get involved in the debate with humility and graciousness, yet with knowledge and commitment on our side. Our country stands for justice for all and that is what we must fight for.

We are praying that the  Lord would guide us in our pursuit of abolishing abortion and that he would provide the opportunities for us to get involved in a more active way. Would you do the same? Would you seriously think about what you could be doing locally and nationally to fight against the murder of millions of helpless children?

Please pray with us toward the abolition of abortion.

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The Doorway of Marriage

Jan 8, 2010 by

When planning a wedding it is easy to lose site of the real meaning of the day. In our culture weddings have been denigrated to mere social events that center around impressing the guests and being remembered as unique. But what is a wedding really supposed to be about? Nancy Wilson describes it as the beautiful doorway into marriage. It is the first of many days that a couple will spend in a covenant relationship that is meant to bring glory and honor to the Lord. Christian weddings should be grand celebrations of the Lord’s goodness to the couple and their public commitment to one and other, but that doesn’t mean they have to be extravagantly costly or stressful occasions. In a little section at the back of her book, The Fruit of Her Hands, Nancy addresses the wedding day and gives a little advice that is somewhat foreign to todays bride (and I am sure would never find its way into the latest bridal magazine!). Here are a couple of the highlights:

“Christians must learn and rejoice in the biblical significance of a wedding. Otherwise, our children might as well just elope and skip all the hoopla and save Mom and Dad a lot of time, money, and trouble. If we don’t understand, then what’s the use of all the planning and expense for a twenty to thirty-minute ceremony? Instead of taking signals from the modern wedding industry, Christians need to examine each aspect of the wedding from a biblical standpoint.”

“Another important consideration in wedding planning is the role of the bride and groom and parents: the bride and groom are the guests of honor at a big bash thrown by the bride’s parents. Whoever is paying for this event is the one who decides what is going to happen. In other words, the bride and groom should defer to the bride’s parents when it comes to wedding decisions. (Of course, if the bridal couple is paying for the wedding, this is not the case.)”

“The focus should not be about impressing our friends, but on honoring Christ and celebrating a joyous occasion with our friends and family. We should want our friends to have a wonderful time, not be impressed with our expensive taste.”

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The Fruit of Her Hands

Jan 6, 2010 by

I have quickly made my way through the first book on my list for 2010, The Fruit of Her Hands, and I can’t tell you how much I have been blessed by it. It truly is the greatest book I have ever read on honoring and respecting your husband. Nancy’s writing style is not typical and makes you feel as though you are sitting across the table from her as she tells you simply how things need to be. I love this about the book and though it is not the most systematic approach to the topic of wifehood, the content is invaluable and will have a lasting impact on my relationship with my husband from here on out. Here are a few excerpts:

On Honoring Your Husband:

“Respect is a demeanor that should characterize wives in all their conduct toward their husbands and in all their communication to or about their husbands-this means courtesy in the home, where the husband is treated with honor.” (underlining me)

On Respecting With Your Speech

“When wife speaks to husband, she should not speak as though she were talking to one of the kids. Her tone should be courteous and kind, not critical, sharp, or flippant. Likewise, when her friends hear her speak of her husband, they should note that on her lips is the law of kindness, not railing and complaining.”  (underlining me)

On Growing in Your Knowledge of God

“Because biblical learning is required of us, we ought not to be afraid of it. We must overcome our ignorance! Along with Bible reading, we must avoid bad teaching, whether it is on TV, in Christian books, or from the pulpit. We must seek out good teaching. We ought to read good, solid books on Christian doctrine. It is good for us! We must cultivate a taste for books that will build us up in the faith-not take us to fantasy land.” (underlining me)

On Gossips and Being a Busybody

“Let’s back up and examine how a woman becomes a busybody. First she must learn idleness, as our text says. But how does a woman learn idleness? The image seems contradictory! I suggest that it is learned by studiously avoiding the duties God has laid out for her. The budding busybody must shirk her domestic duties for the more pleasant task of ‘visiting.’” (underlining me)

On Seeking the Wisdom of Older Women

“Young women need to be taught, but not necessarily by other young women. Age brings wisdom and maturity which can only be gained through experience. Young women can be very strong in their opinions about what makes a good homemaker, but they can lack the wisdom and understanding needed to teach with balance.” (underlining me)

As you can see, there is much encouragement to find in this little gem and as you might be able to tell by how quickly I finished it, it is a very short read (just 109 pages). Now I am anxious to get started on her book focused on motherhood called, Praise Her in the Gates, but I think I will make myself wait and use it as incentive to finish a few more books. Visit Nancy’s blog by clicking here.

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Perfect Moments

Jan 3, 2010 by

Darkness surrounds us and silence is broken only by soft, tiny, even breaths. They were not always thus. No, a few moments ago they were short, scared, filled with pain. That was before Mommy was with you, before you felt the skin of her soft shoulder beneath your head, before you heard her gentle voice fill your soul. But she is here now; I am here now.

Mommy’s mind races through the countless times she has rocked you like this. The many minutes, hours that we have spent together in the darkness. Rocking. There were the nights when you nursed at her breast, so small and delicate. Now you are warm, heavy, and beautiful sleeping quietly on my shoulder.

Time seems to move slower when we rock in the darkness.  Looking into your angelic face I know that I am forever blessed. Many will never experience these perfect moments, but God has given them to me in abundance. Though you dream far away, Mommy whispers a prayer praising her Father for the miracle that you are. Must I surrender you to your bed and leave this night to the cruel dimness of memory?

I’ll let you go now sweet child. Don’t you worry or stir as I set you down. I am never more than a whimper away, never more than a soft cry down the hall. If you call me I will hear you because that is what Mommies do. Our souls are connected and I feel when you need me. While the rest of the world sleeps, my heart keeps watch over you, my little one. It won’t allow me to forget you; it won’t allow me to sleep through.

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A Personal Note Regarding Santa

Dec 18, 2009 by

From my last two posts regarding Santa  you might think I was raised with these convictions, but that is simply not the case. Like most children, I grew up believing in and enjoying Santa Claus. All season long I would anxiously wait for the gifts he would bring and  every Christmas morning I awoke with the excitement of knowing that “Santa” had left these special gifts for me under the tree and would quickly rush to unwrap them. Even when I got older and understood that Santa was not real I enjoyed the tradition of having gifts say “from Santa” on them. I do not look back on those wonderful experiences and abhor them, on the contrary I find them very sentimental!

However, having experienced the joy and excitement of Santa as a child I can honestly say that I would have rather been taught how to worship and enjoy Christ instead. My parents tried their best to tell me about the birth of Christ, even reading the Biblical account, but I never really gave it much thought. In my childish mind I understood that these moments of thinking about Jesus were supposed to be the real purpose of our celebration, but in my heart I really only cared about getting on to the part where we unwrapped the gifts Santa brought for us.

You see, when my family and I became Christians and totally devoted our lives to Christ (starting around my sophomore year in high school) Christmas took on a whole new meaning. Suddenly it was a time to thank God for the miraculous gift of his Son, Jesus Christ, rather than a time to focus on material gifts. Every part of my life, including Christmas, became an opportunity to worship and adore the one who saved my soul from eternal condemnation. As a Christian, my heart’s desire is to glorify God in every area of my life (as much as humanly possible) and I desire to help my family do the same. I especially want to teach my children how to know and honor the Lord early on in their lives through our family traditions.

Christmas provides a special opportunity to take extra time to focus on Jesus and why he came to earth in the form of man. Rather than let this time slip through our fingers, Richard and I want to make the most of it. We have come to the conclusion that the best way to do this is to cut out anything (anything possible) that distracts from this message and add anything we can that will bring to life this message. For us, Santa falls into the category of unnecessary and even distracting traditions and because of this we have no need of him. Though it was emotionally hard for me to make this decision at first, I have found that the Lord quickly blessed our desire to focus our hearts and time on him alone. My prayer is that one day he will use our Christmas traditions to usher our children into a saving knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. What a blessing to have a time so devoted to the Messiah! What a tragedy it would be if I simply let it slip through our fingers.

And so this is why Richard and I have chosen to not include Santa in our Christmas traditions. Not because we think Santa is evil, or that other parents who tell there children about Santa are evil, but because through prayer and counsel we honestly believe that the best way to help our children love Christ more is to show them that we love Christ in every area of our lives, including our Christmas traditions. Through our joyful celebration of the Messiah’s birth it is our prayer that they too will come to have a similar joy and excitement when the season approaches. I am so very grateful that our God is worth celebrating every moment of every day, and that we have a special opportunity to do so in even greater abundance during the season of Christmas.

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Santa or Jesus? (Pt. 2)

Dec 16, 2009 by

If the world wants to celebrate a fictitious person then so be it.  However, when Christians begin to embrace Santa and try to meld him in with the celebration of the birth of the Messiah I fear that we have lost our grip on reality. When well meaning parents explain that they simply want their kids to be able to experience the “magic” of the season I wonder if they truly understand the incomprehensibly profound act of God becoming man so that he could save the world from the power of sin. Is there anything more magical, more incredible than that? Is there any need to celebrate or focus our hearts on anything but this mighty act? Claiming that your children will “miss out” on the fun and excitement of Christmas without a mythical character at it’s center is paramount to saying that Jesus isn’t enough. Really you are saying that you, yourself don’t believe that Jesus is enough to bring joy and excitement to your Christmas celebration.

I am not trying to make the case that Christmas has always inherently been about Jesus and that there is no room for other celebrations. I am well aware that Christmas finds its roots in the long celebrated Winter Solstice and that it was only when the Pope declared December 25th to be the anniversary of the birth of Christ that it became a Christian holiday. What I am trying to say is that as Christians our celebrations should be inherently and distinctively Christian.

There should be an obvious difference in the way we rejoice in and experience Christmas when compared to unbelievers. Let the world raise their children to believe in Santa Claus while we raise our children to believe in the Christ, the Son of God! Let the world teach their children that Christmas is a time when you get glorious gifts while we teach our children that Christmas is a time to celebrate the most glorious gift of salvation! I understand that tradition is hard to break and that it is emotional. But if you love the Lord and desire for your children to experience that same love diverting their attention to a mythical being may not be the most helpful exercise. There is one who is greater, lovelier, and much more gracious than even Santa and his name is Jesus. The children who miss out on Christmas are actually those who’s attention is divided between Santa and Jesus. There is no way to whole heartedly appreciate and be excited about an Invisible God when at the same time a visible, tangible, and physical, gift giving man is also being endorsed and encouraged by your parents. But this, I think is the problem. It doesn’t so much bother us that our children might be half-heartedly excited about Jesus (or even a fourth-heartedly for that matter). We just want to see the smiles on their faces as they awake to see the presents that Santa left for them under the tree.

Ultimately it comes down to our hearts as parents. What do we value? What do we want our children to value? What do we want the world to see that we value? Are we content with teaching our children to have divided affections? Are we satisfied with our Christmas celebrations knowing that though we tried our hardest to make “Jesus the reason for the season” our little children were too caught up in the magic and excitement of Santa to really care? We have to ask ourselves if we really care.

I have heard parents say “they are only children once, let them have some fun and enjoy Santa while they can!” My only response to that statement is this: Children are only children once, you only have one opportunity to instill in them a love and adoration for Christ; use this time to teach them how to find their joy and excitement in the eternal God who never changes and will never fade.

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Santa or Jesus (Pt.1)

Dec 15, 2009 by

Santa Claus is so very interesting to me. How is it that a fourth century bishop who was known for his generosity to children, the poor and the destitute became the center of a an entire holiday season? When and why did people feel the need to mold this real and God-honoring man into an idol? The word idol may sound harsh. I am not proposing that everyone who participates in the Santa Claus tradition is an idol worshiper, but I fear that the vast majority of Americans are in fact teaching their children to worship an imaginary man (imaginary because the historical St. Nicholas of Myra is vastly different from the one we celebrate now).

Think about it, how is the way we worship the true God any different from the way we teach our children to relate to Santa Claus? We teach them that Santa is all knowing (after all he can see you when your sleeping and know when your awake), he is omnipresent (he somehow can be everywhere at once in one night), and he rewards good behavior while punishing bad behavior. We ingrain in our children the validity of Santa, reading them stories and teaching them songs. We remind them throughout the year (especially as Christmas gets closer) that the gifts they get on Christmas will depend upon their obedience or disobedience making Santa an authority in their lives. Of course we know the truth (that we are basically lying to our children so that they can have some childish fun) and they will find out sooner or later that it was all just an elaborate story that was meant for their enjoyment, but they don’t know that. In their childish minds Santa is the coolest man on earth! Who could be better than Santa? I mean goodness; all I have to do is make a list and he will give me all my little heart desires come Christmas morning!

It should not be surprising that the world created this mythical character for we know that man’s heart was created to worship. We know that as humans we were meant to have a relationship with our Lord and that our hearts and minds are fitted to worship (though skewed as a result of the fall). It should not surprise us when we see the world grasp at any and all earthly idols as they spurn the one true God, but it should surprise us when the Christian community wholeheartedly embraces the worship  of a man at the expense of worshiping God.

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Why I Love Our Tree

Dec 14, 2009 by

As a young family we have the exciting opportunity to create our own traditions that center around the Lord and bring our hearts into greater fellowship with him. About a month ago I shared our plan for a new family tradition. We decided to mix things up with our Christmas tree by combining it with the “Jesse Tree” tradition. I am not going to lie…. there was a moment of hesitation as Richard and I started to pull out our limited supply of Christmas decorations and I realized how many ornaments would not make the cut (basically all of them). I am so glad that Richard was there to remind me of my purpose and desire to focus our hearts on the Lord with our Christmas tree rather than simply pretty ornaments.

So, on December 1st we headed to Lowe’s (great trees by the way) and picked out our perfect tree (one that was pretty, but didn’t break the bank!). Richard brought it in while I got some hot cocoa and cinnamon butter bread ready. Once the tree was all set up and covered with beautiful lights we began our new tradition. One by one we pulled out the simple ball ornaments that I had prepared beforehand. They were pretty in shades of gold, red, and green, but their true beauty came from the names that adorned them. Each ball carried a precious name that the Bible gives to our Lord and Savior. Reading the names out loud to each other, from Bright Morning Star to Author and Perfecter of our Faith, our hearts were reminded of our great God and the many different facets of his personality and dealings with man. Our night quickly became about the Christ and not about a tradition. Several times we looked up references to the names that we were less familiar with and as we did, our hearts were stirred with the love we have for our Savior.

As we finished the tree the prophesy in Isaiah 1:11, “A shoot will spring forth from the stump of Jesse, and a branch out of his roots.” came to life for me. Here was a visual representation of the “shoot” and “branch” that came from the line of Jesse and Saved the world. Praise God! The next night we hung our first “Jesse Tree” ornament, a simple picture of the earth, a reminder of God creating the world. The tree has slowly, but surely had more and more ornaments added to it that represent different points in salvation history all the while proclaiming the one who was behind it all, Jesus.

I am so glad that we chose to break away from our old traditions (traditions that we loved, traditions that had great sentimental value) and traded them for something better, something that has driven my focus back to the Lord every morning as I do my quiet time on the couch beside it and every evening as we add another ornament to it. Yes our tree is a little less exciting than others; it might be a little less impressive than most; it could even seem plain and excessively orderly, but it is far more than I could have imagined. I can’t wait until the day when Elliot and our other children will join in the tradition with us and joyfully proclaim the glory of our King!

P.S. I also can’t wait until Christmas Eve so I can finally put up that star!!!!!!

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Extremes

Dec 11, 2009 by

My latest reading endeavor? Hudson Taylor’s Spiritual Secrets. I can’t tell you how much biographies have and continue to play a part in my spiritual formation. Reading accounts of people who chose to live for a better Kingdom by sacrificing ALL for a better King stirs in my soul an appetite for higher, loftier things. What is it about these people that makes them so unique? How do they manage to do such glorious works for the Lord and usher so many others closer to his throne? I believe that one of the greatest character qualities that they posses is their willingness to go to extremes for the sake of the Kingdom. It is their total abandon to God and passion for him and him alone.

When Mr. Taylor began to prepare for his calling to China he purposefully lived in a way that would prepare both his spirit and his body. Rice and Oatmeal became his ritual meals, he slept on a hard mat rather than a feather bed, he moved from a comfortable home to a shack among the poor. He knew that the Lord would require him to live upon His provision alone while in China and wanted to begin testing himself before he even left his home country. He prayed persistently and with great faith for all of his needs.

“At Hull my kind employer wished me to remind him whenever my salary became due. This I determined not to do directly, but to ask that God would bring the fact to his recollection, and thus encourage me by answering prayer.”

He wanted to test his faith in the Lord’s ability to answer his prayers. And so week after week he would pray that his employer would be prompted to pay his tiny wage and when he didn’t, he trusted that the Lord would provide all that he needed in the meantime.

I think that I would be much more likely to see this to be an unnecessary exercise of faith, after all there were times when he was close to starvation! Rather than give up the luxuries of home prematurely I think I would be tempted to gorge myself on Chick-fil-A and Pappasito’s minutes before my departure!

These exercises of faith were not necessary, but they were profitable. In my opinion, this is the difference between people who do amazing things for God and those who don’t. Normally we tend to do what we must, rather than what we could do. What if, instead of spending hundreds and even thousands of dollars on Christmas gifts we gave that money to the hungry people who live just miles down the road from us and shared the love of Christ (the one we are celebrating by the way) with them? We don’t have to but we could. What if we chose to live on much less than we make so that we could give more to the missionaries who are carrying the message of salvation to people who are on the road to Hell? We don’t have to, but we could. What if a boyfriend and girlfriend gave up kissing or even touching because they realized that the temptation was simply too great and they would rather do nothing physical than invite sin into their relationship? They don’t have to, but they could. What if a family purposefully moved to a lower income neighborhood even though they could afford much more just to be able to reach out to those families and relate to them in a way that would be impossible while living in the suburbs? They don’t have to, but they could. What if instead of filling our minds with the entertainment of this world every night we chose to fill it with the Word of God? We don’t have to but we could.

There are so many obvious choices that we make every day that are either sinful or not, but then there are other choices that we rarely think about. Choices that require discipline, denial, and sacrifice. They don’t come to mind very quickly, but they may make the difference between living the status quo and doing miraculous things.

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Willing To Be Weak

Nov 27, 2009 by

Being a wife and mother means you don’t get sick right? Not so much. Usually it means you get sick, but you don’t take the time to rest like your body needs because you feel like you can’t. Sometimes you truly are unable to control the circumstances you find yourself in: laundry needs to be done, baby’s diaper needs to be changed, and somehow we all need to eat later on. However, sometimes we make the situation worse than it needs to be by relying on our own dwindling strength rather than joyfully accepting the help that God gives us through other people.

My natural instinct when I am sick or otherwise incapacitated is to suffer through the day. Richard will ask me if I need his help and instead of taking the time to really think about what I need him to do I mutter a, “no… I got it…” (in a really pathetic, sad voice of course). Then the whole day I am thinking about how he should be anticipating what needs to be done and should simply get on it! I mean can’t he see that I am sick?????! My poor husband. The truth is that he usually has no idea what I need him to do, much less what I would like him to do. He is more than willing to do ANYTHING I ask, but really needs that prompting in order to know the “what” it is that needs to be done.

I don’t know if it is pride or self pity that causes this situation so often, but I do know a couple things:

1.) Asking for help means that you can’t handle it yourself. It means being honest about your weakness and your need of assistance. This can be hard-especially when you are the one who keeps things moving in the home on a daily basis.

2.) Asking for help means that things won’t necessarily be done your way. I like everything to be done a certain way and when it isn’t I feel the need to fix it. The world is not going to end if Elliot gets fed without a bib on or if the laundry isn’t put away in the exact right spot. The fact that these things get done without me expending energy is a beautiful thing that I should be grateful for and desirous of without exception!

3.) Giving help takes sacrifice. When I ask for help, Richard has to sacrifice his own desires and priorities in order to serve me. This is a hard one for me. I hate to feel like a burden to Richard. I know that the duties of the home are often alien to him and that Elliot takes a lot more energy than he often expects, so watching him tend to all of these things throughout the day makes me very uncomfortable. Accepting this sacrificial help means that I have to trust that the Lord will give him the energy and wisdom he needs and that the Lord doesn’t need me to accomplish his work.

4.) Giving help is a blessing. I mean this both ways. First, it is a blessing to the one who receives the help. I am always reminded of the Lord’s kindness to me when Richard sacrificially takes care of me and the rest of our home. I praise God for the love he gives to this children so that they can show that love to others! Second, it is a blessing to the giver. The Lord teaches us to serve one another continually. Sickness is one of the most obvious and practical opportunities to do this. It is also one of the times when it is the most appreciated. There is nothing better than having someone take care of everything while you get some much needed rest; likewise, there is nothing worse than trying to trudge through your daily routine when you really need to be doing nothing. Being the person that makes rest possible is both sanctifying and rewarding. It gives you the opportunity to grow in your appreciation for the person who is sick and be challenged in your own abilities.

This past weekend was an occasion where my husband had to pick up the extra slack that I could not handle. To make matters worse we were on a little trip visiting my family. I was not only sick with a soar throat, but suffering from a TERRIBLE tooth ache, and the beginnings of my pregnancy nausea!!!!! Talk about the wrong weekend to get away! Well, thanks to my wonderful husband and my gracious mother, I was able to get the rest I needed and still enjoy the time I had with my family. Amazingly enough it took incredible self restraint to accept the fact that I was going to need help and trust that things would be ok if I just closed myself up in a dark room and took a nap (multiple times throughout the weekend). I am so grateful that I did! I am also grateful that my wonderful husband took yesterday off to serve me and tend to my needs. That day made all the difference and now I am feeling much better. If I had been “brave” and told him to go to work and not “worry” about us, I would have had a terrible day and been struggling with bitterness against him in my heart. Instead I was able to enjoy the service of my wonderful husband and get some much needed rest. Thank you Husband and thank you God.

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Recipe: Yummy Bagels!

Nov 11, 2009 by

Ok, so the last bagel recipe I tried totally flopped so I was very hesitant to try my hand at it again, but I am so glad I did! This recipe is very easy and makes the most yummy bagels I have ever tasted. For these reasons I feel compelled to share the recipe with you and thus share my joy.

Ingredients:

1 1/2 cups water

2 packages yeast

1 1/2 ounces sugar (you need a kitchen scale for this)

1/2 ounce salt (you need a kitchen scale for this)

3 1/2 cups bread flour

2 quarts water, to boil

1 egg white

cinnamon (optional)

raisins (optional)

poppy seed (optional)

dried onions or garlic (optional)

sesame seed (optional)

Directions:

1 Mix yeast, sugar and warm water together and let stand 3 minutes.

2 Mix 2 cups of flour with the salt in a large bowl and add the yeast mixture.

3 Stir until combined and slowly mix in the rest of the flour (If making cinnamon raisin bagels, add these to dough now).

4 Knead on a floured surface for 5 minutes, adding additional flour if needed, dough should be firm.

5 Place dough in a greased bowl, cover and let rise until double.

6 After rising punch down and divide dough into 12 balls.

7 Allow to rest for 4 minutes.

8 Bring 2 quarts of water to boil.

9 With your thumb, make a hole in each ball of dough and pull open about 2 inches, making a bagel shape.

10 Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

11 Place the shaped dough onto a cookie sheet and cover for 10 minutes.

12 Lower heat under water for it to be simmering.

13 Drop 2 or 3 bagels at a time into the water for about 45 seconds, turning each once.

14 Drain and place on greased baking sheets.

15 Brush tops with beaten egg white and top with optional toppings.

16 Bake for 35 minutes, turning once for even browning.

17 Bagels are done when they are golden brown and shiny.

Note: I don’t have a fancy kitchen scale so I just guestemated on the salt and sugar. They still turned out great! I made plain bagels and they were delish! I can’t wait to try my hand at some “everything bagels” with this recipe as the base.


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How to Mother Your Husband

Nov 10, 2009 by

All the premarital books and classes warn against it; I never thought I would struggle with it; somehow I began to do it. What is the dastardly deed that I am speaking of? Mothering your husband. It is something that slowly makes its way into your speech, creeps into your facial expressions, and alters your submission. Submission? Really? Yes. When you begin to treat your husband like a child and take the role of his mother, you place yourself in an authoritative position within your relationship.

This is something I never would have imagined struggling with, I mean I love my position as my husband’s helper! I am not looking to usurp his authority, in fact I welcome it! So how is it that my sinful flesh has found this chink in my armor and created friction within my marriage? There are many possibilities, some of them rising from good intentions and some from prideful ones. All I know is that hearing your husband say, “you are treating me like a child,” and then hearing the voice of your old pastor in the back of your head saying, “he married you for a wife, not a mother,” is not a good feeling. Because this has recently come to my attention I want to take a few moments to contemplate what it looks like to mother your husband and alternately what it looks like to trust/submit to your husband. For this I am going to enlist the expert’s help (the one who has been mothered by mwa). So without further ado, here are our findings:

  1. You mother your husband when you expect him to do things your way and become frustrated when he chooses not to. My husband has a different way of thinking about things, planning things, and executing things. When I look down upon his methods and expect him to fall in line with mine (even though they may not be better), I am treating him like a child and telling him to submit to me. Trusting/submitting to your husband means believing that he is competent and that his methods have merit and value. Obviously discussion is the key here. The first step to understanding another person is to talk to them and find out what they are thinking. I usually fail at this point when I assume that I know what Richard is thinking rather than asking. Ultimately I have realized that there is a certain level of trust that must be my first reaction to differences. I should not assume that he is doing something the wrong way, but simply a different way.
  2. You mother your husband when you tell him what to do. Originally I thought that there were good intentions behind this, but am now convinced that even my good intentions have caused me to sin (by usurping my husbands authority). Usually I tell Richard to do something instead of asking him to do it because I don’t want to give him an option (especially in areas I know he is going to disagree!). Ultimately I do this because I want to control the situation; meaning I don’t want for him to control it. Realizing the heart of this problem has really been a shocker for me. Could it be that I am this sinful? Yes, it really could. Trusting/submitting to your husband means gently asking him to do something rather than telling him to do something and then being content with the results. Again, communication is key as you try to engage your husband with your motives and point of view. Most of the time knowing the reasoning behind your desire gives your husband the opportunity to agree or be persuaded, while telling him what to do conveys that you do not trust him and believe he needs leading .
  3. You mother your husband when you use a condescending tone while talking to him. This can happen when you think he is doing something he shouldn’t be (mothering), when you are not happy with something he has done (mothering), or when you try to manipulate his actions (mothering). Somehow this tone is something we as women are either born with or hear so much growing up that we instinctively use it when trying to control the people in our lives (namely our husbands and children). It conveys an attitude of superiority and says, “you are so stupid.” Of course this is something I would never think, much less say out loud, and yet it is exactly what my heart is saying through my tone of voice to the most precious person in my life. Trusting/submitting to your husband means always speaking in a tone of respect and admiration. This can be particularly hard when you disagree, but is a particularly good tool in putting to death the flesh that seeks to destroy.

I am sure that there are other ways to mother your husband, but these are the particular areas that I struggle with. Can you think of any others? What are ways that you struggle in this area? It may be a good idea to enlist your husband’s help in order to see the blind spots you may have missed. As always, the Lord is so gracious to reveal sin in the hearts of his children and I am so grateful that he has made this one known to me. I am also very, very, very grateful for such an understanding, loving husband who bears with me in my sinfulness.

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The Very Real Love of Christ

Oct 29, 2009 by

‘“…The people talk strangely about [Christian]. Some say he now walks in white, that he has a chain of gold about his neck, or that he has on his head a crown of gold set with pearls. Others say the Shining Ones who sometimes showed themselves to him during his journey have become his companions, and that he is just as familiar with them in the place where he is as one neighbor is with another here. Besides, it’s confidently affirmed concerning him, that the King of that place where he is has bestowed upon him a very rich and pleasant dwelling at court and that every day he eats and drinks and walks and talks with Him and receives smiles and favors there from Him who is Judge of All.’

‘Moreover,’ continued Sagacity, ‘it is expected by some that his Prince, the Lord of that country, will soon come into these parts and will desire to know the reason-if they can give any-why his neighbors treated him so lightly and made fun of him so much when they saw that he would be a Pilgrim. For they say that he is now held in so much affection by his Prince, and that his King is so much concerned with the indignities that were cast upon Christian when he became a Pilgrim, that He will look upon everyone as if those things were done to himself. And it’s not surprising, for it was because of the love Christian had for his Prince that he did what he did.’” -John Bunyan, The Pilgrim’s Progress

How deep is the love of Christ! Can we ever comprehend the weight of love that is lavished upon us? Can we even begin to comprehend the overwhelming joy that will fill us as we stand before the King of the Universe and feel his loving presence? To be so intimately acquainted with the one who’s love has no boundaries is an incomprehensible gift-one that we will thank him for all of eternity for.

It is hard to grasp the love of Christ daily without taking it for granted. It becomes a normal, everyday, tarnished thing. Its luster slowly fades as we talk about it over and over, as we sing about it over and over, as we hear about it over and over. It becomes a philosophical idea rather than a real emotional experience. Our religion becomes a list rather than a relationship, rather than a love. How do you keep this from happening? How do you revive your spirit, stir up those groanings and longings for the Savior?

We must remind ourselves of the gospel. We must remind ourselves of our sin and the just penalty of death that hung over us until Christ chose to love us. We must remind ourselves of our unloveliness, of our disgustingness. We must remember that we hated Christ, that our sin was a constant act of retaliation against his love. We must remember that in spite of all these things he chose to love us. He died for our murderous, adulterous, perverse hearts. He bled and suffered for our filthiness. He chose to allow the disgusting sinners of this earth to nail his perfect, stainless hands and feet to a horrible cross. He chose to slowly suffocate to death in his own lung fluid as he gasped for enough breath to finish our salvation. He did all of this so that we could be cleansed. He cleansed us so that we could understand his love and feel his love. He took away our filthiness so that we could love him.

We must remind ourselves of the promises he has made to us. He has promised to return for us. He has promised that our faith, our blind faith, will be rewarded with visual, physical affirmation. We will stand with him in glory and enjoy his presence forever without the guilt of sin hanging around our necks. Wrongs will be made right and evil will be punished. The suffering we encounter here has all been counted, it is all under his watch. He will avenge the wrong that has been done to us for the sake of his name; he will be glorified. He has promised to cleanse our heart forever and make us white as snow. We will be able to stand before the Holy God and not shrink away because of Christ’s love for us.

When you remember these things it is pretty easy to feel his love, to love his love, to sing about his love, to preach his love. But there is more that leads us to love Christ than our experience and future with him. Christ himself is enough to elicit the most profound love from the depths of our souls. Think about his pure character, his power, his gentleness, his generosity, his strength, this moral purity, his empathy, his ability to forgive sin, his eternality, his friendliness, his holiness, his majesty, the list could go on and on. Christ is supremely worthy of love because he is Christ.

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A Vision For Our Tree

Oct 21, 2009 by

With Elliot’s first Christmas approaching Richard and I have been giving a lot of thought as to how we can practically steer our children’s hearts toward the Lord during this special time of the year. The great thing about being a young Christian family is that you have the opportunity to start with a blank slate and create God honoring traditions that will be passed down for generations to come. We want to make sure that our traditions are Christ exalting, kingdom focused, and worship-filled! Doing this takes a lot of effort and thought. From figuring out what to do about presents to deciding where to spend the holiday in general, it can seem overwhelming, but I know it will be worth the effort. I also know that I will not have it all figured out by this first Christmas!

Lately I have been thinking about the Christmas tree. I LOVE Christmas trees… real, aromatic, needs water Christmas trees. This is a tradition that most families partake in and my family was no exception. My mother has millions of beautiful, sometimes strange ornaments that hang on her tree and I promise you, you have never seen just a picturesque Christmas tree in your whole life! Obviously this is a tradition that I don’t want to simply throw out the window because it isn’t specifically God-centered, but I do want to figure out a way to redeem the Christmas tree in order to make it God-centered. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that if you have a wonderful, beautiful tree in your home that I look down on you. I honestly don’t. I am simply trying to be creative in the way that I use the symbols in our home to point our children (and ourselves) to Christ. I want to take as many of these traditional Christmas elements as I can and give them purpose (other than simply looking pretty and giving you that ooey gooey feeling that so many things during Christmas give me). So, with my purpose being stated, here is what I have come up with…. and I am so excited!

Many Christians have a tradition that centers around a “Jesse Tree.” The name comes from Isaiah 11:1: “A shoot will spring forth from the stump of Jesse, and a branch out of his roots.” Usually it is just a twig that you bring in from the yard that you plant in a pot, but some people use little Christmas trees, or draw a tree on a big piece of butcher paper. Each night throughout the month of December you place an ornament (some people do handmade ornaments) that symbolizes a major work of God in the Old Testament that points to the coming Messiah. It is a beautiful kind of Advent calendar that gives you the opportunity to talk to your kids about how God was preparing his people for their Savior throughout Old Testament history. If you do a family worship time you can incorporate your Jesse Tree tradition into this time by reading the scripture passages that correspond. Well, we were really looking forward to incorporating the Jesse tree into our family tradition, but it has been bugging me that we are going to have these two “trees” that represent two different things: God’s sovereignty throughout salvation history and simple, beautiful family tradition.

Then I thought, “Why not combine the two? What could be a better symbol of a ‘shoot springing forth from the stump of Jesse’ than an actual, huge, brilliant tree!” Bing! Bing! Bing! After I came down from my high, I remembered that this would mean my actual, huge, brilliant tree would only have 25 ornaments… a little less than ideal. So then I came up with another idea. I am going to take all of those shiny ball ornaments that I have (and get some more) and write one of the names for Jesus used in the Bible (Old and New Testament) on each ball. I am probably going to have to find a special pen for that, but I am so excited about this because when we do our Christmas Tree Trimming Party on December 1st we can take the time to say each of the names out loud and even look up a couple of the references. This will be a great opportunity to be reminded of the many different descriptions, qualities, and functions that the Bible relates to Jesus. Some examples are: Author of Life (Acts 3:15), Beginning and End (Rev. 22:13), Righteous One (Acts 7:52), Wisdom of God (1 Cor. 1:24), Fountain (Zech. 13:1), Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6), etc… This will add to the symbolic nature of the tree by naming the “shoot springing forth from the stump of Jesse” with all these different Biblical names. I also love the relation that the twinkle lights will have to Jesus being the Light of the World!!! Just as our tree will light up our living room, Christ brings hope and joy to a fallen world. What a brilliant picture of our Lord that can be displayed for us and all the visitors in our home.

That night, on the first of December we will hang all of the balls and the first Jesse Tree ornament. Every night we will add one more until our tree is filled with the story of how God redeemed a people through his Son Jesus Christ. The climax of this tradition will be on Christmas Eve when we place the star on top of our Jesse Tree signifying the birth of our Messiah. I am even excited to know that this will impact the presentation of our gifts. They will be beautifully wrapped under our Jesse Tree signifying that every good and perfect gift is from our Lord Jesus Christ!

Can you tell how excited I am? I am really, really excited. Christmas Trees are wonderful in general and now our tree will have purpose, a purpose that will direct our hearts and minds to our supremely wonderful God.

…stay tuned as I contemplate more ways to redeem Christmas


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Can’t Help Loving That Man Of Mine

Sep 22, 2009 by

This is my favorite picture from our wedding day. I love it because it captures Richard so well. His face shows that he is the most caring, loving, and tender man and at the same time, his body language communicates that he is strong and protective.

My Husband

My husband is my hero. He daily sacrifices his own desires and passions for my good.

My husband is my best friend. He knows everything about me and is the only person I can talk to about anything and know that he understands me.

My husband is my crush. He is handsome and strong. He makes me want to be beautiful for him. His eyes are the color of smoky quartz and I could look into them forever.

My husband is my leader. He speaks strongly and leads a life that I want to follow. His strength is grounded in the truth of God’s Word like a giant oak tree is rooted in the life-giving soil beneath.

My husband is my priest. He teaches me the scriptures and is patient with my limited knowledge of them. He protects me from false doctrine and cares for my spirit.

My husband is my clown. He is silly when I can’t be and makes me laugh more than any other person. I love to laugh with him. He brings joy to my life.

My husband is my life. Without him I am not myself. Everything I do is with him, for him, and from him. Our souls are fuzed together eternally.

My husband is my future. When everything else fades away and the future is unsure, one thing is certain: as long as there is breath in our bodies we will have each other.

My husband is my heart. I never knew passionate, soul thirsting, electrifying love until I knew him. He ignited a fire within me that he stokes every moment of every day. My love belongs to him and him alone.

My husband is my lord. As Sarah named Abraham her lord, so I name Richard my own. He is my king, my provider, my leader, my caretaker. My desire is to please him above all other men.

My husband is my own. I know that his attentions and feelings are undivided. I am never parched for his affections, but am confident in his love and passion for me at all times.

My husband is God’s tool in the garden of my heart. The Lord perfectly fit Richard as an instruments of edification and encouragement for my soul. No other person convicts, challenges, and strengthens my walk with the Lord like he does.

Thank you Lord for giving me such a blessed marriage. Thank you for providing a husband for me that mirrors your all-surpassing love, leadership, and care. Your provision is beyond understanding.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. -Ephesians 5:25-33

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The Joys and Sorrows of Miscarriage

Sep 16, 2009 by

You may not know that before being pregnant with Elliot, I miscarried our first baby. The miscarriage was THE most horrible and difficult trial of my life. Yet, through it all, in our greatest weakness the Lord gave Richard and I the joy and strength that we lacked. Our faith was never more real than in those most horrible moments. When you miscarry, the pain does not end after your baby leaves your body; it continues for days, months, and even years after. One of the greatest blessings a woman can be given during this time is the knowledge that someone else knows exactly how she feels. Knowing that another woman has known the pain, and felt the very real presence of the Lord during it, is an encouragement like none other. That is why I have asked a dear friend, Sarah, to share her testimony of the Lord’s faithfulness to her through her recent miscarriage and subsequent pregnancy. I am confident that her Biblical, God honoring testimony will be a blessing to every woman who reads it.

I am most thankful for the opportunity to share about one of the most difficult, yet most peaceful trials of my life. I do hope that this can be of an encouragement to someone else who is experiencing or has experienced the pain of miscarrying a pregnancy.

First I would like to share that I have a 5 year old little girl. I never had any complications with her at all during pregnancy, so when the Lord blessed us with a second pregnancy, I was not even thinking of the possibility that something could go wrong. I was about 5 weeks along when I started experiencing some symptoms that had my doctor concerned. Because I was so early, there was nothing that she could really tell me. We had to wait. It was about 3-4 weeks later when my doctor had determined that the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks.

This few weeks of waiting on the Lord was the most difficult yet most peaceful time of my life. My doctor was not very optimistic that the baby would make it, I had to battle thoughts in my mind. I couldn’t think about “what will I do if we lose the baby?” Or even making plans in my mind if everything was fine. I had to stay completely in the “middle” of these two thoughts and just trust the Lord. I had to be completely content with not knowing. I had to be content to wait. It was absolutely beautiful waiting in the arms of my creator, knowing that even though I didn’t know the outcome, and my doctor didn’t know the outcome, He knew. He created this precious little life inside of my womb, and it was His creation and He had it all under control. When my doctor told me that the baby was gone I had an incredible peace about it. God’s grace was with me and covered me in that moment.

The night after I had my DNC, I could not sleep. I was wide awake and all of these scriptures were pouring through my mind! Scriptures about who God is and His faithfulness. Scriptures like “Now see that I, even I, am He, and there is no God besides Me; I kill and I make alive; I wound and I heal; Nor is there any who can deliver from my hand.” (Deut. 32:39) This gave me great comfort to remember that God is always in control of every situation in our lives. Even the most painful things that we experience are all by the hand of our loving Father. “It is good for me that I have been afflicted, that I may learn your statutes. The law of your mouth is better to me than thousands of coins of gold and silver… Those who fear you will be glad when they see me, because I have hoped in Your word. I know, O Lord, that your judgments are right; and that in faithfulness You have afflicted me.” (Ps 119:71-75) I knew that it was for my good and His faithfulness He had given me this trial. I had never been more close to the Lord than these past few weeks of waiting on Him. “Therefore let those who suffer according to the will of God commit their souls to Him in doing good, as to a faithful creator.” (1 Pet. 4:19)  There was no doubt that this was the will of the Lord for my life and for the life of my little one that He had blessed me with. The Lord also gently reminded me of a scripture I had memorized as a teenager. At the time I really didn’t understand it, though now, it held so much meaning for me. “Whom have I in heaven but You? And earth has nothing that I desire besides You. My flesh and my heart may fail; but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” (Ps 73:25-26)

The Lord was so faithful to keep me nestled close to Him during that time. I knew that His strength was with me and I had nothing to fear. I did go through a grieving process that I did not quite expect. Through it all, when I felt so broken hearted, He was there with encouragement in His word. “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when dreams come true, there is life and joy. “ (Pro. 13:13) This verse helped me to understand to grieve is okay. There is a time to grieve, and there would again be a time of rejoicing. We decided to wait about 3 months to try again. When it came time, I was very afraid. I just kept praying and asking the Lord to help me to trust Him again, and to take the fear away and help me be excited about being pregnant again. In His faithfulness, He led me to Colossians 1. These particular verses were talking about the way that we are to walk with the Lord, being worthy of this and fully pleasing Him in everything. Then I read verses 11-12a “Strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and long-suffering with joy, giving thanks to the Father…” He reminded me to be thankful to Him for this trial. To know that He was giving me strength to have joy while I am suffering according to His will! I continued reading in verse 16 “For by Him all things were created that are in heaven and that are on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or principalities or powers. All things were created through Him and for Him.” God had created this precious little person, this precious gift. Though it was a blessing for me, He created it for Himself. For His own glory through Christ! What a precious thought to think that the Lord would create something invisible to the world around me and that He did it for Himself. This gave me great thankfulness and peace! I could not WAIT to be pregnant again! It encouraged my heart so much that no matter how long a pregnancy lasts, whether a few weeks, a few months, or if I carry to full term, it is a blessing! It is for His glory! What an amazing creator we have!

So today, I am humbly grateful to share that I am 8 weeks pregnant. There are moments when those fearful thoughts pop into my head. In those moments, all I can do is pray. I ask the Lord to help me not to dwell on the lies. I ask the Lord to give me strength and excitement and to trust Him with this baby. I remind myself of all that I have learned and what a true gift it was for me to lose the last baby. If it were not for that incredibly painful trial, I would not have the strengthened faith that I do today. I love Jesus more today because of what I went through. I just think “Whom have I in Heaven but You? And earth has nothing I desire besides You.”

Thank you for sharing your testimony with us Sarah. It is obvious that the Spirit of God was so active in your life, using the Scriptures to communicate Christ’s love and power.

My prayer is that Sarah’s story will strengthen you through any trial you experience and the scriptures she referenced will be a valuable tool for you when desiring to minister to other sisters in Christ facing difficult times.

Update: A couple weeks after writing this testimony, the Lord allowed Sarah to  miscarry your second baby. Her thoughts and pain regarding her recent trial have been heavily influenced by her past experience and confidence in the Lord’s goodness.  Her faith in the Lord’s love for her has grown tremendously through these trials. Please pray for the Lord’s blessing on her womb and that she would soon enjoy the blessing of a healthy baby.

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The Ends of the Earth

Sep 10, 2009 by

“Turn to me and be saved, all the ends of the earth! For I am God, and there is no other.” Isaiah 45:22

A couple nights ago Richard and I were reading Spurgeon’s sermon Sovereignty and Salvation. This was the third time I had read it and I plan on reading it again (many more times). Yes, it is that good, but really which Spurgeon sermon isn’t? The text he was teaching from was the verse from Isaiah quoted above. He first explains how the Lord brings glory to himself by proving time and time again that there is no other God besides himself. Idols have fallen and monarchies fail, but the One true God still stands. He then goes on to explain how simple the act of turning to the Lord is. God has made salvation as simple as looking to him and yet it is the hardest thing for a man to do. To do so means that you must acknowledge that the Lord is your only hope of salvation and that your eternity rests in his hands and not your own.

Toward the end of his sermon he addresses the “who” of this verse. Who does the Lord offer this salvation to; who can simply turn to the Lord, the only Lord, and find salvation to quench his thirsty soul? God says, “all the ends of the earth.” Spurgeon acknowledges that this certainly applies to the farthest, and most remote person on the face of our planet. We can surely go to them and tell them to simply turn to the Lord and be saved and they can be! Praise God that the Gospel is universal and meets the deepest needs of every nation, tribe, and tongue. But Spurgeon didn’t just stop there. He goes on to explain:

…I think “the ends of the earth” imply those who have gone the farthest away from Christ. I say, drunkard, that means you. You have been staggering back, till you have got right to the ends of the earth… you cannot be much worse. There is not a man breathing who is much worse than you. Is there? Ah! but God, in order to humble your pride, says to you, “Look unto me, and be ye saved.” There is another who has lived a life of infamy and sin, until she has ruined herself, and even Satan seems to sweep her out at the back door; but God says, “Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth.” Methinks I see one trembling here and saying, “Ah, I have not been one of these, sir, but I have been something worse; for I have attended the house of God, and I have stifled convictions, and put off all thoughts of Jesus, and now I think he will never have mercy on me.” You are one of them. “Ends of the earth!” So long as I find any who feel like that I can tell them that they are “the ends of the earth.”

His point of course is that God loves to take the vilest, most repulsive sinners, the ones farthest from himself and give them salvation. He loves to take them from their addictions, lusts, pain, or hypocrisy and bring them into a right relationship with him. He loves to change them and make them into something beautiful, something lovely, something full of joy and purpose. If we know this about our God, it should change the way we preach the gospel. There is no end to the Lord’s mercy; there is no height to his love for sinners. Who are we to say who is beyond the Lord’s salvation? The Lord has made it very clear that even “the ends of the earth” can be saved when they simply turn to him. Therefore we must offer him to every person no matter how far they are from the Lord. We must plead to every soul as Spurgeon concludes:

O, taste and see that the Lord is good! Now believe on him; now cast thy guilty soul upon his righteousness; now plunge thy black soul into the bath of his blood; now put thy naked soul at the door of the wardrobe of his righteousness; now seat thy famished soul at the feast of plenty.

No brother, sister, friend, uncle, aunt, cousin, mom, dad, grandparent, stranger, or co-worker is too far from the Lord to receive his mercy.

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The Lord Gives and He Takes Away

Mar 24, 2008 by

The Lord Gives and He Takes Away

Dear Family and Friends,

As many of you know, on February 25th we miscarried our first baby. I wanted to take a moment to share with you a little bit about our baby and what the Lord has done through him. On January 28th I shared with Richard one of the happiest moments of our lives; it was the day that I told him we were pregnant. You could not have found two people who were more thrilled or thankful. We quickly began to picture our future bundle of joy and all of the many blessing that would result from him. The news spread like wildfire and everyone was able to celebrate with us. Four weeks later, I began to miscarry. An ultrasound showed that the baby was about two weeks behind in development. Though it was approximately eight weeks old, it was only measuring six. And then on the 25th Richard and I shared one of the saddest moments of our lives together.

It is an incredible thing to gain and lose something so precious to you so quickly. I know the pain and sadness of that day will forever be etched in my memory. But as terrible as this experience was and still is for us, the weight and beauty of God’s perfect love gives us great confidence and contentment. We know that this tragedy is not outside of God’s control. It was part of his perfect and loving plan for us. He measured out the days of this baby, just as he has our own. Therefore we rejoice in the amazing gift that this child was to us. Through him we were able to experience many joys: a pregnancy test being positive, the amazement of a human life growing within me, and the joy of knowing that Richard and I created something by the Lord’s grace. His death has helped us to understand so many truths about the Lord more deeply. It is a vivid reminder that all of our days are numbered. We cannot control our lives or our family’s lives any more than a flower can choose where it is planted, when the rain will come and harm it, when the sun will shine upon it, or in what fashion it will die. We must therefore live humbly before the Lord knowing that it is He who is in control of all things and trust in His wisdom. Though we have cried many tears and felt immense sorrow, we are utterly in love with our Lord, Jesus Christ. Through this experience we have found new meaning in the numerous descriptions of Him found in the Bible. He truly has been our rock from which we draw strength. He has been our river of living water from which we have received nourishment for our parched souls. He has been the refuge that we found peace and joy in though all around our world was crumbling. More than anything, he has been a father to us. A father who deeply loves, cares for, and understands us. Though all around us waves of sadness, grief, and fear grew great, our Savior stood to calm them.

Immediately after I miscarried I began to think about the parallel between our loss and the Father’s loss when He sent His son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for our sins. Perhaps now we have a minute understanding of what the words, “he gave his only son” truly mean. God willingly sent His son to die for sinners. We experienced the death of our child, but Christ’s death was infinitely more appalling. Unlike our child, Christ was the perfect God of the universe who suffered a cruel and unjust execution. We loved our baby so much, but our love could never compare to God’s love for His son. His love is without the blemish of sin; it is perfect. And yet the Bible tells us “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only son.” Praise the Lord for His sacrifice for sinners! If it was not for his willingness to sacrifice His son, we would be lost and without hope for redemption. Our sins would forever be held against us and would condemn us for eternity. It is because of the truth of God’s love for sinners like us, that Richard and I have been able to accept and find joy in this tragedy. Without it, there is no joy and there is no peace. We pray that if this letter finds you without an understanding of this truth you would search it out diligently. Read the gospel of John and pray that the Lord would open your eyes and lead you to repentance.

We would like to thank all of you who have so diligently prayed for us. Know that the Lord heard you and His Spirit ministered greatly to us (and still is) as a result of your prayers. The Lord has provided in so many ways, both physically and emotionally. My mother was able to be with us through the whole miscarriage which was a tremendous comfort and service. Many of you have not only prayed for us, but graciously sent cards, letters, flowers, gift cards, even money to help us get through this unexpected time. We are not worthy of such grace and thank you all from the bottom of our hearts. We love you and hope that this little glimpse into our hearts will encourage you as you seek to know the risen Lord.

Love always,

Richard and Jessalyn Hutto

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